bradd80 said:
holy fvck did this really happen??
that was the tipping point to make me find this site 10 years ago. I damn near worshiped that girl, not only did she do that, but she stood me up on my birthday. lol all i wanted on my birthday was the PRIVILEGE to take her out to eat, she couldn't even give me that.
I had it bad lol. But you live and learn. Never again though. But even as bad I have been put through growing up and spinning plates as I figured out what I was doing, I will never look at the entire female gender in a bad light. There are a few good apples in the bunch you just have to know what to look for and actually go out looking for them.
Just like I came here 10 years ago and when I came here that nght I was in a very very bad place emotionally, very very bad. I was in a hotel room i had been drinking and.. let's just say I was in a very bad place. Over a peice of ass. I had seriously hit the low point in my relationship life. This was before I did, made or sold anything. I was just a 18 year old kid. And there were guys here who told me look it's gonna be okay, the world is fvcked up but here are some tools, learn from us. That's why I still come here and why I don't like for the forum to get too far off of it's corse.. there are guys here that actually need help. like serious help and we are in a world that doesn't offer any. I can only imagine how many 40 year old men who have caught their wifes cheating on them only to be shamed by them and have a divorce where she gets half your **** and they come here looking for advice, at that point in thime the last thing that guy needs to be hearing is some brave new world motif type **** about how women are the scum of the earth and how men will all one day slaves to them. that man needs practical relationship advice. Probably for the first time ever in his life. At that point in time in his life he's open to listening to someone who knows what he does not know.
This place is so much like an AA meeting it's silly. It's no different than you get so caught up in the day to day AA politics, so and so has been the chair for a week straight that's not fair, so and so comes to the AA meetings but he doesn't really drink he just does drugs, etc.. that you forgot in the grand scheme of things why we are here in the first place. Everyone here is at a different level/stage of success but we all for the most part have a basic understanding of the way society works in regards to women and how to deal with women and that's very precious advice. I just hate to see this place turn into a misogynist playground because it will run people off.
It was becuase of this forum I could deal with a chick just flat out telling everyone I raped her, for the sole reason, that i did not want to talk to her and i rejected her advances, took it in full stride, no real long term drama or hate because of it.. i had some issues with my then GF now wife as far as sex but overall that **** just bounced right off and in the long run she ended up looking like the immature idiot that she was.
No one is saying the world is not fvcked up, i"m just saying, keep repeating it thread after thread without offering practical everyday advice, really isn't helping anyone and at the end of the day that's why we are here.