Let's say you open a girl at a bar or club. She's showing mild interest. She's not blowing you out or anything, but for some reason you're just not "clicking". You're putting effort into the conversation, but she kind of isn't.
At what point do you call it quits? Do you just keep going and escalating until she tells you to "get the **** away" or do you eject as soon as you feel like you're just not making a connection with her?
I will generally eject within the first 2-3 minutes if I don't feel like I'm making ground.
What I mean by "making ground" is when she starts to feel a little bit invested in the conversation. She is putting forth effort to talk to you, she's accepting your mild kino advances, etc. etc.
If she ISN'T really seeming that interested (i.e., looking around the room, not all that enthusiastic in the convo, giving short answers to your questions) then I will usually bail pretty fast.
So I guess my question is: am I doing the right thing by bailing? I don't really like to waste my time on girls that don't seem that interested. But at the same time, there is something to be said for persistence...
Another thing that I need to think about is WHY these girls are not really totally blowing me out, but at the same time not always showing interest. I think I need to think more about how I am presenting myself. Maybe it's ME who should be more interesting or extreme to them. This could lead to more interest or more blow-outs.
At what point do you call it quits? Do you just keep going and escalating until she tells you to "get the **** away" or do you eject as soon as you feel like you're just not making a connection with her?
I will generally eject within the first 2-3 minutes if I don't feel like I'm making ground.
What I mean by "making ground" is when she starts to feel a little bit invested in the conversation. She is putting forth effort to talk to you, she's accepting your mild kino advances, etc. etc.
If she ISN'T really seeming that interested (i.e., looking around the room, not all that enthusiastic in the convo, giving short answers to your questions) then I will usually bail pretty fast.
So I guess my question is: am I doing the right thing by bailing? I don't really like to waste my time on girls that don't seem that interested. But at the same time, there is something to be said for persistence...
Another thing that I need to think about is WHY these girls are not really totally blowing me out, but at the same time not always showing interest. I think I need to think more about how I am presenting myself. Maybe it's ME who should be more interesting or extreme to them. This could lead to more interest or more blow-outs.