I've known this girl casually for about 5 years. I've slept with her before, so I know there is an attraction there. But her and I have never dated or anything like that. She tends to always get involved with guys that don't care about her.
For the past 4 months her and I have been hooking up more...nothing sexual, just hanging out. But we have a HELL of a time when we are out! We are always joking, I get her laughing all the time, and there is something WAY deeper between us that her and I really have not had with anyone else.
She tells me I am the best thing in her life.
About 8 weeks ago, somehow in convo, feelings came up, and she admitted she really, really loves me. She tells me that when we are together there is something so natural about us holding hands. I admitted the same.
Normally, I would have made a move at this point, but she has a LOT of issues at the moment and going through a rough time...so I played it safe as I did not want this to be a "needy" thing, or whatever.
I sent her flowers to her new job, and she was gushing. Her phone got dis-connected for the next week (due to our schedules), so all we could do is email. She emails me almsot every day for a week about how beautiful the flowers are...how all the other girls were jealous...and she asks me if I am wooing her - becasue she really likes it. She tells me how she really did not know what "loving someone" really meant until now...and from her heart, she honestly can say she "loves me".
I have liked this girl for a while (we are both in our 30's), and she is a major hottie. Everything (actions and words) told me he was completely into me...
but...
All of a sudden she gets into some BS email argumetn with me over nothing.
We end up makiing up a few days later, and again, she tells me how miuch she loves me.
We were suppsoed to get together to see a movie a couple of weeks ago and she bails. Cancels the day of, as she has had a rough day at work and was really, really tired.
No prob.
Called her a couple of times, but no reply. 2 weeks go by.
I email her, and she replies by saying she has been working 10 days straight, and very tired. Apologizes for not calling etc. then as usual, tells me she loves me.
At this point, I am pretty confused becasue rather than BOTH actions and words showing how she felt, the next few days only become words, and her actions show the opposite.
When I try talking to her about it she blows me of completely. Says she "does not want to hurt me but she cannot offer any more than a friendship. Whatever decision I make she will respect."
I told her I really loved her.
She emailed me once after that, telling me she was looking for a new apartment...said, "I love you too" at the end.
huh???
So, now I am at a loss because I don't know if this girl is just really confused or if she was just playing. My gut tells me she really does like me...but why diss me off?
I have not responded to her last email (that was Sunday)...whould I even bother?
Thought about writing something like,
"If you love me...then why are you in such a hurry to push me away?"
Or is that a pu$$y thing to do? or should I just let this one go and let her figure it out for herself?
For the past 4 months her and I have been hooking up more...nothing sexual, just hanging out. But we have a HELL of a time when we are out! We are always joking, I get her laughing all the time, and there is something WAY deeper between us that her and I really have not had with anyone else.
She tells me I am the best thing in her life.
About 8 weeks ago, somehow in convo, feelings came up, and she admitted she really, really loves me. She tells me that when we are together there is something so natural about us holding hands. I admitted the same.
Normally, I would have made a move at this point, but she has a LOT of issues at the moment and going through a rough time...so I played it safe as I did not want this to be a "needy" thing, or whatever.
I sent her flowers to her new job, and she was gushing. Her phone got dis-connected for the next week (due to our schedules), so all we could do is email. She emails me almsot every day for a week about how beautiful the flowers are...how all the other girls were jealous...and she asks me if I am wooing her - becasue she really likes it. She tells me how she really did not know what "loving someone" really meant until now...and from her heart, she honestly can say she "loves me".
I have liked this girl for a while (we are both in our 30's), and she is a major hottie. Everything (actions and words) told me he was completely into me...
but...
All of a sudden she gets into some BS email argumetn with me over nothing.
We end up makiing up a few days later, and again, she tells me how miuch she loves me.
We were suppsoed to get together to see a movie a couple of weeks ago and she bails. Cancels the day of, as she has had a rough day at work and was really, really tired.
No prob.
Called her a couple of times, but no reply. 2 weeks go by.
I email her, and she replies by saying she has been working 10 days straight, and very tired. Apologizes for not calling etc. then as usual, tells me she loves me.
At this point, I am pretty confused becasue rather than BOTH actions and words showing how she felt, the next few days only become words, and her actions show the opposite.
When I try talking to her about it she blows me of completely. Says she "does not want to hurt me but she cannot offer any more than a friendship. Whatever decision I make she will respect."
I told her I really loved her.
She emailed me once after that, telling me she was looking for a new apartment...said, "I love you too" at the end.
huh???
So, now I am at a loss because I don't know if this girl is just really confused or if she was just playing. My gut tells me she really does like me...but why diss me off?
I have not responded to her last email (that was Sunday)...whould I even bother?
Thought about writing something like,
"If you love me...then why are you in such a hurry to push me away?"
Or is that a pu$$y thing to do? or should I just let this one go and let her figure it out for herself?