Threatening your ex with naked pictures

[Why_You]

Hey guys

What are your thoughts/experiences on threatening an ex with naked pictures you took of her. My ex dumped me like a cold heartless ***** after I stood by her through so much. She now has been acting however the hell she wants with complete disregard for my feelings. I just find it hard to believe that she can go along her merry way knowing I have photos I took with her consent while we were having sex. Either a complete slut who let many guys take photos or is oblivious to the real possibility that I will share the photos.

I don't plan on uploading them to any social media site, just wanna make her sweat. I have to add that I was a complete embarrassment during the final month of the relationship, never pleaded or begged for her but walked on egg shells and suppressed all my anger and resentment I grew for because of how **** she was treating me. Threatening her makes me feel human again tbh.

 

[Desdinova]

Doing something like that verifies that you are emotionally insecure. You'd be better off dumping the pictures and moving on to better women.

 

[bcolon]

Dude..don't even...

 

[Upside]

Don't. You're pissed. You went revenge. The best revenge is living well.

What will this prove?

 

[Why_You]

I feel as if I treated her so respectfully and with such maturity (unprecedented for me in a relationship) almost the entire time that this will give her a wake up call. Im honestly not doing this to remain in her life (I already work with her) I just want some bloody power back. I know living well and succeeding as well as hooking a fish better then her is the ultimate act of revenge and healing however, wouldn't this burn her and make her feel the anxiety and frustration I have felt for a while now?

 

[Jay Dee]

Boss hate to say it and it's not what you want to hear but it's your fault.

Why?

Because when she was testing you she needed a strong man to put her in her place, and 'standing by her' should not mean letting her get her way every time. If she's done something wrong, tell her she shouldn't do that. Say no once in a while if it's not reasonable or makes you uncomfortable.

But as you failed she took more liberty and now there's no turning back. You can't get revenge from what were your failings. For the next gal keep strong, remember the warning signs and react accordingly next time.

 

[Why_You]

Jay_Dee you know bro, I was never a b*tch. I remember telling her no and putting her in her place towards the end but where I fell short was I pretty much always made us work it out and wanted to leave the night without argument. I remember even saying to her that since Im always resolving and putting out the flames in our fights, she never learns to which she was crying saying how that's right but she wouldn't know what to do if I wasn't mature and closed our fights.

My two year relationship before this was the complete opposite. My ex would piss me off then Id ignore her and live my life until 42 missed calls later and a dozen begging voice messages later. I was just trying to be so mature and learn from my past relationships but what resulted was a disgraceful turn out by me.

I work with this b*tch so the issues are multiplied by 10. I must learn from all this. Again!!!!

 

[Desdinova]

wouldn't this burn her and make her feel the anxiety and frustration I have felt for a while now?

No, it will make things even more awkward at your work place. You already fvcked up by sticking your d1nk in the company ink, don't make it worse.

 

[shyguy32]

I recently got dumped and I had some "risque" photos of the girl and it would have devestated her if they ever got out.

I'm not in the revenge business, I just wanted to move on and get rid of everytjing . So I deleted the pictures. All you're doing is inviting more drama into your life if you were to do something like that. And I'm sure you would have more than one friend tell you how classless it would be.

 

[backseatjuan]

Ok situation. You threaten to whatever, her new man finds out, you get your knees broken. If I was her new man some naked pics wouldn't gross me out, and I would befriend you and get you loaded, then sadomize you and post video on youporngay dot com.

 

[PDubb75]

Guy did that to a girl in my HS (amazing pics, btw. Wish I still had them). She ended up successfully suing him and his family ended up moving because of all the crap that came out of it.

Even without that situation, sending those pics is something I would NEVER do. Ever. And the fact I never even considered it after my LTR ended a couple years back, I know the thought will never cross my mind.

 

[Aristippus]

Yeah. Never violate a person's trust like that. I say intimate pictures of someone who trusts that those pictures will stay private should NOT be used as a tool to exploit that person or hurt her later. Certain things should always be kept confidential and private.

Showing those pictures without her consent would be as wrong as putting a camera in the women's bathroom and then selling video of it. Those pictures were for YOUR and HER eyes only.

 

[Why_You]

It's unanimous - I won't spread the pics. I am a little surprised you all are so against the thought. I assumed some here would have not been so against it. I posted for a reason and that was to gain direction so thanks for helping me out.

Reading things like those pics were for your eyes only makes me feel weird thinking of when she'd state that I was for her only forever. Anyway, people say a lot of **** and having pics is something words can never be. You can call someone a cheater until sun down but if you have a pic of them cheating well, you get my drift :S

Sucks that she is my coworker. I just have such a strong drive to dominate her and belittle her.

 

[backseatjuan]

Wow, if she is your coworker that changes things. If she tries to get rid of you or makes your life tough, you can release pics to other coworkers to get back at her, or demand money and her resignation. But only if she tries to put you down, and get rid of you.

 

[Mike32ct]

Releasing those pics is evil, malicious, and very bad karma. You're better than that. Spiteful women do malicious things. Men don't. We have honor.

 

[StepItUp]

I am in some boat TS, I have been considering it too, or using it for blackmail.

I know how you feel to be honest and you have to make what ever decision suits you not what a forum says.

 

[SeymourCake]

Don't do it.

 

[zekko]

Since she's a co-worker, I actually think she could have some sort of sexual harassment complaint against you if you threaten her or put out those photos. I do know for certain harassment does not have to occur in the workplace to be considered harassment. If she complains about you to a supervisor, you could be in a bad place.

Regardless, I agree with the others - doing anything with those photos is wrong. Threatening her is not going to give you control back. Moving on and finding other women is what is going to give you real control.

It would be nice if every woman we were interested in returned it, and if every relationship always worked out. But that's not the way things are, and it's unrealistic to expect them to be. It didn't work out, this happens (more often than not), leave it be.

 

[Yo'Mama]

To express an alternative point of view: it's pretty cool when Ryan Philippe does this at the beginning of Cruel Intentions.

 

[PDubb75]

To express an alternative point of view: it's pretty cool when Ryan Philippe does this at the beginning of Cruel Intentions.

To continue that alternative point of view:

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