All related to narcissism
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As it was said, those people seem to be extremely narcissistic. This article is really interestinng, check it out!
The narcissist drains himself of mental energy in this process. This is why he has no energy left to dedicate to others. This fact as well as in their
his inability to love human beings many dimensions and facets – transform him into a mental recluse.
Why should people indulge the narcissist, divert time and energy, give him attention, love and adulation? The narcissist's answer is simple: because he is entitled to it. He feels that he deserves whatever he succeeds to extract from others and much more.
The narcissist is forced to use other people in order to feel that he exists.. It is trough their
eyes and through their
behaviour that he obtains proof of his uniqueness and grandeur. He is a habitual "people-junkie". With time, he comes to regard those around him as mere instruments of gratification, as two-dimensional cartoon figures with negligible lines in the script of his magnificent life.
He becomes unscrupulous, never bothered by the constant use he makes of his milieu, indifferent to the consequences of his actions, the damage and the pain that he inflicts on others and even the social condemnation and sanctions that he often has to endure. The narcissist blames others for his behaviour, accuses them of provoking him into his temper tantrums and believes firmly that "they" should be punished for their "misbehaviour".
Here comes the kicker:
The narcissist – wittingly or not – utilises people to buttress his self-image and sense of self-worth. As long and in as much as they are instrumental in achieving these goals – he holds them in high regard, they are valuable to him. He sees them only through this lens. This is a result of his inability to love humans: he lacks empathy, he thinks utility, and he reduces others to mere instruments.
These rapid alterations between absolute overvaluation (idealisation) to complete devaluation of others make long-term interpersonal relationships with the narcissist all but impossible.
The narcissist is portrayed as a monster, a ruthless and exploitative person. Yet, inside, the narcissist suffers from a chronic lack of confidence and is fundamentally dissatisfied. On the outside, his is a vicissitudinal nature. This is far from reflecting the barren landscape of misery and fears that constitutes his soul. His tumultuous behaviour covers up for a submissive, depressed interior.
If you were used (an old Source of Narcissistic Supply), first, get over the excitement of seeing her again. It may be flattering, perhaps sexually arousing. Try to overcome these feelings.
Then, simply ignore her. Don't bother to respond in any way to her offer to get together. If she talks to you – keep quiet, don't answer. If she calls you – listen politely and then say goodbye and hang up. Indifference is what the narcissist cannot stand. It indicates a lack of attention and interest that constitutes the kernel of negative NS (Narcissistic Supply).
Guys, Now we`ve the necessary weapons to disarm those people!
"Bring on"
Use reasoning brother - use reasoning!
