Backwardsman
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Well my NC started yesterday, i was seeing a girl for 3 months, she initiated everything (texts, calls, meeting up etc) but the issue was that she was still living with her ex.
Even on her girl nights out she would text me all night, always wanted to see me at work (we work together but in separate buildings). We were sexual, intimate kissing, fingering etc, but no sex (she cant have children and was going to the hospital a lot so i put it down to that).
It was no secret we was seeing each other apart from her ex, so felt things would sort themselves out...
Saturday just gone, i went shopping with my mates and for something to eat. she constanly sent me pics and texts and called me twice whilst i was out, then said i was being ignorant as i didnt answer her calls, just text her a couple of times - I told i had been busy etc and she replied with "k".
Totally ignored her message and went out that night. She text me the next day asking if i had a good night, i replied and she called me twice that night (sunday).
Over time i became less interested, especially last week, where i actually thought about it and decided to end it..
I asked for direction on monday where we were heading and she wouldnt give me a straight answer so i basically said that i am walking and not to talk anymore...
NC from both of us since and it feels good
Anyways, what i would like to advise is that if there is a possibility that you know that the end of the relationship is coming, YOU BE THE ONE TO END IT.
How many times do you see a guy end a relationship, not very many i bet. Its hard but puts you in control.
I do think most of relationship breakups are a fear of loss, a drug that you cant do without, the drug being your partner, and not actual love.
I am a smoker, put me in a room with cigarettes and i will be happy, take them all away and i will want them more as they are now gone - Like a drug, relationships are addictive and you become addicted to the other person.
Anyways, enough rambling, all of you doing this NC can easily do it, be strong and get your power back
Well my NC started yesterday, i was seeing a girl for 3 months, she initiated everything (texts, calls, meeting up etc) but the issue was that she was still living with her ex.
Even on her girl nights out she would text me all night, always wanted to see me at work (we work together but in separate buildings). We were sexual, intimate kissing, fingering etc, but no sex (she cant have children and was going to the hospital a lot so i put it down to that).
It was no secret we was seeing each other apart from her ex, so felt things would sort themselves out...
Saturday just gone, i went shopping with my mates and for something to eat. she constanly sent me pics and texts and called me twice whilst i was out, then said i was being ignorant as i didnt answer her calls, just text her a couple of times - I told i had been busy etc and she replied with "k".
Totally ignored her message and went out that night. She text me the next day asking if i had a good night, i replied and she called me twice that night (sunday).
Over time i became less interested, especially last week, where i actually thought about it and decided to end it..
I asked for direction on monday where we were heading and she wouldnt give me a straight answer so i basically said that i am walking and not to talk anymore...
NC from both of us since and it feels good
Anyways, what i would like to advise is that if there is a possibility that you know that the end of the relationship is coming, YOU BE THE ONE TO END IT.
How many times do you see a guy end a relationship, not very many i bet. Its hard but puts you in control.
I do think most of relationship breakups are a fear of loss, a drug that you cant do without, the drug being your partner, and not actual love.
I am a smoker, put me in a room with cigarettes and i will be happy, take them all away and i will want them more as they are now gone - Like a drug, relationships are addictive and you become addicted to the other person.
Anyways, enough rambling, all of you doing this NC can easily do it, be strong and get your power back