We spend so much time studying this site and others trying to figure out what the perfect technique is for dealing with women. We don different personas and try different games to woo the hearts of all the ladies. We put together opening sequences and string them together with other hard and fast techniques for creating a response and getting a reaction within her.
But where does all that get us? Is donning the age old cloak get us to where we want to be?
For those of you familiar with famous "biblical" stories, I present to you the story of David and Goliath. Most of us know it. We had it beat mercilessly into our heads as children with visual aids and lesson plans from our great Sunday School teachers. At least those of us who were made to go to church when we were little.
Even if you didn't, you've probably heard about it at least. It's the most classic story of the underdog we know. How a little runt of a boy took on the strongest and most powerful of the Phillistines (ancient people) and won!
The part that I want to focus on (and the reason why I bring that up) is this:
Before David went out to meet Goliath, the King of Israel donned him in him very own armour and give him a sword. Now, I don't know if any of you know anything about armor, but it's not light. It's not light at all. And a boy of David's size was in no physical shape to don that armor. So as he tried it on, it felt bulky, heavy, and weighed him down so much so that in the end he CAST IT OFF! He said that he couldn't face Goliath with something so burdensome and hailed for the people of his day to bring him his slingshot.
So, here was this little boy going out to meet this great warrior with nothing but shepherds clothes and a sling shot. Goliath laughed at him as he came out, but pretty soon he wasn't laughing at all. He had a rock buried in his skull and his head cut off WITH HIS OWN SWORD!
*******
Why do I bring up that story? Because we are all David's here. You came to this place looking for an answer to your problems with women because, let's face it, you're a scraggly little man who is CLUELESS with women! It's ok to admit that, because we've all been there.
So we come here, and what do we try to do?
We try to don the armor of the great Don Juans. We try to take up the sword of the great warrior and we go out with our lunky equipment and we get our asses handed to us!
ZING!
This Don Juan crap doesn't work! Because of this forum, I screwed everything up! I play games and it doesn't work! You don't know what you are talking about!
And in frustration, we give up...dead on our feet.
You need to shed off that armor and go out with your slingshot!
You don't need to bulk up and build muscle mass...you look fine! You could stand to lose a few pounds, so DO IT! Live healthy, eat healthy, and BE healthy! But don't expect to win with the ladies by beefing up.
You don't need to take on the "****y and funny" persona...you act fine! You could stand to loosen up, and be a bit more lighthearted, but don't expect to take ****y, funny material from a website and woo the women!
When are you going to wake up, and realize that the true Don Juans build their lives from the INSIDE, out?
When are you going to forget about all the ******d nonsense and focus your vision to the inside! That's what counts! That's what matters! If you don't have it on the inside, what makes you think you can just go into the ring and dance?
It's time for you to take what you've been given and USE IT TO WIN!
But, Vypros, I want a solution NOW.
Fine, don your armor and go out there and fall on your face. At least you have the spine to approach, I'll give you that. That puts you a cut above the rest right there. At least you are doing SOMETHING. That's respectful and you'll meet with results. But will it last?
Because if you don't fix the inside, what do you really have left when you lay your head on your pillow at night?
NOTHING.
So, I call for you today to drive your focus inward. Women don't need to be your life! Women are a byproduct, a result of your acheivements. They should NOT be your focus. You should NEVER go out with the mindset "I'm going to pick up a girl tonight."
No, the mindset you need to have is this:
"I'm going out and having fun. I'm going to live my life and the people who choose to join me are more than welcome if they can keep up with me!"
And then do it! Go out, get active, a go for it!
Is your career in the dumps? FIX THAT FIRST.
Is your finances out of control? FIX THAT FIRST.
Is your relationship with your family lacking? FIX THAT FIRST.
You don't have any friends? FIX THAT FIRST.
You don't have things going on? FIX THAT FIRST.
Build your life from the inside out. Find peace within yourself. Cast of your shame and fear. Get inside and face the things you are afraid to face, fix the things that need fixing, and go live! For the love of God, go live!
You want to learn how to talk to women? TALK TO EVERYONE. APPROACH EVERYONE. You're in the store, and you see a girl (or a guy), say something to them!
Become NATURALLY social, and you'll find that approaching girls is just a byproduct. You'll do it naturally, and in the process you'll meet a lot of new and interesting people.
Lighten up and have some fun. Forget the games, and fix your life!
But where does all that get us? Is donning the age old cloak get us to where we want to be?
For those of you familiar with famous "biblical" stories, I present to you the story of David and Goliath. Most of us know it. We had it beat mercilessly into our heads as children with visual aids and lesson plans from our great Sunday School teachers. At least those of us who were made to go to church when we were little.
Even if you didn't, you've probably heard about it at least. It's the most classic story of the underdog we know. How a little runt of a boy took on the strongest and most powerful of the Phillistines (ancient people) and won!
The part that I want to focus on (and the reason why I bring that up) is this:
Before David went out to meet Goliath, the King of Israel donned him in him very own armour and give him a sword. Now, I don't know if any of you know anything about armor, but it's not light. It's not light at all. And a boy of David's size was in no physical shape to don that armor. So as he tried it on, it felt bulky, heavy, and weighed him down so much so that in the end he CAST IT OFF! He said that he couldn't face Goliath with something so burdensome and hailed for the people of his day to bring him his slingshot.
So, here was this little boy going out to meet this great warrior with nothing but shepherds clothes and a sling shot. Goliath laughed at him as he came out, but pretty soon he wasn't laughing at all. He had a rock buried in his skull and his head cut off WITH HIS OWN SWORD!
*******
Why do I bring up that story? Because we are all David's here. You came to this place looking for an answer to your problems with women because, let's face it, you're a scraggly little man who is CLUELESS with women! It's ok to admit that, because we've all been there.
So we come here, and what do we try to do?
We try to don the armor of the great Don Juans. We try to take up the sword of the great warrior and we go out with our lunky equipment and we get our asses handed to us!
ZING!
This Don Juan crap doesn't work! Because of this forum, I screwed everything up! I play games and it doesn't work! You don't know what you are talking about!
And in frustration, we give up...dead on our feet.
You need to shed off that armor and go out with your slingshot!
You don't need to bulk up and build muscle mass...you look fine! You could stand to lose a few pounds, so DO IT! Live healthy, eat healthy, and BE healthy! But don't expect to win with the ladies by beefing up.
You don't need to take on the "****y and funny" persona...you act fine! You could stand to loosen up, and be a bit more lighthearted, but don't expect to take ****y, funny material from a website and woo the women!
When are you going to wake up, and realize that the true Don Juans build their lives from the INSIDE, out?
When are you going to forget about all the ******d nonsense and focus your vision to the inside! That's what counts! That's what matters! If you don't have it on the inside, what makes you think you can just go into the ring and dance?
It's time for you to take what you've been given and USE IT TO WIN!
But, Vypros, I want a solution NOW.
Fine, don your armor and go out there and fall on your face. At least you have the spine to approach, I'll give you that. That puts you a cut above the rest right there. At least you are doing SOMETHING. That's respectful and you'll meet with results. But will it last?
Because if you don't fix the inside, what do you really have left when you lay your head on your pillow at night?
NOTHING.
So, I call for you today to drive your focus inward. Women don't need to be your life! Women are a byproduct, a result of your acheivements. They should NOT be your focus. You should NEVER go out with the mindset "I'm going to pick up a girl tonight."
No, the mindset you need to have is this:
"I'm going out and having fun. I'm going to live my life and the people who choose to join me are more than welcome if they can keep up with me!"
And then do it! Go out, get active, a go for it!
Is your career in the dumps? FIX THAT FIRST.
Is your finances out of control? FIX THAT FIRST.
Is your relationship with your family lacking? FIX THAT FIRST.
You don't have any friends? FIX THAT FIRST.
You don't have things going on? FIX THAT FIRST.
Build your life from the inside out. Find peace within yourself. Cast of your shame and fear. Get inside and face the things you are afraid to face, fix the things that need fixing, and go live! For the love of God, go live!
You want to learn how to talk to women? TALK TO EVERYONE. APPROACH EVERYONE. You're in the store, and you see a girl (or a guy), say something to them!
Become NATURALLY social, and you'll find that approaching girls is just a byproduct. You'll do it naturally, and in the process you'll meet a lot of new and interesting people.
Lighten up and have some fun. Forget the games, and fix your life!
