So just suppose there is a girl who keeps talking too much out of a form of panic or unrest.
Suppose the girl is pressing you for answers to questions you don't want to answer because they come too soon or they are irrelevant or whatever.
And you want to deflect those questions, but your mind races for an answer. You can either shut up and just not respond, which is often the best I think, or you can try to give a non-answer the way you would if you were totally relaxed.
Because her question sparks your mind but if you are tensed up you may think you need to provide her with an answer to the direct question, which is not good(?).
She is whoring herself because she offers too much. You try to reign her in.
What do you do? Do you give in and answer some of those questions you don't want to answer? Do you shut up and anger her from time to time? Do you just tell her I want you to be quiet? <-- strong.
Answering her questions doesn't help her to shut up. It doesn't soothe her mind. She wants to know all these things and she doesn't need to know them. Can you just tell her that? How do you proceed?
At first, the girl may be a girl you want to have. Then, it may become a girl you do have, or have had. But it is still the same: when you don't respond to her questions, she might walk away and go talk to other men. Not always good. You lack the tools in your own mind and the mood perhaps to answer in full to her incessant asking. You want to provide answers that make her happy without giving in. You want to sparkle her mind with stuff she wants to know, but can't ask you for it. You want her to become dead afraid of the water, but not afraid to jump in. You want her to be dragged along into something more fascinating. Something that puts her mind to rest. Something that makes her happy in the sense that she is at ease now and her worrisome questions seem irrelevant because you've shown that there's more to them.
One example is, or was: "Where are you from" and you say "I don't think it matters where we're from, it matters more where we're going, don't you think?"
But sometimes you lack the acuity to get those answers out. You are grumpy. You are getting chagrined. You are not yet willing to show your full self to her. Let her know what you think of her completely. What to do then? The question answers itself, but still you are wondering how to proceed.
Do you shut up more, or shut up less?
When do you eat the cake? I guess the question is, when do you eat the cake?
When are you satisfied with the nature of the relationship you are getting with the girl. You can have sex, but it is after a bit of self-humiliation because you are getting into a kind of annoyance that requires you to accept a lot from her. I think rejecting her is better than trying to get her asap. She becomes more interesting to you and more horny when you put her off and make sure the relationship is up to par with what you want from life.
And the question translates into those questions. You can "have" her by answering those questions and she will appear to be interested but it is a lie, we know that. She doesn't know her own mind well enough to realize that having those questions answered won't make you attractive to her.
All worrisome thoughts perhaps. How do you soothe a man? How do you soothe a guy? No: how does a guy soothe? How does a woman soothe? You're a guy, so you can soothe yourself.
The thought remains: what to do when you feel you are being pressed for answers?
Suppose the girl is pressing you for answers to questions you don't want to answer because they come too soon or they are irrelevant or whatever.
And you want to deflect those questions, but your mind races for an answer. You can either shut up and just not respond, which is often the best I think, or you can try to give a non-answer the way you would if you were totally relaxed.
Because her question sparks your mind but if you are tensed up you may think you need to provide her with an answer to the direct question, which is not good(?).
She is whoring herself because she offers too much. You try to reign her in.
What do you do? Do you give in and answer some of those questions you don't want to answer? Do you shut up and anger her from time to time? Do you just tell her I want you to be quiet? <-- strong.
Answering her questions doesn't help her to shut up. It doesn't soothe her mind. She wants to know all these things and she doesn't need to know them. Can you just tell her that? How do you proceed?
At first, the girl may be a girl you want to have. Then, it may become a girl you do have, or have had. But it is still the same: when you don't respond to her questions, she might walk away and go talk to other men. Not always good. You lack the tools in your own mind and the mood perhaps to answer in full to her incessant asking. You want to provide answers that make her happy without giving in. You want to sparkle her mind with stuff she wants to know, but can't ask you for it. You want her to become dead afraid of the water, but not afraid to jump in. You want her to be dragged along into something more fascinating. Something that puts her mind to rest. Something that makes her happy in the sense that she is at ease now and her worrisome questions seem irrelevant because you've shown that there's more to them.
One example is, or was: "Where are you from" and you say "I don't think it matters where we're from, it matters more where we're going, don't you think?"
But sometimes you lack the acuity to get those answers out. You are grumpy. You are getting chagrined. You are not yet willing to show your full self to her. Let her know what you think of her completely. What to do then? The question answers itself, but still you are wondering how to proceed.
Do you shut up more, or shut up less?
When do you eat the cake? I guess the question is, when do you eat the cake?
When are you satisfied with the nature of the relationship you are getting with the girl. You can have sex, but it is after a bit of self-humiliation because you are getting into a kind of annoyance that requires you to accept a lot from her. I think rejecting her is better than trying to get her asap. She becomes more interesting to you and more horny when you put her off and make sure the relationship is up to par with what you want from life.
And the question translates into those questions. You can "have" her by answering those questions and she will appear to be interested but it is a lie, we know that. She doesn't know her own mind well enough to realize that having those questions answered won't make you attractive to her.
All worrisome thoughts perhaps. How do you soothe a man? How do you soothe a guy? No: how does a guy soothe? How does a woman soothe? You're a guy, so you can soothe yourself.
The thought remains: what to do when you feel you are being pressed for answers?
