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Don Juan
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Hello guys,
I have been with my girlfriend for about 6 months now..exclusively for about 4. She is totally in love with me and treats me like gold. She would do anythign I wanted and would travel both ends of the world for me. Although this is true, she has done something that I am having a hard time figuring out how to react to and makes me question everything.
Two weeks ago, she told me she had plans this saturday night with a co-worker. Turns out that one of her "male" coworkers had his date backout on tickets to see a play with him and he asked her to go instead as friends, which they are. She accepted. I have met this guy and he seems like a complete beta..but we all know his intentions..
When she told me this, I calmly told her I was not comfortable with the situation and asked her if she would be comfortable if I did that to her..She said no. She then says that she feels bad about backing out. I told her I am not going to tell her what to do but made it clear I wasn't pleased with it.
So she knows how I feel about it. In the last few days, I have gradually withdrawn my attention to her because it seems like she is going to follow through with this "harmless date". I feel she is starting to sense it and has questioned why I haven't called her, what I have been up to..yada yada yada.
In my opinion, going out with another man, regarding of how beta he is, is crossing my boundary. It shocks me that she is doing this because in all honesty, her interest level has been through the roof and I know she is in love with me. Through my 32 years or experience, I have also learned to judge a woman through her actions..and these actions contradict everything she has been doing since I have met her.
Although I feel this may just be one isolated incident, I feel like this is a true test of her loyalty toward me. I really don't think she would mess around with this dude...at the same time, she is going to do this knowing how I feel.
Now, I do love this girl. I know a lot of you are going to say walk away asap..and it is an option I am considering. I know it would devastate her.
My other option is to start slowing "going out with the friends more" and gradually letting her see other women interested in me, which they are.
So I am really waiting to see if she is going to follow through with this tomorrow night as she is sensing my pull away. I can tell she is starting to sweat. I feel like she should cancel with
Help me out guys...Thanks
I have been with my girlfriend for about 6 months now..exclusively for about 4. She is totally in love with me and treats me like gold. She would do anythign I wanted and would travel both ends of the world for me. Although this is true, she has done something that I am having a hard time figuring out how to react to and makes me question everything.
Two weeks ago, she told me she had plans this saturday night with a co-worker. Turns out that one of her "male" coworkers had his date backout on tickets to see a play with him and he asked her to go instead as friends, which they are. She accepted. I have met this guy and he seems like a complete beta..but we all know his intentions..
When she told me this, I calmly told her I was not comfortable with the situation and asked her if she would be comfortable if I did that to her..She said no. She then says that she feels bad about backing out. I told her I am not going to tell her what to do but made it clear I wasn't pleased with it.
So she knows how I feel about it. In the last few days, I have gradually withdrawn my attention to her because it seems like she is going to follow through with this "harmless date". I feel she is starting to sense it and has questioned why I haven't called her, what I have been up to..yada yada yada.
In my opinion, going out with another man, regarding of how beta he is, is crossing my boundary. It shocks me that she is doing this because in all honesty, her interest level has been through the roof and I know she is in love with me. Through my 32 years or experience, I have also learned to judge a woman through her actions..and these actions contradict everything she has been doing since I have met her.
Although I feel this may just be one isolated incident, I feel like this is a true test of her loyalty toward me. I really don't think she would mess around with this dude...at the same time, she is going to do this knowing how I feel.
Now, I do love this girl. I know a lot of you are going to say walk away asap..and it is an option I am considering. I know it would devastate her.
My other option is to start slowing "going out with the friends more" and gradually letting her see other women interested in me, which they are.
So I am really waiting to see if she is going to follow through with this tomorrow night as she is sensing my pull away. I can tell she is starting to sweat. I feel like she should cancel with
Help me out guys...Thanks