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Snow's 2007/2008 Bootcamp Journal

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Snow Plowman said:
- I'm going to go out 5 times a week
- I'm going to start off approaching 15 sets a day

I'll do the following until I feel I've become fully comfortable doing each:
1. I'll practice opening conversations
2. I'll practice getting attraction
3. I'll practice holding conversation longer and longer (Atleast up to 30 minutes, but aiming for an hour)
4. I'll practice getting #s and practicing # game
5. I'll practice getting day2s
6. I'll practice trying to pull girls home
Wanted to add a little update on this. At some point or another I'm going to be doing calibration missions within the whole process. I will usually try these things for about a month.

Calibration Missions
1. Try for the kiss every time
2. Try for the # everytime (After awhile every set I'll try to #close no matter what)
3. Try for the venue change everytime

If I think of anything else, then I'll add it in.
 

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3-19-07

I'm a little disappointed I didn't cold approach any new sets today. I was so sick that I rushed home and slept for 6 hours. I felt like I was dieing. My whole body was shaky and everything. Funny thing is I was on the bus kind of slouched over and I noticed this hb looking directly at me just screaming "Open me!" but I was not going to risk passing out just to try and talk to a girl.
 

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Well I haven't started the mission yet because its kind of hard going back to the very beginning. But I plan on pushing myself to do it. But that isn't to say I haven't been interacting with women...

Right now I'm fiending to approach I'm highly addicted to it. The whole female energy that I feel is just great! So what have I been up too...I'm more delusional than ever, my frame control is getting better, I'm a fuking loose cannon I sometimes don't know what I'll be doing next.

Highlights
- I see this hb that I know on the street she is all happy to see me. She actually acted like me and her go out, she was all submissive and when I gave her a hug she was all cuddly. She introduced me to her mom and her little brother.

- This other hb with a massive ass #closes me. (Yes she asked for me contact info) I was just hanging out all unreactive... at one point she goes
Hb: Do you like me?
SP: of course (In a playful way)

I realize she is a little pissed that I didn't escalate and close her because she is always kinoing me and I never chase her like all the other guys.

- This group (2hbs 1guy) was watching me talk to this girl...
SP: WTF are you cooking today?
Hb:blahblah
SP: Ok you and your sister are going to cook me some food
Hb: What do you want?
SP: blah blah
Hb: Ok I'll order some
SP: O hell no your going to make it, then after that I'm going to fuk both of you...Are you a screamer? Yea you look like a screamer. Which condom do you want me to use trojan or durex? *I eject*

At this time I go and open this other chick for like two minutes then I come back to the hb. At this time were on the train

SP: That guy over there look like he wants to fuk you...
Hb: *smiling* he looks like he has a little dik
SP: hahaha...O No! that guy over there is perfect for you
Hb: OMG no

I eject

- In the gym by the treadmills, at this time I was talking between two different hbs. HB1 and HB2

SP: Ok here I am in the gym time to get buff...
Hb1: Can you lift that
SP: Maybe...argh...
HB1: Stop playing
SP: haha I'm not I can't lift it haha
HB1 *holding my hand*
SP: OMG there goes your bf on the treadmill working up a sweat for you
HB1: hahahaha thats your bf
SP: Not at all where is he taking you today? A fine dine restuarant? A walk in the park? Golf? A movie at his place?
Hb1: haha
SP: Yall are going to have hot and sweaty sex

The kid then actually points at her while some song is playing. We both laugh.

SP: I told you he loved you...*I walk to hb2*

SP: OMG is that your fuk face?
HB2: haha
SP: You was looking like this...
HB2: haha omg you looked like....
SP: You look like a screamer are you?
HB2: no
SP: So you do light moans like...
HB2: No
SP: OMG so your one of those girls where every 5 seconds I have to see if your still alive
Hb2: haha...no... (Starts talking about the sex she had last time)
SP: Hell yea last night was a work out, I can't believe we jumped off the bed and landed on your couch...
HB2: What?
SP: Its ok it was some good hot sweaty sex
HB2: ill no I don't like sticky hot sweaty sex I like when its cool.

- Some hb was throwing a sh!t test at me can't remember what.
SP: What!? I'll pull my dik out and knock you right over the head
Hb: haha blah blah
SP: What? (I scream so everyone can hear) Everyone close your eyes I'm about to wipe something out and knock this young lady with the giant.
Hb: haha (Sh!t test)
SP: Damn I'll do it when we get home because all these girls might see the sexiest dik ever and try and grab it...


-Told this girl my dik would hit her in the chin. An throughout the whole interaction I'd take one finger and hit her chin acting like my finger was my dik

- This hb who likes me she was standing in front of me while I talk to a friend and this hb was just rocking her ass right into my dik. For a good 2 minutes she was basically dry humping me. She has a bf so I never really tried to mess with her. She also #closed me.

- This hbpunk girl comes running and opening me telling me about how her team is #1 in the state. I gave her a big hug and basically made her day 100 times better. I realized this is one of the only girls who I find have true talent. As far as I can see she is a great artist and a great leader. She is also adventurous. I once joked with her about making a portrait of me naked. This girl has the best personality out of all the girls I've spoken too.

- Girl complains that I don't talk to her no more...

- Seen a girl who I haven't seen in years! She didn't even recognize me I've done a complete 180 change. I look so different she was so surprised and shock that she screamed in shock that it was me.

Overall there is so many subtle things I'm learning and calibration. I talk a lot of non sense that always seems to get the girls wanting more. Also lately every been directing the energy of all my interactions. If I'm in the area you better be ready for a fun time. I really been having so much fun that I didn't even start my mission. (I'm going too soon)

Also girls are constantly kinoing me. I'm starting to do a lot of takeaways and girls are pulling me in. If I eject the girl grabs me and there begging for me to stay. My calibration is getting better and better. What I need to start doing more of is Qualifying. Qualification is very important and I don't do it too often. This is getting almost too fun and I love doing wild and crazy openers. Today I act like I was a news crew and ran a opinion opener. I had a book and acted like it was a camera and I was basically roleplaying for a bit. I don't even know what will happen next I just do it.
 

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Been awhile since I posted in my approach journal. It really drains me trying to remember and type up these FRS. I've been on some next stuff, Pickup wise all this learning to open, learning to attract seems like I'm going backwards.

The thing is I want to actually go through learning the whole process. I don't just want to get to the point where I get a few girls I want to be awesome with women that way at anywhere and anytime I can pickup.

The way that I know I was going backwards is when I was focusing on skill a bit too much and not actually trying to lay. This happened a few times...

- Hb who has a bf, gives a lot of congruency test. She asks me where I live and says she'll do my hair at my house. Me focusing on the skill tell her to bring her sister. Hb says no she'll come by herself. I then realize later it was just her excuse to get to my house so we can fuk. She pinches my ass, always jumps on my back, etc.

- HB is speaking to me and I'm really vibing, (Probably best vibing ever) she was getting really horny, but I didn't close. She later on asks me if I need a Fukbuddy I told her not right now. (This came up after telling her how I was going to be a amatuer porn director)

-Three women tried to #close me but at the time I wasn't taking or giving out #s so they basically IM closed me.

-HB tries to isolate me in the stairwell, I don't take the bait. Forget what I had to do

-I'm doing Sexual FAPs on this HB. Which then turns into roleplaying and me telling her how I'd make her give me head, how I'll unload on her face, etc. Told her how people with big hands have big diks, she wants me to prove it. An I don't, realized I could've took her in the bathroom and hit it. (By far one of my best interactions)

As you can see I've passed up many things because I wanted to gain more skills. At those times I should've kept it going and just end up fuking those girls. This is why the past month I've been going hardcore on the kino. The fuking CLAW comes out and just rips up the place.

Instead of starting from square one again I'm thinking of not ejecting unless I get a #close, kiss close, or Sex. I'm going to kino hardcore.

"Get blown or Get Blown out" - Bish

I'll probably post back in a little while, been having my little adventures. (Outside of PU) Will see how this goes, it should be fun.
 

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The end...

I don't have time updating this, so I'm just going to stop posting it... I'll just give a final post of where I'm at.

Basically now all I focus on is conveying my personality since all this is really resulting in you conveying your personality. Girl's are attracted to high value people so I convey that personality trait. Girls like alpha males so I convey domiance, etc, etc. Now don't get me wrong I still work on the aspect of picking up to convey social skills and steer the interaction where I want to.

As a result...I'm more chilled than before and more comfortable. I'm also noticing that women are constantly in proxmity of me and you can just tell they are waiting for me to talk to them.

The biggest thing though is that I'm not thinking about anything but the present moment and what is happening in the interaction. I'm not paying attention to what the girl is thinking, just the mood she is in. This caused me to be able to focus on other things that I never used to think about.

Highlights: Let me run through this real quick.
- My friends gf was ignoring him and I noticed she was holding strong EC with me. I ended up not looking at her for the rest of the trip because thats my friend and I would never take his girl from him.

- Me and a few naturals are getting girls to go on a trip that way when we go it will be like 5 guys (all are decent) and a bunch of girls. An since we are the ones that told them to come along they'll end up staying with us...so you know...

- This chode that I know hangs out with this girl and he is not fuking her. It pissed me off so much that I opened her with "Hey do is your pusvy shaved or does it have the little landing strip." and then I plowed. Later on in the interaction I was talking about a porn star and she went on the website with her phone. It was on before I even opened my mouth.

- This girl touches my ass and walks by. So I walk by her and slapped her ass hard. (Expression was priceless)

- A bit of miscalibration on my part here...Me and this girl was just vibing and having fun. I then jokingly tell her some kid is perfect for her and I start joking around. She then quietly indicates she wants me. I didn't pickup on it at first so I kept on joking, but then I remembered and to blow out this chode I told her that the chode was perfect for her, which she then points at me. I miscalibrate by breaking rapport and saying she wouldn't be able to handle me, when its obvious I did enough playing around with her and it was time to step it up.

- CLAWED a few girls here and there...this is powerful, one girl when I CLAWED her in was saying stuff back to me that she once heard me say to her friend. Saying "Am I cooking for her?" and I played along for a bit, this girl I purposely didn't close because a friend wanted to talk to her, but me and her always have this little sub-communication of "If me and you were in a room along together, then there would be some wild sex."

Well thats about it...its been about five days since I started just focusing on conveying my personality.

The mind set and frame that I walk around with and that is constantly in my head is...
"I am a dominant high value person who is entitled to everything and anything because of my identity. I'm unique and that is why I'm authentic."
 

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Hehe nice,

Does telegraphing all that interest eg: telling her you'll make her give you head and unload all over her face, and all the sex talk etc..., does that work?

Never tried being so blatant. I'll give it a shot this week, if i get slapped, I'm coming for your ass!

Nice work, sad to see you stop, but the whole working on your identity thing is a great idea.

Good luck,

-Lust
 

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Update: I just can't get enough

So maybe I'll pop in here an there, one thing I must say is that I haven't been practicing like how I used to an I'm starting to fall back into my old ways. My identity an everything. I'm starting to be more reactive again an thinking looks matter, the social conditioning is crawling back in.

I did one approach today an that's only because I seen a really hot woman. I mean her ass was one of the best I've seen in a very long time an you know what...I got blown out in less than 30 seconds. :rockon: Chick was saying I'm too young. The past 4-5 women I've approached all said I was too young in less than 30 seconds.

My whole inner game I realize is crumbling, I'm not longer getting the results I used to be getting, I just passed up a lay like 2 weeks ago.

But I did manage to talk to this one girl for about 30-40 minutes an then later two girls for about an hour or so. An also me an this girl were basically all on each other early in the day, but I gave up on that because thats the same girl who I could have laid one day (She invited me over) an I declined to go to class. I don't even want to try anything anymore.

Basically my inner game which was my heart an strength is now crumbling an I'm noticing myself again getting stuck in my head, getting Approach aniexty. (Not in set but right after I'm shaking) My voice is done, frame control blows, I'm not holding court no more. Overall I was thinking of never approaching again. (This is an all time low) But who knows maybe I'll do something.
 

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Lust said:
Hehe nice,

Does telegraphing all that interest eg: telling her you'll make her give you head and unload all over her face, and all the sex talk etc..., does that work?

Never tried being so blatant. I'll give it a shot this week, if i get slapped, I'm coming for your ass!

Nice work, sad to see you stop, but the whole working on your identity thing is a great idea.

Good luck,

-Lust
Not really because they can never tell if I'm serious or not. An some of them see me say it to other girls so they realize that's just who I am. I may start again but I don't know its hard to start back this, today I really wasn't feeling it but I did manage to do one approach only because the girl was super hot.
 

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It's amazing how you can attract all these women seemingly without even trying anymore. You're a skinny guy too, which kinda surprises me based on the interactions. There has to be more than just technique. What do you look like? Do you have any pics?

I have a hard time approaching because I constantly worry about how I look at the time. It prevents me from doing a lot.
 

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wow I had almost forgot about this journal. Part of me what's to start back up a journal, but me having to write it all out is rather tiring. Who knows though.

It's a mixture of reason why I was able to get such great attraction.
1. Social Proof - I was highly social proofed. In school I'd have girls being my bodyguard, I'd have my wives, and I'd have my sugar mommas. (mainly the hot staff) Everywhere I went I was with different women and they were always after me. It made me look high value, so many women that I never even spoke to were highly attracted.

2. Frequent Venues - I frequented a few places around there. I got free food from the fish market, and at one of my favorite sandwich stores, I had the whole staff attracted to me. I befriended all the guys who worked there, including the manager. So once in awhile I'd get free things. Most of the time I'd bring girls there just to create some jealousy/social proof between the women staff (3-4 of them) and the girl's I brought.

3. I was authentic - My belief was that I have the greatest life and everything I do is cool no matter how mundane it seemed. I'd always talk and do what I wanted to do. To the point where I was very delusional. I realized this when one girl would kind of look at me like "ok..." because I just went off spitting like 1 story and C&F. (Comes out naturally)

4. Looked beyond the lines - When it came to my verbal skills I always focused on what each technique conveyed, why it was used, etc. I'd categorize them and use them whenever I felt like. I had a basic structure on how I'd do the PUs but I never consciously got caught up on it. Plus since I had so much attraction now from women I never really had to do much attraction stuff, I could just go in vibe and escalate.

5. "The world is my PU lab" - A frame I've learned from some top guys. (Due to me not keeping this frame, I've lost my drive and consistency of practicing, who knows I just might start up again) This was crucial because everything I did was just a social experiment. Me kinoing early to see what would happen. Being over the top with sexual comments and seeing how far I could push it. Everything was basically an experiment. This helpped me alot because I was never focused on getting the girl, I was focused on gaining the skill and just having fun trying new things

6. Unreactive - Her responses had no affect on who I was. I wasn't reacting to her responses. If she'd laugh at my jokes I didn't care, if she did, I still didn't care. I was doing everything as a way for me to have fun because I just loved having fun.

7. Strong Frames - Girls got sucked into my reality and took on my frame. My frame was mostly based off of "Fun" if you weren't having fun then don't talk to me. Also sex isn't a nasty thing so if you can't talk freely about sex then I don't want to talk to you. (This is why I used alot of sexual inneundo and many women told me about many sexual things they'd never tell the average man)

Overall when people seen me, they saw this "High value, dominant guy, who knew he was "Unique" and he so he knew his life was fascinating and cool."

My verbal game helpped me, but it was the non-verbals that really got me the girls. I always knew I was conveying something so I'd always make sure I conveyed high value because thats what chicks are attracted too. At the same time I knew who I was, I was dominant, and I stood out.

Yes, I'm skinny and the reason it doesn't seem that way is because you can't see me...:woo:...seriously though it was because I never focused on anything but my personality. When it came to women nothing matter but my personality and what I was conveying. It never occured to me that my looks/body type/money/etc would play a roll.

The reason I was very confident was because of my Identity. (Thx RSD) I knew who I was on a core level. I knew I was unique and there was only one me, no one has my experiences. When I realized all this I became super confident that it didn't matter what superficial thing I had because it didn't matter.

Sometimes I'd be dressed sh!tty, or bad breath, or dedorant starting to lose its affect, or pimples all over my face. But it didn't matter at all.

Now I take care of myself because I'm into that stuff now, it's like one of my hobbies to take care of myself and dress well.

The only good thing I had back then was that I had height (6'1) then later on about april (not really recorded in this journal) I started dressing well.

The thing about it is you have to realize everything BESIDES you're personality DOESN"T MATTER. You should just be focusing on convey your personality with passion. Doing things you actually want to do, and saying whatever you feel like. (So longs you're not stepping over your game, example - ASD walls, triggering autopilots, qualifying yourself, trying to impress)

There were times when I had my lip peeling or stuff on my face, and I'd never know and if they pointed it out, I didn't care.

Basically there is more than the technique...It's who I am, I'm conveying my personality and showing her my "Authentic" self.

The way to think about it is...picture a girl wanting to see your personality but she gets pissed because your changing who you are because you're reacting to her. Really she wants you to just show you're real personality not change yourself to be somebody you think she'd want.
 

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Props Man, Otha Den On Point N A Few Others Dat I Posted In Theirs I Have To Give U Da Most Props Fo Actually Gettin At It N Changed Fo Da Betta. Im Also Like Urself Dat I Challenge Myself Everyday To Get Betta In Life.

If U Checked My New Topic Im Also Doin An Approach Journal N My Goal Is To Do 500 Approaches B4 Da Summer Is Over. I Used To Have Serious Game When I Was A Teenager But Gettin Into Realationships Kind Of Stops All Of Dat. Just Broke Up A Month Ago So Now Im Bac In Da Game. I See Dat U Also Live In Nyc N I Live In Jamaica Queenz So If U In Need Of A Wingman Who Doesnt Really Care Bout Rejection N Will Holla Den Pm Me So We Can Do Sumthin N Holla At These Girls Iight. Holla Early
 

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Wow everything cool Snow said you ruined it Young,lol. I got to say that was a pretty badass read man, I am going to try to push the envelope more now lots more kino and actually try some sexual questions thanks man and keep it up I would like to see more from you man. Good luck on whatever you do and later.
 

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j0n024 said:
Wow everything cool Snow said you ruined it Young,lol. I got to say that was a pretty badass read man, I am going to try to push the envelope more now lots more kino and actually try some sexual questions thanks man and keep it up I would like to see more from you man. Good luck on whatever you do and later.
Yea it was some fun ****, even though I stopped posting the stuff that happened up on here...there were crazier and more fun stuff that happened that I never posted. But I did really enjoy typing it up because it gave me something to look back on to see how far I've come.

Who knows though, I might start posting up again, but I'm not too sure yet. All I know is 08 is going to be a great year :cheer: :cheer: :cheer:
 

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Damn I missed this journal when it was active. Some nice C&F stuff, real extreme, I gotta try my hand with it, but I gotta make sure Im congruent 1st off, give us an update sometime man.
 

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This was the first approach jurnal I read and I like it a lot , now I have a lot more confidence and 2008 is gone be the year when I start taking initiative , maybe I'll start my own blog , who knows . Anyway I wish u good luck and a Happy New Year !
 

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UPDATE

I have a new plan that I've written up for myself and I just might record all my field reports.

A brief Overview of what I'm going to be doing...

- I'll be out there 5-6 days a week so long it's not RAINING :mad: (Yep today it's raining)
- Each month I'll focus on one specific thing

Basically what I'm kind of doing is going back to the basics and building each part of my game very thoroughly, which is why I'll be spending a month working on a specific part of my game, of course I will stay in interactions and push it all the way as normal, but that's not my focus.

Month of February Goal
Opening
Week 1: Open sets
Week 2: Tryout & Test out different openers
Week 3: Opening different kinds of sets (Ex. Big groups, mixed sets, single sets, 2sets, etc)
Week 4: Opening special kinds of sets (Ex. Working girls, crowded trains, sets that are eating, etc)

By the end of this month I should have a GREAT understanding of all situations and aspects of starting conversations, that way I can open sets anywhere at anytime.

As the months go by I will reveal the Goal for that month. Right now I'm 50/50 as far as me actually recording everything because I will be busy and have a hard time recording everything. (Well see how it pans out)

The reason why I'm so pumped about this and actually going through this monthly training (All the goals add up to about 4 Years and One extra year based on balancing my life again) is because I got a sh!tload of time on my hands.

My Setup is so SEXY that it screams sarging
- I'm going to school right in an area where many PUAs go to sarge and is TARGET RICH 24/7. I've been there at night and day and there always seems to be hot girls.
- School lunch break is an hour so it's a nice warm up
- After school I can cross the street and say hi to 50 women easily (Thats how much sets is out there)
- Certain days I will have to go to other areas for school and I can approach more
- Days that I'm off I can do everything I need to do in my life and also sarge

When I add it all up I have about
- 3-5 Hours on school days
- 3-7 hours on non school days (Depending on if I have to do schools stuff)

I have so much time because I'll be doing school work so much that I won't have time for a job and so I can easily sarge and do other stuff until I get out of school.

I'm pumped up for this, already went out the past 3 days and so I'm not to mad about not being able to go out today. This is also the only month I currently know of that I don't have school so I can easily test out a sh!tload of things.

Will post back tomorrow when I go out...

Edit - Hopefully if it stops raining I'll go out and try to get an hour or two in lol...
 

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Confused...?

I want to give a bit of background on a problem I've had for a long time. I have what is call a frame snapback, in this case its when you've had some success in this area and to keep that success you basically stop offering value to the world.

The whole reason I started this was because I went out 4-5 days previously and I act like I'm "TOO COOL FOR SCHOOL"
- Don't pay attention to no one
- Don't speak to no one
- In my own reality, just laughing at funny **** I see or just singing
- People try to talk to me and I pay no attention to them
- Women try to look at me and I pay no attention

I like to think of myself as the selfish guy who doesn't want to give women the monumental experience. I get open a lot, I get AIs like crazy, if I just followed through I'd be pulling more pu$$y than I can handle, but I don't see sex as something for me, its something I give to the girl and at this point I've been holding my value to myself and not offering it.

Before yesterday I used to think...
1. Do I have AA? Because why am I not approaching like I used too
2. Do I think I'm going to get blown out? Because why am I not approaching
3. Am I putting women on a pedestal and thinking I don't deserve them?
4. Is this snapback causing me not to want to offer value to the world like usual? Because I'm not doing what I know I should be doing
5. Am I so selfish that I actually am not giving value to no one?

The questions went on and on, and they stopped that same day...this is how it went.

Take the bus I'm not offering sh!t to no one. Wait and take the train and I'm not offering sh!t again. I feel like a d!ck because I know and see every so often that chicks want me to open them but I'm just chillin.

UNTIL...a chick sits by me on the train. Now I'm still in my "I'm too cool for school" BS and I felt strong female energy coming from that chick. I didn't see her nor look at her I just had a feeling that she was cute. For a good 5mins I'm paying no attention to this chick until I notice everybody is looking in my direction. So I'm thinking "WTF let me look and see wtf there looking at..."

OMG...My reality got slapped back into population I reacted when I see her, it was like "O SH!T that is why everyone is looking".

SOLID 10

I can honestly say if anyone rated her lower than a 9 they must be gay, I couldn't understand how a chick could look so hot and this is the first time I ever acted like this in about a year. From my perspective I didn't see no flaw and she was my IDEAL girl...dressed to the 10s, gorgeous overall.

After I realized her, my stop had came up and I transfered trains...now that I think about it I should've stayed on that train and talk to her. So anyway I'm on this new train and I'm cracking up because of how I reacted and I've never moved out my own reality just like that. Everyone is looking as I'm cracking the hell up and then I start questioning myself as stated above.

Now this is the part where I was seriously confused as to what my game is:
- A few chicks I'd just look at and they'd smile and already be opened
- Almost every chick notices that I ooze high value and I come off overqualified and so many are intimidated (I thought this was only back in high school but I realizing it's happening in daygame too)

How did I find this all out? The one and only set that I actually opened that didn't see me so I knew there would be no attraction when I verbally opened as opposed to all the other chicks who all I had to do was look at her and they'd open.

The Set - It was a 2set with 2 hb8s walking down the block and I was behind them

I walked up a bit faster saying I'd have to open because I need to get some questions answered. So I tap Hb1...

Hb1: OMG you scared me...
*HB1 & Hb2 Eye code "Who is this guy"*
Me: I need to know something which is better subway or quiznos? (I'm so used to going direct but I wanted to test something totally new)
Hb1: Quiznos
Me: Really...like what is a good sandwich there
Hb1: I don't know (WTF? lol)
Me: OMG you don't know, but you picked quiznos
*HB1 & HB2 eye code "he's cool"*
*Hb1 & Hb2 laughs*
*I kino HB2*
Me: What about you which is better
Hb2: Quiznos
Hb1: I'm not sure which sandwich is good maybe the one where you dip gravy in
Me: O ok (Something I said before but can't remember)
HB1: That's all you wanted? (She said it like if she was saying "WTF pick me up I want you")

At this point I go back into my BS "too cool for school" and ignore the fact that she said that and just walk off. Take the train, train, and bus. Same BS of girls looking hoping I talk to them I just chill in my own little world.

Now though I'm starting to feel bad for them because they want me to talk to them so bad but I'm realizing I'm becoming more selfish.

What did I learn about myself based on that one set:
- I have NO AA. When I say NONE I don't feel anything
- My game is purely based on my Identity. My voice is expressive, My eye contact is intense, (Only in set, I don't look at no one in general) body language is tight, (Not needy)
- In my own reality/Unreactive/Indifferent
- Women are laughing because I'm high value not because of my content (I didn't say anything funny)

What did I learn about the girls based on the set:
- HB1 & Hb2 got hit like a hurricane because I appeared out of no where (This usually always happens in day game especially when I'm coming up behind them, but I don't care about that lol)
- HB1 was trying real hard to find a good sandwich as a way to keep me interested in talking to them. In a way she was qualifying and reacting to me
- Hb2 approved on HB1 talking to me and sort of just listened
- HB1 was attracted from the start as she was smiling and giggling because she was in the presence of a high value guy
- HB1 wanted me to game her by asking "That all you wanted?"

As short as the whole interaction went it fuking blew open hardcore which drew a huge shift, because I remember back in summer time going to a RSD free workshop and a guy I spoke too was telling me how I exude high value and unreactive frames.

He also stated that it would be hard for me to actually game in the traditional sense and its now that I'm actually noticing it. I've worked so hard on my whole identity that I really could drop majority of the outer game stuff that I used to do when I first made this journal.

But will see what happens Monday. (Sunday's are my stay in days)

My biggest problem is this whole frame snapback of thinking I'm too cool for everyone and not wanting to interact with anyone. Only people who get to see my personality to its fullest is people in my family my friends and anyone who knows those people.

For example a MILF who knows my mother everytime she sees me she goes "OMG!!! look at you" and is all giggly and flirting with me lol.
 

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To me, it seems like you are not pleased with chasing 7-8s so I guess the only logical thing is to always look for 9s and 10s. Like Mystery said of FMAC, the 'Find' is the hardest part...

Also that whole 'I'm giving the girl something when we have sex' thing... HAHAHAHA. If that's your frame then i would be pretty unmotivated to approach as well. For me, I approach because I get something out of what I do, I get what I want. If sex is not even yours but something you give to the chick well...damn. I would reframe that asap but thats just me
 
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