Scars
Master Don Juan
Me and this girl have been dating for about 4 months (officially) and were talking and pretty much exclusive with each other for a good 6 months before that. So me and this girl have a lot of history together and we have been through a lot. We both love each other, she tells me everyday, but lately she has been going down hill. She found out from her mom that she might be moving, it's still a few months away but it has taken a toll on her mental state. She has become really depressed and is being distance with her best friends, and even ME. She claims its because she just doesn't want to get too attached because she knows it will hurt more when she leaves. Lately she's been hanging with one of her guy friends a lot, it doesn't bother me. But what does bother me is the people she is hanging around are a bad influence. She's drinking and smoking now because she is depressed, she's only doing it to hide from everything that is going on. Last night I heard from one of her friends that she started crying last night, and was rambling on about our relationship and how she misses her best friend. I've had numerous talks to her about it. I've told her I feel like she is going down hill, I tell her I want my old girlfriend back, and try to explain to her how much she has changed lately. All she is telling me is that she is sorry. She isn't a girl much for drama, but when I try to have these talks with her she is being real short with me. I don't know what to make of it. When she isn't depressed and isn't doing all this stupid stuff she really is the ideal girl. When I met her, she was the chillest girl ever. No drama. Never jealous. Gave me tons of freedom. Trusted me always. Was the sweetest nicest, caring person. Never smoked, never drank, never did drugs. She was everything that I wasn't. I actually looked up to her and admired her for her innocence. Honestly, that was one of the biggest reasons I liked her so much. I know she loves me, and she is hurting just as much as I am right now. But I really don't know what to do. Her moving is still not even for sure. It's a maybe. But it is like ****ing with her head mentally. Even if she did move, I honestly believe she is the girl I was meant to be with. I really love her, and she loves me. She actually wants me to move with her, but I'm not mentally or financially ready for it right now. It wouldn't work. I would be willing to try a LDR with her but right now, its not even about her moving.. it's just the way she has been acting lately. I've tried to talk to her about it, I've analyzed and looked at it from her perspective as well. I completely understand where she is coming from. It's hard for us both, I've tried talking to her, but lately I haven't seen much of a change. I really don't know what to do.