OK guys I think there must be something very wrong with me. This chick, a former 1-itis, and I were trying to figure out why it was so difficult for us to be friends blah blah blah. I have given up hop with this one and have in mind nexted her but what she said to me really hit me hard.
She said that she didn't enjoy my company as much as she did with other people. She said that she felt uncomfortable and gets a little bored when we hang out. She says she didn't know why this is. As far as I can tell, all her other friends are as boring as ****! Suire they go and get drunk and stuff, just like most young 20 somethings. But other than that they don't seem to do jack **** in terms of hobbies and sports outside of work and college. Whereas I do have many other interests and she does know about some of them. The girl in question does absolutely jack **** in terms of hobbies and sports and other interests so how the hell can she tell me that I am boring?
Do I just give off a boring vibe? Is that possible? If so, can any of you tell me steps to becoming more exciting around people? I guess, what I am asking is how do I make myself more attractive to people, male and female? Be the guy that everyone wants to hang with all the time. How to be Alpha?
I mean I told her that I thought it was a problem with her and not me and that it's her negative attitude towards me that makes it difficult for me to a fun time with her. Although I do believe this to a large extent, I can't help but think that she might be right about me to some extent. I have to ackownledge the fact that there maybe a problem with my personality and the way I project myself toward people before I can improve it, right?
Any help and pointers from you guys would be great.
She said that she didn't enjoy my company as much as she did with other people. She said that she felt uncomfortable and gets a little bored when we hang out. She says she didn't know why this is. As far as I can tell, all her other friends are as boring as ****! Suire they go and get drunk and stuff, just like most young 20 somethings. But other than that they don't seem to do jack **** in terms of hobbies and sports outside of work and college. Whereas I do have many other interests and she does know about some of them. The girl in question does absolutely jack **** in terms of hobbies and sports and other interests so how the hell can she tell me that I am boring?
Do I just give off a boring vibe? Is that possible? If so, can any of you tell me steps to becoming more exciting around people? I guess, what I am asking is how do I make myself more attractive to people, male and female? Be the guy that everyone wants to hang with all the time. How to be Alpha?
I mean I told her that I thought it was a problem with her and not me and that it's her negative attitude towards me that makes it difficult for me to a fun time with her. Although I do believe this to a large extent, I can't help but think that she might be right about me to some extent. I have to ackownledge the fact that there maybe a problem with my personality and the way I project myself toward people before I can improve it, right?
Any help and pointers from you guys would be great.