So for the past week, I have been pretty grumpy on this site and I am sorry. I've been extremely frustrated with myself and resorted to trolling. For that I would like to apologize.
Now, moving on. For the past 12 years, I have talked to hundreds of women, in all walks of life - clubs, malls, on the street, etc. Fewer than 10 have shown genuine interest in me. I've primarily been approaching 7's and up.
I know that I'm no Matt Damon. So, this brings me to the question: Should I stop trying to get an attractive woman to date me? It has been tough to grapple with this one, since it's extremely hard for me to date someone that I'm not attracted to but considering my past failures, it's also hard to hold on to false hope. Every once in a while, I'll get lucky, but overall I'm extremely lonely and longing for a relationship with a girl who actually wants to be with ME. To be honest, I do feel like scum for even searching for hot chicks because it makes me feel so superficial and hypocritical for deriding women who do the same thing.
What makes me happy is going to a club or bar, talking to a girl and having a great conversation with her that is sexual in nature (i.e. not friend zone). I don't even care that much about taking her back to my place. I just want to meet a girl and know that she's into me. For several years, I have gone out to clubs on Friday and Saturday (usually on my own) because I feel like if I stay at home I'll be depressed. When I come back from the club, I'm actually even more depressed because I didn't get any numbers or hook up with anyone and this has just turned into a downward spiral. I do feel extremely pathetic because I thought that by now (I'm 31) I'd be more established and not worrying about stupid little things like this. In an ideal world, I wouldn't be going to clubs at all.
Advice please?
Now, moving on. For the past 12 years, I have talked to hundreds of women, in all walks of life - clubs, malls, on the street, etc. Fewer than 10 have shown genuine interest in me. I've primarily been approaching 7's and up.
I know that I'm no Matt Damon. So, this brings me to the question: Should I stop trying to get an attractive woman to date me? It has been tough to grapple with this one, since it's extremely hard for me to date someone that I'm not attracted to but considering my past failures, it's also hard to hold on to false hope. Every once in a while, I'll get lucky, but overall I'm extremely lonely and longing for a relationship with a girl who actually wants to be with ME. To be honest, I do feel like scum for even searching for hot chicks because it makes me feel so superficial and hypocritical for deriding women who do the same thing.
What makes me happy is going to a club or bar, talking to a girl and having a great conversation with her that is sexual in nature (i.e. not friend zone). I don't even care that much about taking her back to my place. I just want to meet a girl and know that she's into me. For several years, I have gone out to clubs on Friday and Saturday (usually on my own) because I feel like if I stay at home I'll be depressed. When I come back from the club, I'm actually even more depressed because I didn't get any numbers or hook up with anyone and this has just turned into a downward spiral. I do feel extremely pathetic because I thought that by now (I'm 31) I'd be more established and not worrying about stupid little things like this. In an ideal world, I wouldn't be going to clubs at all.
Advice please?