FutureSpartan
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In the quest to improve my life, I realized something.
A lot of guys on the self-improvement bandwagon say that if you want to become a ladies man the best way to do so is to make a bunch of friends and get yourself into a bunch of social circles.
I disagree with this premise entirely.
I will try my best to explain why I believe this and I encourage a debate on this topic so dont hesitate to disagree with me.
I have always been the kind of guy to do things myself. I thought I was wierd or somethin for not havin a group of friends like everyone else did. I have about 3 good friends, my work colleagues, and a bunch of people I know on a casual basis. I tried to expand my circle of friends by calling up casual acquaintances, but they all were "too busy."
I called up my dad one night after one of my good friends failed to call me back to hang out.
He seemed surprised that I felt upset about a DUDE not calling me back
"Look, when I was your age, there was two things I focused on....my career and my dating life. I met up with friends very occassionaly, but I was always out there trying to meet women, they are way more fun than hanging out with your guy friends every week. s are more concerned about their social circles! Not guys!"
My dad has a short stature but he's no chump so I had to take what he said and really think about it.
And then it hit me...I spent all my time trying to improve my social status to make people and women like me that
1. That in itself was unattractive. Think about it S are the more social gender. They care about what people think about them. Guys should not give two f*cks if they have no friends
2. I was denying myself the opportunity to just get out there and DIRECTLY improve my dating life by approaching beautiful women.
Besides every HB I met through acquaintances seemed to have every guy in her social circle chasing her. So I had to not only put up with a bunch of surrounding blocks but her own inflated sense of self as the "Queen Bee"
What do you really want guys? If you could trade most of your "friends" for a great life, would you do it?
I know that if I could hook up with one stunner at least every month then I would be happy with my life and not go out of my way to make myself "higher status" to an insecure herd. That is why I am out there, by myself, approaching. Most guys I know cant even talk to a beautiful without trying to fall over her shoes with a heart attack so why should I let them hold me back?
I guess we should all be more honest with ourselves about what we want from our lives. If you want a better life, then go out there and make it happen on your own terms not on your "friends' terms
A lot of guys on the self-improvement bandwagon say that if you want to become a ladies man the best way to do so is to make a bunch of friends and get yourself into a bunch of social circles.
I disagree with this premise entirely.
I will try my best to explain why I believe this and I encourage a debate on this topic so dont hesitate to disagree with me.
I have always been the kind of guy to do things myself. I thought I was wierd or somethin for not havin a group of friends like everyone else did. I have about 3 good friends, my work colleagues, and a bunch of people I know on a casual basis. I tried to expand my circle of friends by calling up casual acquaintances, but they all were "too busy."
I called up my dad one night after one of my good friends failed to call me back to hang out.
He seemed surprised that I felt upset about a DUDE not calling me back
"Look, when I was your age, there was two things I focused on....my career and my dating life. I met up with friends very occassionaly, but I was always out there trying to meet women, they are way more fun than hanging out with your guy friends every week. s are more concerned about their social circles! Not guys!"
My dad has a short stature but he's no chump so I had to take what he said and really think about it.
And then it hit me...I spent all my time trying to improve my social status to make people and women like me that
1. That in itself was unattractive. Think about it S are the more social gender. They care about what people think about them. Guys should not give two f*cks if they have no friends
2. I was denying myself the opportunity to just get out there and DIRECTLY improve my dating life by approaching beautiful women.
Besides every HB I met through acquaintances seemed to have every guy in her social circle chasing her. So I had to not only put up with a bunch of surrounding blocks but her own inflated sense of self as the "Queen Bee"
What do you really want guys? If you could trade most of your "friends" for a great life, would you do it?
I know that if I could hook up with one stunner at least every month then I would be happy with my life and not go out of my way to make myself "higher status" to an insecure herd. That is why I am out there, by myself, approaching. Most guys I know cant even talk to a beautiful without trying to fall over her shoes with a heart attack so why should I let them hold me back?
I guess we should all be more honest with ourselves about what we want from our lives. If you want a better life, then go out there and make it happen on your own terms not on your "friends' terms