Ok guys, so it's been a while and I have been having a blast dating this single mother. Let me get to the point. So... I have been dating this chick for a year now and it's been great so far. She she has an incredible sex drive that even wears me out, cooks for me, cleans for me, is a good mom to her kids and treats mine great.
However, due to her being a home maker for the past several years (before she left her ex she took care of the kids) it has been tough for her to find a job that pays enough for her to have her own place and to pay for child care while she is working. She shares custody with the father (week on, week off), so there is no child support for her. She is now losing her apartment because no one has been able to watch the kids and she has no money to pay for child care. I'm hesitant to let her stay with me while she gets back on her feet, just because of all the stuff I have read here and on red pill. She knows that she can never be dependent on me because I have laid those rules out, she supports herself, I support myself, done deal and I will not budge on that. I have not helped her in any way financially nor will I, and she understands this. My financial obligation is to myself and my kids, and same with hers. We pay for our own meals when we go out, we split the bills for hotels when we go out of town, etc...
If she does stay with me for a maximum of a couple of months she will not have any kids while she is with me because they will be with their father up north so that his mother can watch them while he and she save up money to get back on track, this whole shared custody thing ****ed both their work schedules up because none of them have family here. And I made it explicitly clear that if she ever needed a place to stay the kids would not be staying because it's a single bedroom apartment and there is no way in hell I am waking up to children crying every night. The kids are aged 2 and 4. She understands this. I don't mind the kids, they behave better then most and I get along fine with them, but I like my sleep.
She is a great women, she is beautiful, and I dated her in high school and she is the same girl I had known then personality wise, she is not putting on a facade because I have known her since high school. So does this sound like a **** storm ready to be unleashed over my head if I let this happen? I don't want to regret letting this chick go if this is truly who she is and always will be, because she really is incredible thus far and we really click. I know I will probably get hammered by you guys, but that's probably what I need to hear anyways to avoid what might be a potentially dangerous situation. I just need to hear fellow Don Juan's suggestions to perhaps get me back on track if I have fallen off.
However, due to her being a home maker for the past several years (before she left her ex she took care of the kids) it has been tough for her to find a job that pays enough for her to have her own place and to pay for child care while she is working. She shares custody with the father (week on, week off), so there is no child support for her. She is now losing her apartment because no one has been able to watch the kids and she has no money to pay for child care. I'm hesitant to let her stay with me while she gets back on her feet, just because of all the stuff I have read here and on red pill. She knows that she can never be dependent on me because I have laid those rules out, she supports herself, I support myself, done deal and I will not budge on that. I have not helped her in any way financially nor will I, and she understands this. My financial obligation is to myself and my kids, and same with hers. We pay for our own meals when we go out, we split the bills for hotels when we go out of town, etc...
If she does stay with me for a maximum of a couple of months she will not have any kids while she is with me because they will be with their father up north so that his mother can watch them while he and she save up money to get back on track, this whole shared custody thing ****ed both their work schedules up because none of them have family here. And I made it explicitly clear that if she ever needed a place to stay the kids would not be staying because it's a single bedroom apartment and there is no way in hell I am waking up to children crying every night. The kids are aged 2 and 4. She understands this. I don't mind the kids, they behave better then most and I get along fine with them, but I like my sleep.
She is a great women, she is beautiful, and I dated her in high school and she is the same girl I had known then personality wise, she is not putting on a facade because I have known her since high school. So does this sound like a **** storm ready to be unleashed over my head if I let this happen? I don't want to regret letting this chick go if this is truly who she is and always will be, because she really is incredible thus far and we really click. I know I will probably get hammered by you guys, but that's probably what I need to hear anyways to avoid what might be a potentially dangerous situation. I just need to hear fellow Don Juan's suggestions to perhaps get me back on track if I have fallen off.