Regret cheating on my wife, she wants divorce

[GotED?]

One of the important lessons of becoming a real man in my opinion is to make the 'best decision' you can at the time.

Your BEST is going to vary day by day. For example, doing your best yesterday while you were down with a severe flu is going to be very different then next Monday when you are recovered and well. So doing your BEST is going to be a moving variable, depending on your psychological and physiological state of mind.

Becoming a REAL man, is learning to make the best decision at any time in your life, and DOING your best. Never look back and regret, if you know you DID YOUR BEST at that moment in time (although you look back and you know you would do better NOW, but that is not the point).

Own up to your action and be responsible. Learn from your decision and now live your PRESENT with the best decision you can make and you can be.

Be a good father to your daughter. Your wife is history. Leave the Oneitis behind. Once you have her again, you very well may cheat again 10 years down the line. Something was missing between you and her for that to happen in the first place.

With respect,

Exodus

 

[betheman]

What makes you think that getting back with your wife will be different so that in say 18 months time, you wont get bored and want to cheat again?

 

[DjVelvet]

It was that moment I made the wrong of getting into an affair..

Now what's done couldn't be undone.

Doing the best for myself everyday.

I found myself calling my exwife everyday (just to ask her pass the phone to my daughter and chatting with her)

Ex wife sounds welcoming for me to call and chat with our daughter.

We made plans to have dinner tomorrow evening. The 3 of us

Anything wrong or not advisable of that?

 

[speed dawg]

Go away. We all tried to help you and show you the error of your way. You're a moron.

Take about a year off from posting, get your **** together, get a new perspective. Then come back and talk with the forum. This problem is old news. Get over it. You made your bed, now lay in it.

 

[Rave18]

Maybe not what you are looking for

To be honest, things around us aren't exactly normal http://www.usdebtclock.org/world-debt-clock.html and I personally think that marriage and kids isn't what everyone SHOULD have. Affairs are symptoms, the cause could be anything. Being honest with oneself and trying not to hurt others [Courtesy: The Golden Rule essentially means to do unto others as you would wish them to do unto you if your positions were reversed.] while living the life one wants is what helped me/appealed to me when trying to solve a different set of problems. Wish you best

 

[ghostridur]

lol idiot move. But yeah I wish you the best.

 

[HeadLightsOn]

Mr Velvet

I think you should go back through the threads, READ and take in some of the excellent advice you received on this forum, THEN think about what an absolute idiot you have been.

What annoys me is that you simply ignored e v e r y bit of advice that was posted to you.

On top of that you are whining. "I wanherbaaaaaaaaaack."

Well you cant have her back.

be thankful she hasnt taken your wallet to the cleaners (yet) and that you are still on speaking terms.

And 'next' time you want to sample some other female goods, and try an affair - sharpen the F up. Be aware of whats going on around you and play that game properly. Look how easy it was for your wife to spring you. That in itself is shameful.

One positive note - you still have your daughter around you. If I were you, I would be VERY thankful for that.

 

[penkitten]

everything is all great until someone pees in the pool and then it is time for everyone to get out.
maybe you need to take a short break and digest it all before you go look for another pool to swim in.

 

[evan12]

to answer your question of how to get your wife back ,I think there is two ways
1- to show her you are happy with/without her , so she will stop enjoying seeing you suffering (she may feel that ) . most of men play the lover role and pretend they will die without her , and it seem this method only worked with 1900 women not iphone generation women .if you already "let her know" you are dating another woman it would be a plus .

2- the second choice is when a woman think her life with you will be better than her life without you (coz you are rich for example ) she may rethink . the bad news is now she want to enjoy the freedom of dating other men so it will take a long time before she get tired from dating game, and the worse she may forget you emotionally with the time .

 

[window]

you need to work out why you cheated on your wife, it is the most devastating thing you can do to a person as you are breaking trust. It takes a long time to heal for that person if ever.

Hang in there though. Be a good father to your daughter and keep up the visits.

 

[en-sigma]

The fact that it took you a month after your divorce to dump the mistress shows that you are too dim to help.

At first you were prepared to leave the mistress. If you really thought you were wrong, you would have stopped immediately.

You do not have what it takes to win her back. Standby to watch your daughter get raised by somebody else

 

[americaninbangkok]

Put some distance between you and her — emotional distance. Don't pester her to get back with you, don't give her more than a yes, no, maybe answer. Take care of yourself and stop worrying about her. After a month of this, if she hasn't asked you back, which is doubtful since you put your pecker in another woman, then start looking for a new woman. Be strong, you're a man, not a *****.

 

[americaninbangkok]

The fact that it took you a month after your divorce to dump the mistress shows that you are too dim to help.

At first you were prepared to leave the mistress. If you really thought you were wrong, you would have stopped immediately.

You do not have what it takes to win her back. Standby to watch your daughter get raised by somebody else

Dim = Correct. But that's how most men are with women. No one said cracking the code was easy.

Watching your child being raised by someone else is the ultimate revenge for a woman, either knowingly so or not.

dam fellas give the guy a freaking break...he's MOVING ON. Why does he need to "study what he did wrong"??? His shiat's in the past....it's not like he's the only freaking dude that cheated on his wife. Most of us already know that half of marriages end in divorce. I imagine there's a helluva lot more gutless guys out there who stay married and cheat on their wives.

Just another reason that I'm NOT married and have no plans to do so...not now...not ever.

I say start looking for new WOMEN...as in PLURAL. More than one.

Dude is hurting, this is obvious. No one said life is easy and unfortunately he has to face facts, can he blame his wife for sticking it in another woman? It's good he's moving on, that's probably the best thing for all involved.

You are correct - WOMEN, not woman. The more women you can date at one time, they less needy you are and the more attractive you become.

When I first came to Thailand I dated all types of women, pros and non-pros. If I started having feelings for one and it didn't go anywhere, I moved on to another. I was so busy I rarely had the time to be dejected.

 

[Slickster]

Wow what a sad story!

DJVelvet thought he was cheating on his wife but really he cheated himself out of his own happiness.

Thanks for posting.

A good lesson for others.

 

[americaninbangkok]

Any updates? Have your balls started to come back or ?

 

[Desire]

Great videos you made there

 

[Asheraf]

If you run after any woman. She will look at you as inferior, keep A distant. Leave her alone. You might be lucky enough for losing her. Woman betrayal is high is numbers than men. Beg her no more. Be free man. There is plenty of fish in the sea

 

[Spaz]

If you run after any woman. She will look at you as inferior, keep A distant. Leave her alone. You might be lucky enough for losing her. Woman betrayal is high is numbers than men. Beg her no more. Be free man. There is plenty of fish in the sea

5 year old thread.

Impressive !