Jokerlsk said:
Alright, I think I did better this time.
She commented on my wall on facebook and said "yeahh Jokerlsk...i'm so mad at you. apparently i have side burns and man hands!!!"
and i said, "X, only cute girls like yourself can pull off man hands and side burns. haha"
She said, "whatever. i don't forgive you."
I didn't apologize btw lol
And i said, " I happen to think sideburns and manhands are attractive."
So did i do better or not? I'm positive i did. I used "congruence" like igetit said, and apparently she hasn't forgotten about everything i've said
LOL!!! You said that you think sideburns and manhands are attractive? Jokerisk,I swear man,you're a trip! I can't believe you said that to a girl! Man,when I read that,I almost fell out of my chair laughing. I realize that maybe you were on the spot having to respond to her and you probably just made something up right quick. Boy,that was funny. Alright man,listen:
Judging from everything you said happened when you were on facebook with her,it seems to me that thiis girl is
CLEARLY attracted to you.
In other words,the neg worked. It did what it was supposed to do.
Remember,judge a girl by her actions,not her words. Her words say that she doesn't forgive you,but look at her actions. If she were really mad at you,really angry with you,she'd just avoid you. She definately wouldn't be communicating back and forth with you on Facebook or by any other way.
You're getting it man. Yeah,it's slow coming,but bit by bit,you're starting to understand this thing. Let's look at what you did correctly this time:
First,you didn't apologize. Perfect man. That's one of the
WORST things you can do after throwing a neg. You know why? Because you
undo it. And you can't do that. You can't throw out a neg,then when she seems a little upset or offended,all of the sudden you go,"Oh,I'm sorry! I didn't mean it. Please forgive me. I wasn't serious,I was just joking. Please still like me! Please! Please!" You can't do that. You have to stay congruent.
If she gets offended and walks off,LET HER WALK OFF. I promise you that even though she may be a little upset,she'll still respect you. A woman doesn't want a man who she can't respect. You didn't apologize this time,which also means that you stayed congruent. Good man. Keep it up!
The only down side I can see is you saying that you think that sideburns and manhands were attractive,but even that didn't seem to cause any problems with her. She likes you Jokerisk! She does. I honestly believe that she is attracted to you. Just remember what Daygameguy said to you and use those things.
My only advice to you is what I have already said,but I'll recap right quick:
Keep your behavior switched. The behavior you normally use with girls you like,use it with girls you don't like. And the behavior you normally use with the girls you
don't like,use it with the girls you
do like.
STAY CONGRUENT!!! This is very,very important
Anyway,good luck man and keep us posted.