Hey...
1-I don't have any FRIENDS at college... I guess this adds difficulty to the situation doesn't it?
Unfortunately it does. If you had friends in common, you could ask them how she felt about you, etc.
However, the bigger problem here is that you have no friends at school. Having a circle of people around you who you like and trust will enrich your world immeasurably. You should make a serious effort to expand your social scene - join a campus organization, get involved in whatever political cause you believe in, join a book club.
2-Since the first time she showed interest in me it has past about a year.
That's a long time. Her opinion about you has probably changed significantly since you first met.
3- about our common interests, I really don't know alot about her. I just have the feeling that she has a sort of cute shyness in her... And she appears emotional. and I am emotional. and she listens to Anathema! and I do that too!!
That's not much, I'm sorry to say. One band, emotion, shyness. It sounds like you have this girl on a pedestal based on a few impressions. You may feel she is perfect for you, but she's probably VERY different than you believe - and you may be nothing like what she would view as bf material.
4-Well I think I'm so ready to fall in love with her. so I'll probabely need more than just a friendship. But I won't let this to ruin even friendship.
Right now, IMHO, you need friends more than you need a girlfriend. You're ready to base your whole social world around this girl you barely know. Don't value your self-worth on the judgements of any one person. Seek balance in life, and in your social world.
I said this earlier: be emotionally ready for this to go badly.
You should really work on making friends before you try to get a gf. I mean it. You deserve to have a gf if you want one - don't get me wrong - but a guy needs to have friends to talk to, not just us anonymous ghosts on your computer screen.
However, all that said, there is something you can do.
Ask her out for coffee.
Approach her. Be friendly and confident. Ask her if she has a few minutes to get a cup of coffee together.
Be prepared for her to say no.
If she says no, remain friendly and confident. Ask her when she's free to do it some other time.
Again, be prepared for her to say no.
If she says yes, then have the coffee, talk about classes and Anathema, and have fun. Don't worry about the uncomfortable silences - they'll happen, let them pass. At the end, tell her you'd like to do this again.
Do NOT creep her out by telling her that you've been obsessing about her for the past year, and visiting her webpage. Just have a pleasant conversation.
If she says no? Then that's that. OK? Be prepared for this, because it is most likely what will happen. Don't freak out - it doesn't make you a bad person or a failure. It means only that this particular person is not attracted to you at this particular time.
You should be proud of yourself for doing something difficult, something that made you push yourself out of your shyness.
And then it will be time for you to move on.
Farhadr, it's clear from your posts that you're a person who's experienced a lot of emotional pain. No gf is going to be able to solve your problems for you. There's no quick fix. You're seeking professional guidance, and that's good. To repeat what
Phyzzle and others have been saying: improve yourself. Keep your eye on the long road of personal growth. This involves having friends and meeting girls.
This site can help you with that.
You need to read all the posts in the DJ Bible about the inner game. Also read the one about the Cartography of Hell -
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=111514
Things will work out for you. Believe that.
I wish you all the best.
Oldboy