Warrior74 said:
LOL while it feels good to stick it to them about your views on the topic, never forget the law.
Gonna requote this Warrior, because lately I am seeing a lot of "Agree and Amplify" from you and Jophil on different parts of the board.
You said "Agree and Amplify" on another thread that I had posted about and ever since then, it's exactly what I am doing.
What I didn't expect was to have a cousin of mine post on my Facebook WALL about how I was going to be 30 in a month and that I should seriously consider starting up a family and getting serious with my life. That he had heard from other family members that I seemed to be sad and lonely and that he hoped that I could find some meaning in my life.
Now, what was hysterical about this is that 2010 has been the most exciting year of my life. It's my first FULL year "single" since 2001-2003. I've been EVERYWHERE and I make sure to update my 'Book with newest pictures not only detailing my weight loss but all of the exciting things I've done lately. My guess was he took one look at my Facebook and decided that he was jealous of how I lived life, because HE was the one who was supposed to live that way.
I laughed because I was he first person he called when he knocked up his wife almost 8 years ago. He was scared because she might be pregnant, and when I asked what happened it was the typical sob story: She said she was on birth control, told him to not use a condom and then... OOPS.
This was shortly after she met his parents and found out that they are "middle-class wealthy". She got pregnant and he was forced into marrying her. This guy WAS the mirage of an alpha in his teens and there he was at age 22... his life GONE.
His wife makes him miserable and the ONLY thing that keeps him going are his children... other than that, he's always complaining about his life and how his wife was what was ruining his life. He never states his children and I genuinely believe that he has unconditional love for them, but I'm almost sure that everytime he looks at them, he remembers the life that could have been.
So... instead of blasting back with "Well, I like my life the way it is, jealous much?" I went with "You're absolutely right and I'll give this serious consideration, I am getting older now. Cheers!"
The funny thing is that I KNOW that no one in my family told him I am miserable, in fact, they ALL have said to me in the past months: I've never heard you THIS HAPPY in YEARS.
Sometimes it makes me wonder if the men that leave their pregnant wives and disappear do so not because of the child that's incoming but because of the WOMAN they knocked up.
Whenever I see my cousin, I can see both the love he has for his children but also the disdain and misery in his life caused by his wife.
And he'll probably never figure out that I have no intentions of "getting serious".