Start of day:
Woke up, wanted to get out and break my comfort zones. Prior night I got fed up of chilling with my buddy who wanted to spend his time playing call of duty. Was going to hit a bar solo, but it was really too late to do that, so I decided I'd take my saturday to break out.
Mid-day:
Stopped at Starbucks to get some coffee for my day. Spoke to some friends, tried to start a few conversations with random people - got totally shut down with odd looks. Bit of a bummer. Wanted to open a girl I saw, but I didn't have the confidence to just open her and her friend there.
After my expresso, I went to the mall. Spent hours wandering around, chilling around the bookstore, reading, drinking some more coffee, and more time wandering around. The few interactions I had just sucked, and I just lost my drive to open the girls there. By the time I regained it, all the singles and duos of reasonable attractiveness in my age bracket had left and I was stuck with 14 y/o's and their parents, couples, and groups of 3-4 or more.
Left with no results at all for my time.
Evening:
Went to a coffeehouse, the one non-starbucks place around, and met with Demonpenz. Hung out for a while, made the spontaneous decision to go downtown to an area I hadn't been to.
First bar:
Turned out to be an excellent decision. I watched Demonpenz for a minute or two, and got into the mood of just greeting and speaking to everyone myself. Started at one bar, after I got a beer, first thing I saw was a girl making a ridiculous face to her friends (it was obviously deliberately done) - walked up to her, put my hand on her shoulder and said "I absolutely love that face - you look great!" with a smile. Walked off and the whole table just cracked up behind me.
Demonpenz opened a table of 3, spoke to them for a while, he got the one decent one to say she'd come dance with him at a different place later. Didn't end up seeing them again, but it was a good interaction.
Sat outside for a little bit, frigid cold. Saw a group, Demonpenz tried to push me into just going and sitting next to them - I chickened, but when he got up, we went for it together. Got very little reaction. Demonpenz asked a girl if she was a model; teased her about looking like she'd be selling stuff to him sometime on a commercial. When a different girl came back with two drinks, I told her "Great, you got me one too!" to which I had a funny look returned. She walked away, her friends apologized and said I needed to use more dry humor. Exchanged some names, had a bit of friendly chat. Definitely some of the cutest girls in the place.
Had a few more interactions, nothing noteworthy until a table was opened with 3 good looking girls. I spent a while talking to the two prettiest - brunette and blonde, started getting grilled with questions from the blonde after I made a few good jokes. Demonpenz backed out then and let me take the scene. I spoke to them for say, 10 minutes or so. I don't remember the specifics of the conversation, but I found out they both worked for the EPA. I had the feeling the blonde was digging me, she was the one putting the most questions out. I ended up backing out, spoke to a couple more people, spoke to Demonpenz more, finished my drink, and we got ready to bounce, so I returned to their table, handed the blonde girl my phone.
Interesting occurrence here; blonde girl looked at me and goes "Can I put my friend's number in instead?" I had a bit of a confused look, but I said "Sure, I don't mind that." She explained with saying she has a boyfriend, but that I'm cute and interesting and her friend likes me. I told her "hey, that's cool, I'm okay with you setting me up with your friend" just as her friend returned to the table. Got the brunette's number. She was the prettier of the two, too, so it's a fine end-result for me. Especially as I'll have blondie pushing her to go out with me.
Bounced right after.
Second bar/club:
Most of the interactions didn't have anything interesting in particular, there were some attractive girls I could have pushed interactions with, but instead I backed off and just opened others. Danced for a straight 20 minutes, ridiculously - comfort zone thing, not caring about being embarrassed.
Most notable interaction was Demonpenz's number close - opening a girl with "Have you ever stabbed somebody?".
I'm still laughing over that one. That was funny. Girl's friend looks at him after a couple minutes of conversation over stabbing and goes "That's the greatest pickup line I've ever heard.", to which Demonpenz responded with "That wasn't a pickup line, I'm completely serious!".
That was great. He just pulled her over and asked if he could have her number when he ran into her later. Got it right off. They should've stayed, pretty darn sure if they had stayed at the place we could've pulled a SNL with her and her friend, they were really digging us. They had a group they were with, though.
Third bar:
More of a lower-class place, but wasn't too bad. Couple girls that were totally cold. Nothing of too much note here. Seems odd saying that, as prior to the start of the evening I would've marked down any approach as noteworthy - by the end of the evening, after approaching 30-40 different women all over (generally in groups) it wasn't anything to note at all.
End of night:
Demonpenz opened the majority that had real conversations, but it was still a changing moment for me. He had a fun interaction through a window, making faces back and forth with a chick - but the bar had a cover charge and we were tired, so we went on.
Successful evening where I got out of my approach anxiety. Pretty much entirely sober, too - had two beers for the whole evening. Turned out well. We could've pushed for more numbers from various interactions but we bounced around everywhere very quickly. My goal was one number, regardless, and I didn't really care about anything other than practicing approaches (my sticking point) after meeting my goal. Sorta wanted a blondes number, but after I made that decision to try for a second number I was too tired and we would've had to pay covers.
I'll make another trip down there, that was definitely a good area to go. The ratio was actually reasonable, 50/50, with a pretty good amount of lookers, people were friendly (or they'd be cold and ignore a greeting, but, plenty of others to speak to if they did). Made a tremendous amount of progress with myself in interacting and eliminating the anxiety, and in not caring of what others thought of me.
Woke up, wanted to get out and break my comfort zones. Prior night I got fed up of chilling with my buddy who wanted to spend his time playing call of duty. Was going to hit a bar solo, but it was really too late to do that, so I decided I'd take my saturday to break out.
Mid-day:
Stopped at Starbucks to get some coffee for my day. Spoke to some friends, tried to start a few conversations with random people - got totally shut down with odd looks. Bit of a bummer. Wanted to open a girl I saw, but I didn't have the confidence to just open her and her friend there.
After my expresso, I went to the mall. Spent hours wandering around, chilling around the bookstore, reading, drinking some more coffee, and more time wandering around. The few interactions I had just sucked, and I just lost my drive to open the girls there. By the time I regained it, all the singles and duos of reasonable attractiveness in my age bracket had left and I was stuck with 14 y/o's and their parents, couples, and groups of 3-4 or more.
Left with no results at all for my time.
Evening:
Went to a coffeehouse, the one non-starbucks place around, and met with Demonpenz. Hung out for a while, made the spontaneous decision to go downtown to an area I hadn't been to.
First bar:
Turned out to be an excellent decision. I watched Demonpenz for a minute or two, and got into the mood of just greeting and speaking to everyone myself. Started at one bar, after I got a beer, first thing I saw was a girl making a ridiculous face to her friends (it was obviously deliberately done) - walked up to her, put my hand on her shoulder and said "I absolutely love that face - you look great!" with a smile. Walked off and the whole table just cracked up behind me.
Demonpenz opened a table of 3, spoke to them for a while, he got the one decent one to say she'd come dance with him at a different place later. Didn't end up seeing them again, but it was a good interaction.
Sat outside for a little bit, frigid cold. Saw a group, Demonpenz tried to push me into just going and sitting next to them - I chickened, but when he got up, we went for it together. Got very little reaction. Demonpenz asked a girl if she was a model; teased her about looking like she'd be selling stuff to him sometime on a commercial. When a different girl came back with two drinks, I told her "Great, you got me one too!" to which I had a funny look returned. She walked away, her friends apologized and said I needed to use more dry humor. Exchanged some names, had a bit of friendly chat. Definitely some of the cutest girls in the place.
Had a few more interactions, nothing noteworthy until a table was opened with 3 good looking girls. I spent a while talking to the two prettiest - brunette and blonde, started getting grilled with questions from the blonde after I made a few good jokes. Demonpenz backed out then and let me take the scene. I spoke to them for say, 10 minutes or so. I don't remember the specifics of the conversation, but I found out they both worked for the EPA. I had the feeling the blonde was digging me, she was the one putting the most questions out. I ended up backing out, spoke to a couple more people, spoke to Demonpenz more, finished my drink, and we got ready to bounce, so I returned to their table, handed the blonde girl my phone.
Interesting occurrence here; blonde girl looked at me and goes "Can I put my friend's number in instead?" I had a bit of a confused look, but I said "Sure, I don't mind that." She explained with saying she has a boyfriend, but that I'm cute and interesting and her friend likes me. I told her "hey, that's cool, I'm okay with you setting me up with your friend" just as her friend returned to the table. Got the brunette's number. She was the prettier of the two, too, so it's a fine end-result for me. Especially as I'll have blondie pushing her to go out with me.
Bounced right after.
Second bar/club:
Most of the interactions didn't have anything interesting in particular, there were some attractive girls I could have pushed interactions with, but instead I backed off and just opened others. Danced for a straight 20 minutes, ridiculously - comfort zone thing, not caring about being embarrassed.
Most notable interaction was Demonpenz's number close - opening a girl with "Have you ever stabbed somebody?".
I'm still laughing over that one. That was funny. Girl's friend looks at him after a couple minutes of conversation over stabbing and goes "That's the greatest pickup line I've ever heard.", to which Demonpenz responded with "That wasn't a pickup line, I'm completely serious!".
That was great. He just pulled her over and asked if he could have her number when he ran into her later. Got it right off. They should've stayed, pretty darn sure if they had stayed at the place we could've pulled a SNL with her and her friend, they were really digging us. They had a group they were with, though.
Third bar:
More of a lower-class place, but wasn't too bad. Couple girls that were totally cold. Nothing of too much note here. Seems odd saying that, as prior to the start of the evening I would've marked down any approach as noteworthy - by the end of the evening, after approaching 30-40 different women all over (generally in groups) it wasn't anything to note at all.
End of night:
Demonpenz opened the majority that had real conversations, but it was still a changing moment for me. He had a fun interaction through a window, making faces back and forth with a chick - but the bar had a cover charge and we were tired, so we went on.
Successful evening where I got out of my approach anxiety. Pretty much entirely sober, too - had two beers for the whole evening. Turned out well. We could've pushed for more numbers from various interactions but we bounced around everywhere very quickly. My goal was one number, regardless, and I didn't really care about anything other than practicing approaches (my sticking point) after meeting my goal. Sorta wanted a blondes number, but after I made that decision to try for a second number I was too tired and we would've had to pay covers.
I'll make another trip down there, that was definitely a good area to go. The ratio was actually reasonable, 50/50, with a pretty good amount of lookers, people were friendly (or they'd be cold and ignore a greeting, but, plenty of others to speak to if they did). Made a tremendous amount of progress with myself in interacting and eliminating the anxiety, and in not caring of what others thought of me.
Might've pulled that off with a wing, russian girl did seem interested.
