One of the biggest pieces of advice I see here is to go out to a public place and just start talking to women that you would like to meet. I don't know how many times I've been out in public places. I've been to different malls, theaters, and many, many places on the West Coast including San Diego, Venice, Santa Barbara, San Louis Obispo, San Jose, and San Francisco countless times. I don't think I've ever seen a guy just walk up to a girl and start talking to her. Don't get me wrong. I'm not saying that anyone is full of it. It's likely that I'm just oblivious to the obvious.
It's just that all the girls that have passed though my life I have met though circumstance. What I mean is, I worked with them, they were sitting in my class next to me when the professor asked us to get into groups, etc. All the evidence I have goes contrary to what is preached here. It is extremely hard for me to even consider approaching a woman I do not know in public, because my only reference point for this is what is shown in the media. Basically, what I've seen usually goes along the lines of: guy sees girl, guy goes to talk to girl, guy get slapped on the face, and people roll their eyes and laugh at the guy for thinking he could even try.
I know a lot of guys usually have friends who are more into going out finding girls and generally having a good time. The friends I grew up with were more interested in getting that next level in a video game or just feeling sorry for themselves and not taking any action. I'd often find myself saying, "Come on, let's go do something." Only to hear, "Like what? Everything sucks. Venice is stupid. Citywalk is stupid. This is stupid, that is stupid." But, as I understand it, these are primo spots too meet girls. The perfect place to suck up that fear and get what you want out of life
Can anyone please show me that men walk up to women and just start talking to them? How do I know that talking to a girl that I do not know is not a one way ticket to a slap in da face?
It's just that all the girls that have passed though my life I have met though circumstance. What I mean is, I worked with them, they were sitting in my class next to me when the professor asked us to get into groups, etc. All the evidence I have goes contrary to what is preached here. It is extremely hard for me to even consider approaching a woman I do not know in public, because my only reference point for this is what is shown in the media. Basically, what I've seen usually goes along the lines of: guy sees girl, guy goes to talk to girl, guy get slapped on the face, and people roll their eyes and laugh at the guy for thinking he could even try.
I know a lot of guys usually have friends who are more into going out finding girls and generally having a good time. The friends I grew up with were more interested in getting that next level in a video game or just feeling sorry for themselves and not taking any action. I'd often find myself saying, "Come on, let's go do something." Only to hear, "Like what? Everything sucks. Venice is stupid. Citywalk is stupid. This is stupid, that is stupid." But, as I understand it, these are primo spots too meet girls. The perfect place to suck up that fear and get what you want out of life
Can anyone please show me that men walk up to women and just start talking to them? How do I know that talking to a girl that I do not know is not a one way ticket to a slap in da face?