abcd_z
Senior Don Juan
Please forgive if I ramble a bit, it's 3:00 am where I am.
Here's the deal. I am a recovering AFC. Sad, but true. I found the website a few years back, and am still trying to get my act together. I've improved a lot since I initially found this site, but I'm still a far way from having a true DJ mindset.
The biggest impedance to my success is my own feelings of inferiority. Normally this wouldn't be a problem, except that I only ever focus on my failures, and I always discount any successes as flukes, of just plain ignore them. For instance, I worked up the courage to approach a HB in my drama class, and was shot down. Fair enough. It wasn't an especially brutal rejection (Thankfully, no LJBF), but I'm fighting the temptation to use that failure as an excuse to quit trying. I know things would work the best for me if I focused instead on the fact that I actually had the balls to approach her, and that I've advanced a long way from my pre-sosuave days, but it's not really helping. I feel like I can't do anything without screwing up, and no amount of success will change my mind. Success is a foreign concept to me, and my mind keeps rejecting it. And, of course, you guys know how much of a self-fulfilling prophecy failure can be.
I suppose you guys probably get a bit of "poor me" posts, but I'm not looking for how to get a certain girl interested in me (which seems to be a recurring theme). I'm just wondering if anybody's gone through what I'm going through before, and, if so, how you broke out of the cycle. Even if you haven't been through this particular situation, any suggestions would be appreciated.
Here's the deal. I am a recovering AFC. Sad, but true. I found the website a few years back, and am still trying to get my act together. I've improved a lot since I initially found this site, but I'm still a far way from having a true DJ mindset.
The biggest impedance to my success is my own feelings of inferiority. Normally this wouldn't be a problem, except that I only ever focus on my failures, and I always discount any successes as flukes, of just plain ignore them. For instance, I worked up the courage to approach a HB in my drama class, and was shot down. Fair enough. It wasn't an especially brutal rejection (Thankfully, no LJBF), but I'm fighting the temptation to use that failure as an excuse to quit trying. I know things would work the best for me if I focused instead on the fact that I actually had the balls to approach her, and that I've advanced a long way from my pre-sosuave days, but it's not really helping. I feel like I can't do anything without screwing up, and no amount of success will change my mind. Success is a foreign concept to me, and my mind keeps rejecting it. And, of course, you guys know how much of a self-fulfilling prophecy failure can be.
I suppose you guys probably get a bit of "poor me" posts, but I'm not looking for how to get a certain girl interested in me (which seems to be a recurring theme). I'm just wondering if anybody's gone through what I'm going through before, and, if so, how you broke out of the cycle. Even if you haven't been through this particular situation, any suggestions would be appreciated.