back to basics!
Here's the thing. You cannot possibly marry this girl. It would be wrong for both of you. You don't love her.
Just having sex with a girl, pretty or not, fat or not, is not anyone's definition of success.
Love is not an emotion. It is an action. When you love someone, the size of their butt or gut may be apparent, but it is not a factor in how you feel about them.
If she's giving you an ultimatum, that's a great thing. Simply tell her all the pros - leave out the cons, and tell her that you do respect her, but you aren't in love with her. To marry her would be insane.
As for her getting heavy, that's your fault, too! We start winning the affections of these women by taking them out on outings - not dates. If she's putting on weight, it's because her activity level is too low - stop feeding her, and take her OUT for activities. Hiking, tubing, horseback riding - anything to get her away from the house and increase her metabolism.
Alternatively - you can set a date two years in the future - see how things play out. You can always call it off. I don't recommend this, because it's deceitful and would hurt her - and a DJ is not about pain. He's about improving himself so that he can attract the women he IS sexually attracted to.
If you are cheating, end the relationship before your dishonesty ruins your reputation. And improve yourself.
Here's the thing. You cannot possibly marry this girl. It would be wrong for both of you. You don't love her.
Just having sex with a girl, pretty or not, fat or not, is not anyone's definition of success.
Love is not an emotion. It is an action. When you love someone, the size of their butt or gut may be apparent, but it is not a factor in how you feel about them.
If she's giving you an ultimatum, that's a great thing. Simply tell her all the pros - leave out the cons, and tell her that you do respect her, but you aren't in love with her. To marry her would be insane.
As for her getting heavy, that's your fault, too! We start winning the affections of these women by taking them out on outings - not dates. If she's putting on weight, it's because her activity level is too low - stop feeding her, and take her OUT for activities. Hiking, tubing, horseback riding - anything to get her away from the house and increase her metabolism.
Alternatively - you can set a date two years in the future - see how things play out. You can always call it off. I don't recommend this, because it's deceitful and would hurt her - and a DJ is not about pain. He's about improving himself so that he can attract the women he IS sexually attracted to.
If you are cheating, end the relationship before your dishonesty ruins your reputation. And improve yourself.