I'm at a fork in the road right now with this girl I work with, and need some advice from people that have experienced this before. I'm usually pretty good with women and the whole "Don Juan" approach, but I'm stuck with this particular situation.
This girl started at my work a few weeks ago. I'm the Sales Manager and trained her, as well as take her to customers in-home presentations. I had a crush on her instantly, but didn't let her know it. I continued to act confident...on the brink of ****y...and flirt with her like crazy. She has also been very flirty back. I decided to finally tell her that I had a "tiny little crush on her".
She tells me that she has a "crush" on me too, but come to find out, she has a boyfriend of 3 years...and lives with him. She's told me that, out of respect for him, she can't tell me anything further than she finds me very charming, funny and if she wasn't with him, she'd want to date me and see where things would go. Then, the other day, she tells me that she is considering taking a "break" with him to see where things would go with me. Now I'm not really hip on it being just a break...but I'm not really sure what that means. Some things that I'd heard before was that I should try to exploit her boyfriends weaknesses, so I brought him up and asked a few questions. She has said things like "I'm not sure if he even likes me anymore", "He doesn't take me out ever" and the key one, "I think I'm only with him because it's comfortable". I pushed to find out why she's still with him, and she said because she's comfortable with him, and the big one, because she wouldn't have anywhere to go if they broke up. She could move back in with her parents, but she'd lose everything she has (evidently she wouldn't fight him over the furniture, etc.) and her parents house is a far drive for her to school and work.
So, I'm confused. I'm not sure the next step to take, and the thing is, I think she's really sweet and has a great personality, not to mention she's pretty hot. I've gone through some bad break up's in the past and have been taking a break for quite a while from dating, so I'm honestly really scared to have feelings for her. But, she's the first girl I've met in a while that I've had the "butterflies" for. So I'm torn...do I pursue her, or do I cut my losses and not take the chance to get hurt?
I guess my main hang up with just dropping it is that she's told me she has a big "crush" on me and is considering taking a break. I know her interest level is high with me, but I don't know where to go from here?
Thanks so much for any quick advice you guys can give me!
-D-
This girl started at my work a few weeks ago. I'm the Sales Manager and trained her, as well as take her to customers in-home presentations. I had a crush on her instantly, but didn't let her know it. I continued to act confident...on the brink of ****y...and flirt with her like crazy. She has also been very flirty back. I decided to finally tell her that I had a "tiny little crush on her".
She tells me that she has a "crush" on me too, but come to find out, she has a boyfriend of 3 years...and lives with him. She's told me that, out of respect for him, she can't tell me anything further than she finds me very charming, funny and if she wasn't with him, she'd want to date me and see where things would go. Then, the other day, she tells me that she is considering taking a "break" with him to see where things would go with me. Now I'm not really hip on it being just a break...but I'm not really sure what that means. Some things that I'd heard before was that I should try to exploit her boyfriends weaknesses, so I brought him up and asked a few questions. She has said things like "I'm not sure if he even likes me anymore", "He doesn't take me out ever" and the key one, "I think I'm only with him because it's comfortable". I pushed to find out why she's still with him, and she said because she's comfortable with him, and the big one, because she wouldn't have anywhere to go if they broke up. She could move back in with her parents, but she'd lose everything she has (evidently she wouldn't fight him over the furniture, etc.) and her parents house is a far drive for her to school and work.
So, I'm confused. I'm not sure the next step to take, and the thing is, I think she's really sweet and has a great personality, not to mention she's pretty hot. I've gone through some bad break up's in the past and have been taking a break for quite a while from dating, so I'm honestly really scared to have feelings for her. But, she's the first girl I've met in a while that I've had the "butterflies" for. So I'm torn...do I pursue her, or do I cut my losses and not take the chance to get hurt?
I guess my main hang up with just dropping it is that she's told me she has a big "crush" on me and is considering taking a break. I know her interest level is high with me, but I don't know where to go from here?
Thanks so much for any quick advice you guys can give me!
-D-