My plate is pregnant what should I do.

[Jeffst1980]

There's a certain degree of responsibility that you'll have to measure yourself up to in this. My take is that you don't abort the child and you take responsibility for it. Definitely get a paternity test, you have every right to do so. Do you marry her? That's up to you to decide, but from what I gather from this thread, probably not.

Now, that said, it's vitally important that you look at how you came to be in this situation. If for no other reason, then for sake of example for the rest of the guys here. Women become pregnant because they want to be. There are no 'accidental' pregnancies anymore. Always operate from this assumption. There are far too many ways to prevent pregnancy for this not to be the case. In addition to this YOU allowed it to happen by not taking steps to control the birth yourself. I realize it's difficult to objectively consider this while you're in the midst of hot monkey sex with a girl - especially if you've been sexually deprived for any length of time - but you need to look at her from the default perspective of her WANTING to become pregnant. That may or may not be the case, but it's the presumption you MUST operate from, in spite of yourself, your emotions, attachment, etc.

Why? Because this is what you will face. A potential lifetime connection to a woman by way of a child. This is what to think of when she says "don't put that rubber on, I want to feel you", "I'm allergic to latex", and "I can't get pregnant at this time of the month". Those are easy signs, but it's you being responsible for birth-control on your own that's at issue. It's easier to defend against a woman's prompts, but much harder to resist your own.

Agreed 100%. It's probably isn't a *conscious* decision for a woman like this to try to get pregnant, but more of a "oh well, it wouldn't be that bad" kind of thing...otherwise, she would've taken steps to MAKE SURE she didn't get pregnant. That is what adults do. There's really no excuse after you reach adulthood.

Wrap it up EVERY TIME if you're going to insist on sleeping with women you wouldn't want to be attached to for the rest of your life. It just isn't worth it. The OP learned this the hard way, and his story is hardly unique.

 

[Bible_Belt]

The OP learned this the hard way, and his story is hardly unique.


True. I am one of those "it's ok I'm on birth control" babies. Thank you, Mom, for your deception! Otherwise, I would never have existed.

Everyone has their own opinions - mine is to simply marry the girl and have a family. I don't know anyone with kids who regrets having them. Plus, having been divorced, I don't see it as any big deal. I did when I got divorced, but then later every woman I met was fascinated when I told them. Divorced women are damaged goods to men, but divorced men are not the same to women. Chicks actually like it, odd as that seems.

I got married to get student loans; knocking a girl up is an even better reason. It's better to give marriage your best shot and a real effort, than it is to torture yourself over the decision and be resented by the girl. I would rather try something, do my best, and fail than I would to sit on the sidelines and wonder how it would be.

 

[steviecruiser]

Be a man and step up. Marry her and have your side plays when you need them. All men cheat but great men have a wife

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

There are currently 47 different commercially available methods of birth control for women, there are 2 for men - vasectomy and a condom. With that many options of birth control for women one would think that there would be a dearth of pregnancies in the past 30 years, instead we've had the largest statistical spike in "unintended" pregnancies, and the largest incidence of single parent homes (overwhelmingly single mothers) since records were started. Make no mistake, women who become pregnant want to be pregnant.

We have some of the most strict penalties for rape in any society, yet we have no law that punishes women for "birth fraud." Always presume the child is not your own unless you're married already.

 

[Gangster Of Love]

GOL, this iIS an issue of morality. The American family, in large numbers, is destroyed because of exactly this scenario, this is a fact and obvious.

We are deaing with the "shoulds", "ideals" here, we can't always live in the "shoulds", we must adress situations in the "reality" and "matter at hand". He came here to ask for advice, too late for the "what he should have done" morality "facts".

 

[Gangster Of Love]

The funny thing is I thought I was possibly sterile. I was with a girl for 4 years who was on the pill and I busted in her every time and I was with another girl for 1 year were I busted in her every time.

Ok, I am getting the feeling you are a troll, and I am hoping you are one, because if you are not, let me just say it seems you are the "least sharpest tool in the box." Really brother. Come on! You're claiming at one point your friend told you you were too smart?

You were "possibly sterile" because SHE WAS ON THE PILL!!!!!; that is why!! The pill causes a "sterility" environment in a woman. I know, who knew!

What's with the need to "bust in her everytime"?

With this girl we probably had sex 30-40 times I always used a condomn. Out of those 30-40 times I didn't use a condomn twice only busted in her twice. This sucks...

Why would you bust on her at all? Bad enough you didn't use a condom. I swear, you can't make up stuff like this. Still, I hope you are just trolling.

 

[Bible_Belt]

I have talked to Lookyoung in real life; we were at the same gym for a jiu-jitsu tournament, but I kept missing him because I could not hear my phone over the noise. He is no troll.

 

[lookyoung]

There's a certain degree of responsibility that you'll have to measure yourself up to in this. My take is that you don't abort the child and you take responsibility for it. Definitely get a paternity test, you have every right to do so. Do you marry her? That's up to you to decide, but from what I gather from this thread, probably not.

Now, that said, it's vitally important that you look at how you came to be in this situation. If for no other reason, then for sake of example for the rest of the guys here. Women become pregnant because they want to be. There are no 'accidental' pregnancies anymore. Always operate from this assumption. There are far too many ways to prevent pregnancy for this not to be the case. In addition to this YOU allowed it to happen by not taking steps to control the birth yourself. I realize it's difficult to objectively consider this while you're in the midst of hot monkey sex with a girl - especially if you've been sexually deprived for any length of time - but you need to look at her from the default perspective of her WANTING to become pregnant. That may or may not be the case, but it's the presumption you MUST operate from, in spite of yourself, your emotions, attachment, etc.

Why? Because this is what you will face. A potential lifetime connection to a woman by way of a child. This is what to think of when she says "don't put that rubber on, I want to feel you", "I'm allergic to latex", and "I can't get pregnant at this time of the month". Those are easy signs, but it's you being responsible for birth-control on your own that's at issue. It's easier to defend against a woman's prompts, but much harder to resist your own.

I will get a paternity test just to be 100% sure the child is mine. You make alot of great points on here Rollo. I really don't think this girl wanted to be pregnant however. I feel that she is totally crazy about me but this is taboo amongst Albanians to get pregnant. She hasn't even told her family yet.

It was big mistake for me to bust in her plain and simple. But I have to look on the bright side of things. I am 33 and not 21. If I was 21 than I would really be ****ed. I have been in this game for 17 years and I have the maturity level I feel to deal with this situation. No woman is perfect and sometimes we as men tend to look for the perfect woman when we have the gem right in front of our faces.

 

[lookyoung]

The OP learned this the hard way, and his story is hardly unique.


True. I am one of those "it's ok I'm on birth control" babies. Thank you, Mom, for your deception! Otherwise, I would never have existed.

Everyone has their own opinions - mine is to simply marry the girl and have a family. I don't know anyone with kids who regrets having them. Plus, having been divorced, I don't see it as any big deal. I did when I got divorced, but then later every woman I met was fascinated when I told them. Divorced women are damaged goods to men, but divorced men are not the same to women. Chicks actually like it, odd as that seems.

I got married to get student loans; knocking a girl up is an even better reason. It's better to give marriage your best shot and a real effort, than it is to torture yourself over the decision and be resented by the girl. I would rather try something, do my best, and fail than I would to sit on the sidelines and wonder how it would be.

Thanks for the encouragement and your right. I have never met anyone with kids who regrets them. Having a child I always thought was an experience that every man should go through. I just didn't want to go through it in this way.

 

[lookyoung]

Ok, I am getting the feeling you are a troll, and I am hoping you are one, because if you are not, let me just say it seems you are the "least sharpest tool in the box." Really brother. Come on! You're claiming at one point your friend told you you were too smart?

You were "possibly sterile" because SHE WAS ON THE PILL!!!!!; that is why!! The pill causes a "sterility" environment in a woman. I know, who knew!

What's with the need to "bust in her everytime"?



Why would you bust on her at all? Bad enough you didn't use a condom. I swear, you can't make up stuff like this. Still, I hope you are just trolling.

Your an idiot! I have been on this site since 2006 with over 1000 posts. I am a man of my word and have never lied about anything I have ever posted on Sosuave. If I was actually trolling a subject like this than I would be a bigger loser than the 40 year old virgin.

As far as the pill goes I know it causes sterility in woman, but I have probably busted inside at least 10 girls in my life without a condomn. And nothing ever happened. I only busted in 2 girls on a regular basis and they were LTR and were both on birth control. I never actually thought I was sterile but it crossed my mind a few times that it could be possible.

As far as why bust in a girls pu$$y goes???? When you actually have the experience of busting in a girls pu$$y you will know what I am talking about.

Did you ever say hi to that 19 year old HB at your gym?

 

[Mr. Obvious]

but you don't love her, and you do not naturally want to be with her, so forcing a serious relationship on yourself is 100% guaranteed failure that will happen in 6 months, a year, 5 years, 10 years......but it is guaranteed to happen.

You are jumping into a relationship for EXACTLY the wrong reason. You are committing yourself 100% to some random woman who you do not even care about (the best thing about her is that she's crazy about you), and that will never be enough for you to truly care about her back.

Dude, your decision to be with her and to marry her BECAUSE you knocked her up is the #1 biggest chump thing any man can do, have you not learned ANYTHING????

 

[KontrollerX]

Well guys I slept about a grand total of 2 hours yesterday and she gets back from the doc and tells me that she is pregnant. Due date is march 11. The balls in my court. I have like 2 days to make the decision.

I just thought of something just about all of us overlooked in giving you advice.

Did you get any paper she brought you from the doctor proving she actually went, got tested and is actually pregnant?

Sometimes some of the most sickening manipulation women try and pull on men is to spring the "I'm pregnant!" speech on a guy when they know they are not to see how the guy will react.

If the guy is painted into a corner and can be manipulated into marriage using the societal/cultural "right thing to do" manipulation the girl has won her victory.

The guy then being duped continues having sex with the girl still not using a rubber reasoning that well she's already pregnant so there's no use using protection now and its during this time after the girl has learned her target has fallen for her lies hook, line and sinker that she actually does get pregnant by the guy.

Now I know she took a pregnancy test in front of you but people when they want to scam someone can be pretty fvcking crafty so I suggest these things for you to do lookyoung...

1. Try to get her to get you some kind of paper verifying she went to the doctor and is actually pregnant.

2. Do some research on a good pregnancy test kit to buy, then you yourself go out and buy it and have her take your test right in front of you with no funny business being possible since you bought the test yourself.

3. Don't have sex with her again until after the child is born. If you need to get your rocks off secretly get with other women.

 

[Drewskie]

but you don't love her, and you do not naturally want to be with her, so forcing a serious relationship on yourself is 100% guaranteed failure that will happen in 6 months, a year, 5 years, 10 years......but it is guaranteed to happen.

You are jumping into a relationship for EXACTLY the wrong reason. You are committing yourself 100% to some random woman who you do not even care about (the best thing about her is that she's crazy about you), and that will never be enough for you to truly care about her back.

Dude, your decision to be with her and to marry her BECAUSE you knocked her up is the #1 biggest chump thing any man can do, have you not learned ANYTHING????

Ding ding ding!!!!!

 

[Gangster Of Love]

Your an idiot! I have been on this site since 2006 with over 1000 posts. I am a man of my word and have never lied about anything I have ever posted on Sosuave. If I was actually trolling a subject like this than I would be a bigger loser than the 40 year old virgin.

As far as the pill goes I know it causes sterility in woman, but I have probably busted inside at least 10 girls in my life without a condomn. And nothing ever happened. I only busted in 2 girls on a regular basis and they were LTR and were both on birth control. I never actually thought I was sterile but it crossed my mind a few times that it could be possible.

As far as why bust in a girls pu$$y goes???? When you actually have the experience of busting in a girls pu$$y you will know what I am talking about.

Did you ever say hi to that 19 year old HB at your gym?

I hope you meant to say "you're an idiot!", and not spell it the way you did.


Well, thank you for qualifying yourself to me, bitsh. I see that getting called a troll offends you more than being called what you are, a not too smart individual. I hate to kick a man while he's down, but you just don't get it. You have a justification, rationalization, and explanation for doing and defending the bonehead move you did. I won't take away your right to do so.

You bust inside a girl's pu$$y, and you are shocked that she got knocked up???? Yeah, I guess I am the one who's the idiot here. :crackup:

As far as "knowing what you're talking about", I have done that, WITH SOMEONE ON THE PILL, and let me tell you, it was nothing worth doing with someone who IS NOT ON THE PILL. I don't need to commit my own stupidities to learn my lessons. I rather learn from the stupidities of cats like you. "Gosh, IDIOT!!!" (Napoleon Dynamite).

Can't believe you actually got offended by me implying you might be a troll. To you that is worse to be called that than to do what you just did that has gotten you in your predicament. Ok, I apologize for hurting your feelings and calling you a potential troll. I was hoping you were just trolling, and were not as dumb as you have proven to be. Sad indeed.

I don't care how much you justifty it "busting inside her pu$$y", what you did was one of the dumbest things I've ever read on this site, and that says a lot. Well, I still feel bad for you, and hope you grow up, soon, because your future wife and son will need you to.

19 year old HB at gym, she's all over my jock, but not somebody I "need to bust inside of", as I don't think with my testicles. She can wait until the situation is more ideal. She's my co-worker and there are plenty of other options, but thanks for asking.

 

[trent81]

You should never *** in a woman unless she is your wife. You should never even have sex without a condom unless both of you have been checked. This is common sense. I have experienced real sex with a woman only three times in my life (all long term relationships) and never even thought once about bustin inside of them. That is foolish and weak.

 

[guytime]

I know this is ironic, but please STOP asking for or in any way consider the "advice" given in this thread or on the board. Speak to REAL people who you know: family, spiritual advisers, and trained counselors and therapists. Seek counsel from trained specialists and advisers and people you TRUST.
Good luck.

And don't feel obligated in any way to report back here on your decision. I wish you the best.

 

[lookyoung]

I hope you meant to say "you're an idiot!", and not spell it the way you did.


Well, thank you for qualifying yourself to me, bitsh. I see that getting called a troll offends you more than being called what you are, a not too smart individual. I hate to kick a man while he's down, but you just don't get it. You have a justification, rationalization, and explanation for doing and defending the bonehead move you did. I won't take away your right to do so.

You bust inside a girl's pu$$y, and you are shocked that she got knocked up???? Yeah, I guess I am the one who's the idiot here. :crackup:

As far as "knowing what you're talking about", I have done that, WITH SOMEONE ON THE PILL, and let me tell you, it was nothing worth doing with someone who IS NOT ON THE PILL. I don't need to commit my own stupidities to learn my lessons. I rather learn from the stupidities of cats like you. "Gosh, IDIOT!!!" (Napoleon Dynamite).

Can't believe you actually got offended by me implying you might be a troll. To you that is worse to be called that than to do what you just did that has gotten you in your predicament. Ok, I apologize for hurting your feelings and calling you a potential troll. I was hoping you were just trolling, and were not as dumb as you have proven to be. Sad indeed.

I don't care how much you justifty it "busting inside her pu$$y", what you did was one of the dumbest things I've ever read on this site, and that says a lot. Well, I still feel bad for you, and hope you grow up, soon, because your future wife and son will need you to.

19 year old HB at gym, she's all over my jock, but not somebody I "need to bust inside of", as I don't think with my testicles. She can wait until the situation is more ideal. She's my co-worker and there are plenty of other options, but thanks for asking.

See this is the problem with sosuave right here. You tell a real life situation and nerds have to knock it and call you a troll and flame the thread.

Thanks for correcting my grammar nerd. I am sure it comes in handy at the healthclub you work at.

You shouldn't call people bitshes. If you called me a bitsh in real life I would put you in a fukking hospital. ( Sorry to my SS members if I got out of line but I am just speaking the truth).

You don't offend me at all and I am never down. I am good looking, Healthy, have a great family, Make good money, own properties, drive a nice car and I have a great personality! What do you have? I could impregnate ten different girls and my quality of life will still be better than yours!

I could tell your a nerd who never fit into any kind of social group and you have been terrible with woman. You were even in Chicago and paid thousands of dollars to attend a Guru's seminar!


Your right you couldn't get laid by that 19 year old girl if your life depended on it. You can't fool me! Look at how you talk.. I don't think with my testicles I will wait to fuk her when the situation is more ideal... What kind of man says that? Do you think a real man says that? Your acting like a bitsh. I would bet you 100,000 dollars you have not even popped 5 pu$$ies in your life yet you have the audacity to talk sh1t to a ****ing player like me. Bow down motherfuker and show some respect you nerd.

I am your worst nightmare geek. I am that football player that used to take your lunch money in highschool X 3.

Ps how much did that David Deangelo seminar cost you? Did style let you suck his cok? Did you get laid when you were here in Chicago?:crackup: :crackup: Next time you come in Chicago pay me the 5000 dollars and I will take you out on the field and even guarantee you a lay or your money back? Did your God guru do that for you? No motherfuker. Your looking up to the wrong people and that is were your problem lies.

Fuking chump these guys are getting rich off of nerds like you!

 

[seth03]

See this is the problem with sosuave right here. You tell a real life situation and nerds have to knock it and call you a troll and flame the thread.

Thanks for correcting my grammar nerd. I am sure it comes in handy at the healthclub you work at.

You shouldn't call people bitshes. If you called me a bitsh in real life I would put you in a fukking hospital. ( Sorry to my SS members if I got out of line but I am just speaking the truth).

You don't offend me at all and I am never down. I am good looking, Healthy, have a great family, Make good money, own properties, drive a nice car and I have a great personality! What do you have? I could impregnate ten different girls and my quality of life will still be better than yours!

I could tell your a nerd who never fit into any kind of social group and you have been terrible with woman. You were even in Chicago and paid thousands of dollars to attend a Guru's seminar!


Your right you couldn't get laid by that 19 year old girl if your life depended on it. You can't fool me! Look at how you talk.. I don't think with my testicles I will wait to fuk her when the situation is more ideal... What kind of man says that? Do you think a real man says that? Your acting like a bitsh. I would bet you 100,000 dollars you have not even popped 5 pu$$ies in your life yet you have the audacity to talk sh1t to a ****ing player like me. Bow down motherfuker and show some respect you nerd.

I am your worst nightmare geek. I am that football player that used to take your lunch money in highschool X 3.

Ps how much did that David Deangelo seminar cost you? Did style let you suck his cok? Did you get laid when you were here in Chicago?:crackup: :crackup: Next time you come in Chicago pay me the 5000 dollars and I will take you out on the field and even guarantee you a lay or your money back? Did your God guru do that for you? No motherfuker. Your looking up to the wrong people and that is were your problem lies.

Fuking chump these guys are getting rich off of nerds like you!

Beta male.

 

[amoka]

Alright people, be civil. Anybody can hide behind the computer and say anything they please. Act like a man and don't criticize anybody. If someone asks for an advice and you're not in a position to provide, don't respond. If you asked for an advice and you're not satisfy with what you're given don't insult.

Act mature!

 

[piranha45]

Beta male.

well put.