MikeOck said:
Yes, don't ever think that because you are supporting her now that she will feel that she owes you ANYTHING in the future. Make sure you are being compensated for your support NOW (be it from freaky sex, cooking, cleaning, whatever). The concept of loyalty for past service is absolutely foreign to the female mind.
Unfortunately, MikeOck has hit the nail on the head. If anything the logic works in reverse for most women. Most women have a sense of entitlement or feel as if you OWE it to them. The more you do, the more many of them expect from you. Instead of being thankful and appreciative, many times, the more you do for them, the more entitled they feel.
Think of it like this. Are spoiled brats known for their gratitude? For having a gracious sense of courtesy for the person who is giving to them? Are they known for having empathy for the person who gives to them? Do spoiled brats understand or even care that you've made sacrifices or about the pain you've had to endure or the hard work you've done to give to them?
Do they try to put themselves in your shoes or do they just selfishly demand more? They just want what they want and they don't CARE what hardships you have to go through in order to give them what they want. I guarantee you, if she is like the majority of women out there, if circumstances were reversed, she would not feel sympathy for you but instead she would RESENT you.
I hate to break it to you pal, but this is the case for the majority. This is the rule rather than the exception. The exception is the woman who has sympathy for you and if the roles were reversed by necessity and she were expected to bear the brunt of financial responsibility, she would do it because she loves you and without resentment. I would suggest a test, if you want to see whether or not she'll be there for you. Tell her you lost everything. Tell her you're broke. That you invested your inheritance money in stocks that went belly-up. Make it believable. Have a little talk with your mom and dad. Let them know what you're doing. Maybe one of them or someone they know is very knowledgable about stocks. Find the name of a stock that has dramatically dropped.
If necessary, you can even withdraw every cent you have from your account and have mom and dad put it in another account. See if she will stick with you through hard times. So far she's had it easy. She needs to feel the hard times as much as you do. Now, if she is supportive and sticks with you through the hard times, she might be worth keeping. If she doesn't, then dump her. But you have to be convincing. You have to stick to this for at least 6 months. Preferably for a year. See how she treats you. Do not let up. Do not be soft. Stick with this no matter how many tears she sheds or no matter how badly she talks about you and also, stick with this no matter how much sympathy she shows. Let the time pass with her thoroughly believing you lost everything and can't support her. Then you will know for sure what kind of woman she is.