Guoy Darko
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Hey guys,
I feel kinda crap about some money issues I have with my parents in law. Background info: My girlfriend and I have been living together now for 2,5 years and know each other for about 5 years.
She has a lot of trouble with finding a paid job, mostly because of the crappy economy. She now has a job for 5 days a week that pays nothing. Still it’s better to do that than to do something that is unrelated to her study. It is mostly for her CV and thus an investment for later.
So the last half a year or so (and probably for longer) I paid most of the rent, food and all the other bills. I do not have trouble with that, because I love to help her, and I know she would help me as well if I was in her position. Only… I recently discovered that her parents make a lot more money than I do, and that kinda feels like a knife in the back. Their daughter has no money whatsoever, I have enough to let us both survive, and her parents earn more than twice as much as me, and do not seem to feel responsible for their daughter.
According to her, her parents do not want to give her more money, because the money they will give her will go straight to me (I pay for both of us, so it’s kind of true. On the other hand, their logic feels like a punishment to me for helping her). Also, because we live together they say we should be able to survive (money-wise) together. I understand this principle, but on the other hand I’m now already spending my future inheritance on her because her parents refuse to give her an advance in her future inheritance.
My girlfriend says her parents do make a lot more than me, but still have no money on the bank. I don’t know how this is possible as they do not seem to spend ridicules amounts of money. She says they had/have issues with shares/stocks (don’t know the right term). So why continue with that?
I don’t know if I’m right or not on this issue, but I think her parents should help her more. It’s not that I don’t want to spend any money on anything other than rent, food and bills. I don't like my job now and want to save up for a future study to find other work. At the rate my spending now is going, that is not going to happen.
I like to tell my parents in law how I feel about the situation now, on the other hand that would stir up a lot of crap. And I do not even know if I’m right on this issue.
Hope you can give your opinion.
Cheers.
I feel kinda crap about some money issues I have with my parents in law. Background info: My girlfriend and I have been living together now for 2,5 years and know each other for about 5 years.
She has a lot of trouble with finding a paid job, mostly because of the crappy economy. She now has a job for 5 days a week that pays nothing. Still it’s better to do that than to do something that is unrelated to her study. It is mostly for her CV and thus an investment for later.
So the last half a year or so (and probably for longer) I paid most of the rent, food and all the other bills. I do not have trouble with that, because I love to help her, and I know she would help me as well if I was in her position. Only… I recently discovered that her parents make a lot more money than I do, and that kinda feels like a knife in the back. Their daughter has no money whatsoever, I have enough to let us both survive, and her parents earn more than twice as much as me, and do not seem to feel responsible for their daughter.
According to her, her parents do not want to give her more money, because the money they will give her will go straight to me (I pay for both of us, so it’s kind of true. On the other hand, their logic feels like a punishment to me for helping her). Also, because we live together they say we should be able to survive (money-wise) together. I understand this principle, but on the other hand I’m now already spending my future inheritance on her because her parents refuse to give her an advance in her future inheritance.
My girlfriend says her parents do make a lot more than me, but still have no money on the bank. I don’t know how this is possible as they do not seem to spend ridicules amounts of money. She says they had/have issues with shares/stocks (don’t know the right term). So why continue with that?
I don’t know if I’m right or not on this issue, but I think her parents should help her more. It’s not that I don’t want to spend any money on anything other than rent, food and bills. I don't like my job now and want to save up for a future study to find other work. At the rate my spending now is going, that is not going to happen.
I like to tell my parents in law how I feel about the situation now, on the other hand that would stir up a lot of crap. And I do not even know if I’m right on this issue.
Hope you can give your opinion.
Cheers.