Hey guys, I'm a senior in highschool. I've been at sosuave for maybe a year or 2, just been soaking up alot of information as I could but I was lazy. Never really put any action into the the things i learned, just always read theory and it did help. I gained more confidence, but my relationship with women remained stagnant. I would also periodically stop visiting and revisiting sosuave whenever i had oneitis problems. But today I got inspired to actually start doing some ****.
12-20-13
Today I had a band concert, and a few friends and I were just hanging around when a friend of mine sees a girl he thinks is really cute. So here i am trying to get him to talk to her and he just wont. Then a wire flicks inside my head and I decide im gonna try to show off i guess and get her number. I walk up to her- shes with two of her friends, a fat girl, and a really skinny beta looking kid- and this is how the convo pretty much went:
Me: hey whats up, are you guys in concert band?
Hb7: What's concert band, you mean intermediate band? (pretty stupid question)
Me: Yea, intermediate band.
Hb7: Yea we are
Me: That's cool (I totally ****ing suck at conversation, even when im with my friends, im just kind of introverted)... So what instrument do you guys play? (kind of a stupid question on my part considering two of them are ****ing hold clarinets)
Beta: I play percussion
Fat chick and hb7: we play clarinet
Me: Thats cool (was running out of **** to say leading me to...) So whats your number?
Hb7:(she kind like laughs in astonishment i guess because of my bluntness and being an underclassmen shes probably never been hit on) *gives me number*
Me: What's your name? (i ****ing forgot to introduce myself and ask their names first.)
Hb7: Hb7
Me: Ok I gotta get going see you around (i give her a really awkward handshake, she was all like *wtf are you doing ohh a handshake*)
Yeah, it went pretty bad, but my friends were impressed, thinking i had game and ****. I looked like **** during it too, i just woke up from a nap, my hair was messy and I probably had bad breath. Later i try to get my friend to talk to her and this is where it ****ing crashes and burns (I do this when shes talking to another guy, my ****ing mistake):
Me: Hey Hb7 (i hit her on the shoulder like she was my bro, lol wtf was i thinking) This is my friend Friend.
Friend: Hi (She then says hi and goes back to talking to guy friend and we're here standing like idiots)
Me: (Dont what to do so i ask: ) Hey Hb7 what grade are you in?
Hb7: 9th (turns back on us for guy friend)
Then we leave because of how bad it went. Yeah that was ****... I see her around several times later and i kinda just ignore her thinking i ****ed up (but i didnt let it get me down i was just hangin with my friends) Everytime i pass her by, out of the corner of my eye, i see her look at me. But i don't make eye contact cuz deep down I feel awkward. While walking with my friends i decide to delete her number (that was just me trying to look awesome in front of my friend and making it look like getting numbers was easy but i think i regret it now. Eh, she was kinda young for me anyway).
Later she passes me by one more time and I ignore her again but then she says: "Hey what was your name, I never got it?" So i tell her my name and then im just like okay bye. Perhaps a possible interest or curiosity because she wouldnt have asked if she thought i was completely terrible.
It was my first cold-approach and while it would seem pretty bad for most people on this board, this was a really inspiring step for me, because I feel motivated to f*** b****es now. Im going to get back in shape again during winter break, mostly for track season (I used to lift weights, not alot, because my parents are strict *Asian* and don't want me to hurt myself or buy me weights, but i got lazy). Gotta work on my conversation skills and charisma overall. Also need to get a new haircut and eat better. So yeah wish me luck, probably won't do many of these journals though.
*not that it matters but I remember that there was a small conversation about bowties I had with her. She complimented mine and I tried to play with that to keep the conversation going. She then talked about a bowtie she had and I was like "oh thats cute!".
12-20-13
Today I had a band concert, and a few friends and I were just hanging around when a friend of mine sees a girl he thinks is really cute. So here i am trying to get him to talk to her and he just wont. Then a wire flicks inside my head and I decide im gonna try to show off i guess and get her number. I walk up to her- shes with two of her friends, a fat girl, and a really skinny beta looking kid- and this is how the convo pretty much went:
Me: hey whats up, are you guys in concert band?
Hb7: What's concert band, you mean intermediate band? (pretty stupid question)
Me: Yea, intermediate band.
Hb7: Yea we are
Me: That's cool (I totally ****ing suck at conversation, even when im with my friends, im just kind of introverted)... So what instrument do you guys play? (kind of a stupid question on my part considering two of them are ****ing hold clarinets)
Beta: I play percussion
Fat chick and hb7: we play clarinet
Me: Thats cool (was running out of **** to say leading me to...) So whats your number?
Hb7:(she kind like laughs in astonishment i guess because of my bluntness and being an underclassmen shes probably never been hit on) *gives me number*
Me: What's your name? (i ****ing forgot to introduce myself and ask their names first.)
Hb7: Hb7
Me: Ok I gotta get going see you around (i give her a really awkward handshake, she was all like *wtf are you doing ohh a handshake*)
Yeah, it went pretty bad, but my friends were impressed, thinking i had game and ****. I looked like **** during it too, i just woke up from a nap, my hair was messy and I probably had bad breath. Later i try to get my friend to talk to her and this is where it ****ing crashes and burns (I do this when shes talking to another guy, my ****ing mistake):
Me: Hey Hb7 (i hit her on the shoulder like she was my bro, lol wtf was i thinking) This is my friend Friend.
Friend: Hi (She then says hi and goes back to talking to guy friend and we're here standing like idiots)
Me: (Dont what to do so i ask: ) Hey Hb7 what grade are you in?
Hb7: 9th (turns back on us for guy friend)
Then we leave because of how bad it went. Yeah that was ****... I see her around several times later and i kinda just ignore her thinking i ****ed up (but i didnt let it get me down i was just hangin with my friends) Everytime i pass her by, out of the corner of my eye, i see her look at me. But i don't make eye contact cuz deep down I feel awkward. While walking with my friends i decide to delete her number (that was just me trying to look awesome in front of my friend and making it look like getting numbers was easy but i think i regret it now. Eh, she was kinda young for me anyway).
Later she passes me by one more time and I ignore her again but then she says: "Hey what was your name, I never got it?" So i tell her my name and then im just like okay bye. Perhaps a possible interest or curiosity because she wouldnt have asked if she thought i was completely terrible.
It was my first cold-approach and while it would seem pretty bad for most people on this board, this was a really inspiring step for me, because I feel motivated to f*** b****es now. Im going to get back in shape again during winter break, mostly for track season (I used to lift weights, not alot, because my parents are strict *Asian* and don't want me to hurt myself or buy me weights, but i got lazy). Gotta work on my conversation skills and charisma overall. Also need to get a new haircut and eat better. So yeah wish me luck, probably won't do many of these journals though.
*not that it matters but I remember that there was a small conversation about bowties I had with her. She complimented mine and I tried to play with that to keep the conversation going. She then talked about a bowtie she had and I was like "oh thats cute!".
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