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Looking at porn decreases confidence?

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I think too much can really warp a persons sense of arousal vs excitabilty..like you get off more on watching sex vs actually having it.that would suck lol...
 

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Luke Skywalker said:
Looking at porn or not looking at porn has not made any difference in my life with women. For example, I did not look at porn between April 13, 2007 and September 28th, 2007 and didn't see much difference then when I looked at some porn earlier, or since September 28th. One thing I noticed is I've disciplined my mind where, if I allow a parameter of viewing porn, I most likely will take advantage of the parameter of viewing it and actually view it rather than exercise restraint, if I dont allow a parameter and put a gun to my head (i.e. cancel internet service) then I wont view it period. So it seems that I have to usually be tough with myself.

Right now I'm not looking at any porn since I have a tightly regulated policy - and may only allow a couple of hours a month of soft-core porn consumption up to December, failing which, I'll cancel my internet service (never been triggered before, but I know I mean business). This limited consumption is allowed because my prior gf dumped me on September 28, 2007, and that was our last meeting and I dont have a relationship. Should the relationship has passed that date - then there wouldn't even be any allowance of porn.
Again - I feel I have a right to look at a very limited amount of soft-core porn because I dont have a relationship and thus dont think life is fair in that regard.
dude.....this post somehow sucked all the fun out of porn.
 

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LJC said:
It only decreases confidence if you believe the women in these videos are actually enjoying it.


LJC said:
Mr. Wolf said:
It only decreases confidence if you believe the women in these videos are actually enjoying it.

How's that?
Because there are a lot of guys out there that don't realize what they're seeing in porn is over-acting for the camera. I think for some guys, it can make their own sex lives seem boring and/or inadequate because the women they are actually sleeping with aren't reacting in the same way a porn actress does.

I think it just boils down to a lack of sexual experience and the realization of it.

You remind me of a guy who said they don't shoot porn from start to finish, they do many different takes, because a guy could never last longer than a minute or minute and a half.. :crackup:


Nah, I think you're wrong. I know you're wrong. Women do everything, as long as they are pushed into it.. That way they have an excuse for doing slvtty things.


You basically telling me that women don't give amazing blow jobs, don't lick balls, and don't swallow ***.. Don't do anal, or ass to mouth.. Don't fvck between titties, or foot massage d1cks..

Bubba, women do what you want them to do. They might come across as they don't want it to do, but they really really want it to do.. They simply need a boss who will tell them to do it.. If you don't push the girl into doing slvtty things, she will never do them. If she does you might think she's a slvt, thus it's not safe for her.

Every woman wants a sexual man who will create opportunity for sex and push her boundaries..
 

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I see.......


I though you were saying what you see in porn is fun, but in real life women just lay on their backs and don't enjoy sex.. I was like, wtf? Anyway, thanks for clearing things up for me.. Now I see what you're saying..

This stuff would apply to most men who don't know how to get women do wild things.
 

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PORN IS POISON STAY AWAY !!! its psychologically unhealthy and addicting, spend your time with a hobby or doing something fitness related. Stay away from television and porn !!!! It is part of the mind control corporations use to retard men in this country, just like how television has retarded the intelligence of women. !

TAKE A STAND and SAY NO TO PORN !!
 

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I only like European catfight lesbian tribbing porn bc they are aggressive, showing that hot chicks Do really like to bang it out, masterbate, throw down in the bed, AND orgasm for real. Seeing the dominant chick prevail while speaking in another stone-aged language turns me on. They are pretty damn naive ("I'm better than you" "No, I am the better/stronger than you" "I win" "I will make you come, you loser" "You cannot defeat me" like Rocky IV is all they've ever watched growing up). Those Russian, slavic chicks so hot "You cannot even get a man, loser." Some of them really get carnal - can fvck like a man - and know how to turn another woman into complete orgasmic bliss. You can learn from that. If I was a woman, I'd be lesbian, bc I'd want to feel a woman's soft body and t1tties.
 

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OK deal with reality like its meant to be dealt with.

Now some of you do not have women in hand to have sex with and you are frustrated...to a point where it affects your work and you are salivating looking at any woman that passes your line of sight. Now in a situation like this IT IS RECOMMENDED YOU EASE THOSE ENGINES OF YOURS BY WATCHING SOME PORN. it will only do you good.. no harm. you will be relaxed less desperate and you can get on with work.
So yea, it basically depends on the situation.

when i don't shag and am in the company of women, i feel a lil 'desperate'.. uneasy and not myself.. and this shows! when i shag, I am totally cool.. chilling, not bothered about what a woman thinks about me... funnily enough it gives me confidence!

its like thirst. you haven't had water and there is large drum of cold pure water that's got a tap and its dripping. Im so sure you'd wanna slide your tongue like a chimp and place it below the stream... its the same with women and shagging

whatever you do, just don't turn into an addiction/obsession. thats all.. you'll be fine
 

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How did you quit?

I've been trying to but I can't do it.
I found this website called www.no-porn.com. I read some posts on their forum about how porn was ruining people's marriages, minds, and lives. I was seriously addicted. I would look at porn for up to 4 hours at a time. I thought to myself, I could be doing something so much better with my time. Afterwards when I "finished", I always felt TERRIBLE. I would feel a tremendous amount of guilt. I'm a virgin, and the thought of ruining my sex life in the future helped A LOT. Good luck to you and to all you others, beware you can become addicted too!
 

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Not masterbating makes you desirable among women, no ifs, ands, or buts about it. It's like taking the magic pill, and it's free. Just don't do it more than once a week. If you go out on the weekend and don't get laid, then reward yourself with letting it go, or maybe you can excuse yourself from wasting it and choose to do it next weekend if you don't get lucky. The more you prolong it, and keep yourself busy, they better you'll be. Women will start to see you as someone they'd like to hop on and work her stuff. They can sense that there's stuff in you building up, and it's her job to get it out. Not whacking helps you & her to be more natural when getting close/touching each other.
 
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I am going to have to disagree with the whole porn chicks are not enjoying thing.

Several porn stars are addicted to sex and "love" what they do. They actually request certain other stars to work with.

I have talked with a porn camera man and he says that with the higher quaility porn is usually always real on the girls part. They have to edit certain scenes for obvious reasons.

The girl on girl scenes are usually the most real. The anal scenes not so much.

Peace

p.s I met my favorite porn star and got a kiss from her. On the cheek of course

peace
 
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tj said:
p.s I met my favorite porn star and got a kiss from her. On the cheek of course

peace

was there a free clinic on the spot to help disinfect your cheek? lol:whistle:

I really don't understand whacking off..I used to do it alot when I was younger but what do you all do when you just need to pound or fawk something?

rubbing one out just doesn't cut it..
 

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It's harmless once a week or two if you're not getting regular action. But don't make it a habit, or it will consume you like a drug.
 

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Reluctant_Seducer said:
I hate porn..all it does is entice you to jerk off,then you're all alone again lol..
what's the point? yeah it feels good and the release and all but it's a totally jipped way to get off..i'd prefer a night of extended foreplay even with no actual sex ( but still getting off) rather then just watching porn...
no way.
 

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I have to jerk off at least twice a day just to make myself actually go to sleep. I guess I have an insane sex drive? All's I can say is that it has not affected my game in the least bit. I probably whack it more when I'm actually involved with someone sexually. It's all a hoax
 

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DrD77 said:
I was seriously addicted. I would look at porn for up to 4 hours at a time. Afterwards when I "finished", I always felt TERRIBLE. I would feel a tremendous amount of guilt. I'm a virgin, and the thought of ruining my sex life in the future helped A LOT

How can it ruin your future sex life? It's not like we have 22 year old girls ready and willing at our doorstep. What else can we do?

I always tell my friends, "find me a cute girlfriend who is young and I will stop watching porn immediately". Since they can't find me one, I always go back to it.

It's not as harmful as you guys think it is.
 

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Mr. Wolf said:
You basically telling me that women don't give amazing blow jobs, don't lick balls, and don't swallow ***.. Don't do anal, or ass to mouth.. Don't fvck between titties, or foot massage d1cks..

Bubba, women do what you want them to do. They might come across as they don't want it to do, but they really really want it to do.. They simply need a boss who will tell them to do it.. If you don't push the girl into doing slvtty things, she will never do them. If she does you might think she's a slvt, thus it's not safe for her.

Every woman wants a sexual man who will create opportunity for sex and push her boundaries..
Very true. I've had girls do all that stuff. As long as they can blame you and say, "It just happened," then they can justify it to themselves. But they're afraid of it damaging their reputation if they initiate it.

I like Chris Rock's quote on this, "Your girl is freakier than you could ever imagine. You can get her to do anything if you say that shìt like a man."
 

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Poonani Maker said:
Not masterbating makes you desirable among women, no ifs, ands, or buts about it. It's like taking the magic pill, and it's free.

I stopped for 5 weeks and women talked to me even less.

I had never seen so many women so happy.
 

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i stopped watching porn and masterbating for 12 months. that sh1t gave me a boner every time I saw a woman...whenever i would have a hard-on it would be as stiff as icicles in an alaskan eskimoe.. i sometimes wouldn't be able to control it, i would just be walking around town, tent in my pants... it got me more attention.
 

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I read somewhere that there was a study done and that looking at porn decreases confidence in males or something... is this a load of BS or what?

It decreases confidence in some men when they see guys who have 8-9 inch dongs and they have have 5-6 tops LOL I can see how some guy could get a little down on themselves(me included)

Penis enlargement pills are a huge money maker for the porn industry. Watch any porn on cable and you see this stuff advertised every second. It's a complete scam targeting all the guys who watch porn pulling on their 6 inch dong and the chicks in the movies are get filled up with monster rods LOL

The study has plenty of truth
 
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