It's been so long since the day I waltzed onto this site in a fit of depression, looking for quick fixes that aid me in the attainment of a woman. Those days are long gone. The DJ knows that social lifestyle and interacting with women does not involve only one method, but rather a whole toolbox. Some tools are good for certain situations and more than one tool is required for the job. You cannot learn eye contact and expect to get laid the next day. You cannot learn the universal chat up line (which is "Hi", by the way) and expect kisses. Rather, you learn everything you possibly can then work slowly on implementing each trait into your lifestyle and maybe in a few years, you'll start realising the change they have made. You'll wake up and realise you have a hot babe next to you. Now that you know one simple thing isn't going to change you into a stud, let me describe anyway the concept of the most powerful weapon in the DJ arsenal, the magnetised screwdriver of your toolbox, the item that puts all others together: KINESTHETICS Introduction Many years have I spent on the quest of Kino. It was a new concept to me once. I would pray to God for a girl but wouldn't touch one, for fear of death and destruction. The fantasies we conjure can be very powerful illusions that have a very small chance of happening in real life. You hit a man on the shoulder, you get punched in the face You hug a girl, she looks at you stupid You brush the shoulder of a girl you know as you walk past, she gets a gang of boys to run after you Sure, there is a distinct possibility of each of these happening. This is because you look as though you expect these sorts of things when you perform those actions Humans need to be touched a few times a day, less you go mental and have to commit yourself to the mental institution. Kino case study Let's pretend you're corageous enough to do an approach. You see a girl whose rating is equal to yours (you think you're a 5? Your choice, but I'm working with an 8 here). For reasons beyond your comprehension, you have good conversational skill and are very witty. What can you do to this girl physically, having just met her? Shake hands Is this a good thing? It can be. It can also work against you. For example: "HI! I'm Nick!" Hold out your hand "Eh... ok..." Subtle touching You hug her "Err... could you leave me alone?" Was that subtle? Kiss her This is still your first time, but without a clue, you go for a kiss anyway "HELP! HELP! RAPE!" Confused? Do you know why I led you into these terrible examples? Let me ask you this: Are you now afraid to use Kino on a girl? Think of it this way: This could be why so many people fail to use Kino as a tool. They try it, and noticing the results of their mistakes, they back off and wonder why bad advice was given. KINO IS A LEARNED PRACTICE If she notices, you failed, yet your aim is to get her to notice. The trick is to get her to notice, without thinking that what you are doing is strange. Remember, you're a great conversationalist, but that doesn't help immensely. Conversation just proves that you're safe, and not a psycho. KINO IS MORE POWERFUL SUBTLE TOUCHING That is what Kino is. Assume you now went on a date (obviously not with the same girl. You did a lot of community service for your antics and there's a restraining order in effect). A fun date. Ice skating. Think of the immesurable POSSIBILITIES for getting your touches in! You can go up to her when she falls and pick her up, wipe off the ice, and take her back to the side After skating seperately for a while, you meet up again, and you can hold hands and skate together She's ahead of you, and you race up to her, put your hands on her shoulders, give them a squeeze. She looks around, you go to her front, she notices its you What does Kino say? With each touch you intrude on her comfort level. If you intrude too much, you'll get the court order. If you intrude too little (by not intruding at all) you'll be considered an absolutely safe person. You'll make a good friend. After a while of this, any intrusion = scary, because she's not used to it. You walk past someone you've known for about two weeks. You give them a brush on the shoulder. She turns, you wink, you carry on walking. What does this say? "I'm not scared to touch you. This is what I want to do, so I do it. I'm a man who knows what he wants and how to get it. Sorry!" BE CAREFUL. IF DONE BADLY, IT CAN ALSO SAY: "I'm a chump who needs to touch everyone to get any sense of satisfaction. This is why I'm not smiling at you even though you're now looking at me. I also forgot to wink, but I hope that wasn't a problem for you. I'm intruding like Nick said, but I'm starting to assume that you're thinking I'm kinda deadly." We've already established that Kinesthetics say more than words, and are more important than words. Treat others as you would have them treat you An amazing discovery you will make is the fact that women will grow accustomed to your touch and will touch you back. You heard me. An American woman called Joanna came over to my University last term. I met her and she was very nice to me (she wanted to make some Welsh friends, so I took that opportunity). Absolutely no touching on our first meeting, none from me. I then saw her the next week. Talked to her and applied some Kino. I can sense a lot of people want precision so here it is: As I asked her about whether or not she wanted to come to a certain event in the following week, I wanted to encourage her to come, so while saying the words "Come on! You know you want to!", I moved my right hand up to her upper arm, left it there for a very short time of one quarter of a second, and moved it down without looking at my arm and what it was doing, without changing the expression on my face, without moving my feet and without moving the other arm. It's worth noting this important fact: Had I left the arm there for 1/10th a second, it would say to her "I'm too scared to touch you, I shouldn't have done that. Sorry". Leave it there for a whole second, and it can do say of two things (1) You're too needy or (2) You're very confident. The one she chooses is based on her own interest level in you. Rapport is proportional to sexiness here. There's a very fine margin in the timing. In our next meeting, we were away on a "House Party" (a Christian one, there were 50 of us there). SHE INITIATED KINO when we met. Her reception to me was certainly even warmer than before. (Of course, I continued with the kino as the weeks went on. She's now back over there in America, and thats why I didn't persue anything, because our availability was too short.) Women are better at touching than men initially are. If women know its safe to touch you, they will. Side effects of Kino There are some interesting side effects that work to your advantage. They are expressed as phrases your mind could say as you touch someone (just to make it easier for you) "I'm touching ya. I'm creating challenge because you don't know whether or not I really like you. Everything you know is a guess, and you may have to start touching me to see if I let you." "I am really confident. I didn't pre-plan this touch. It just happened. I'm not even thinking about it right now, but I know when we part, you will think of my touching." "Sorry girl, I'm not like other men. Most won't touch you. They can't find the balance nor are they willing to try. Even if you look at me stupid, you're at fault (or I am, and if that is the case, I'll work on it)." "This is second nature to me. I need no excuse for my sexuality, and this is why I haven't sat you aside to tell you my intentions to touch you subtly."