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Kotrin
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Everyone heard The Treatment a number of times : "let's just be friends".
It's hard to hear because women have no idea of the guts it takes to ask them out. They put men off this way, which can hide several meanings that can be translated more or less in the following :
"I'm not interested in you but I appreciate the way you court me and I would like you to continue."
Most of the time they do not intend to become our friends because friendship is something that require an exchange. Easy to test : accept and ask anything in return (even a phone call "you call me next time"), you'll never get it. They just want to suck you for more attention.
Then, friendship is something that happens, not something planned. Did you ever said to your friends in older times that you PLANNED to become friends with them ?
Any woman using this line does not deserve to become a friend of mine. Because she does not plan to become a friend. Because she relies on my feelings to get my attention while not caring for me nor providing anything in return. Because she lies, because she tries to manipulate me, because she think I am not man enough to handle the truth or too shy to tell it. Like telling me bull**** was not hurting my feelings.
Therefore, I refuse. When I hear those words and recognize them for what they mean, I usually stare and smile for a couple of seconds and reply "Thanks, but I already have plenty." (which is true). Then I wish goodbye and walk away.
Bear in mind that if you receive The Treatment you ALREADY LOST. There is nothing left to save. Yet many men sadly accept the deal in a foolish hope to turn it later into something more, or to keep within reach the target of their shattered feelings. Some of them are even cynical enough to think that the lady will connect them with her female friends - be sure then that prior to this unlikely meeting the "friend" will be presented as a lame looser wimp.
At least if you refuse, you'll recover most of the proudness lost in rejection, and you will act like a man, able to handle. Don't be rude, don't yell, just refuse, politely. It will bring you respect and a clean cut.
Kotrin
It's hard to hear because women have no idea of the guts it takes to ask them out. They put men off this way, which can hide several meanings that can be translated more or less in the following :
"I'm not interested in you but I appreciate the way you court me and I would like you to continue."
Most of the time they do not intend to become our friends because friendship is something that require an exchange. Easy to test : accept and ask anything in return (even a phone call "you call me next time"), you'll never get it. They just want to suck you for more attention.
Then, friendship is something that happens, not something planned. Did you ever said to your friends in older times that you PLANNED to become friends with them ?
Any woman using this line does not deserve to become a friend of mine. Because she does not plan to become a friend. Because she relies on my feelings to get my attention while not caring for me nor providing anything in return. Because she lies, because she tries to manipulate me, because she think I am not man enough to handle the truth or too shy to tell it. Like telling me bull**** was not hurting my feelings.
Therefore, I refuse. When I hear those words and recognize them for what they mean, I usually stare and smile for a couple of seconds and reply "Thanks, but I already have plenty." (which is true). Then I wish goodbye and walk away.
Bear in mind that if you receive The Treatment you ALREADY LOST. There is nothing left to save. Yet many men sadly accept the deal in a foolish hope to turn it later into something more, or to keep within reach the target of their shattered feelings. Some of them are even cynical enough to think that the lady will connect them with her female friends - be sure then that prior to this unlikely meeting the "friend" will be presented as a lame looser wimp.
At least if you refuse, you'll recover most of the proudness lost in rejection, and you will act like a man, able to handle. Don't be rude, don't yell, just refuse, politely. It will bring you respect and a clean cut.
Kotrin
