disgustipated
Master Don Juan
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So yeah here it goes. I already know I'll be called a fag by Burroughs, probably rightfully so...but I'm in this situation so ill be honest. And truth is I value every man' s opinion here.
Just past the 6 month mark with this gal, 40 yo with a 8 yo boy who adores me, he doesn't listen well. Our reoccurring issue is that my energy is either not high enough or too.negative when we do stuff that I don't necessarily want to do. The first time being a vacation where I pulled it together and try to give her the best time despite a rocky start....the last day I didn't give her one thing she asked for and she threw a fit. Mini breakup. After that I had been making a concentrated effort to be more engaged in all activities we did. Things were going pretty good.
About 3 weeks ago we go bowling, to commemerate our first date. We had this fun competitive vibe back and forth about who's going to kick who's ass. I deliberately let her barely beat me on our first date and she ate it up! This time, I'm slacking to make it interesting and its super close in the last frame. Her son was bowling before me and accidentally bowled my first ball of my 10th frame, gutter ball. I'm not pissed...**** happens. I almost pick up the spare, whatever. She bowls and doesn't even get a spare but beats me. So jokingly, I say you know that doesn't count right because I didn't bowl my tenth frame all the way. She gets all pissy saying I'm a sore loser...kind of an odd reaction. But her demeanor changes at start of next game. No more high fives, eye contact etc. So I say **** it, I.demolish her this time. By the 6 th frame its a wrap. But she's being cold and im done with it. I calmly take my shoes off and return them. Sheasks wtf I'm doing, I say I'm not supporting this type of behavior from her by indulging her with my participation. We make.up later that night.
A.week later she's comes out to.my new place. I hop in shower before she gets there but leave door unlocked for her. I leave.my phone outside of bathroom like I normally do. I get out to a missed call, 3 txt messages saying wtf am I..if I don't answer in 5 minutes she's turning around to go home. I almost texted her back, take your ass home then. Turns out she tried to get in but didn't push hard enough on the door....wtf right? No apology for the ****ty text. Rest of weekend was hot cold. No sex, she said yeast infection. Plausible, she's a nasty one.before with me.
This past Tuesday...this might be last.straw here. I work a 11 hour shift on my feet, very physical job. Leave from work, head 45 mins to her place. Throw in laundry, grab a shower. We go to a concert she's been dying to go to for months. I really am not into the band at all. I'm doing this for her. As were walking up,.we are joking back and forth playfully. She's says something sarcastically about her being the best gf that sees her man every.weekend, so in my dry ass humor.response say somethin like I'm painfully aware. One glance over and her mouth is wide open, all incredulous but with a hint of smile. Acting offended when its obvious by the smile that she got that I was joking. I ignore her for a bit. When I finally look at her she is totally ****ing pissed. Then I get pissed. Comments are made. Awkward silence again. At some point we both silently figure out to snap out of it. I loosen up.and she does. As much as I can enjoy this band, I do. Decent show. Now getting home was a nightmare. We both had de road.rage. I.get 3 hours o sleep and head off to work. I feel,.minus the argument it was a decent night and a great effort put in by me. The number of girls there to men was staggering, which told me a lot of bfs did NOT go....I did. The straight guys there did not seem any more enthused than me.
Next day she doesn't text me once, she usually texts a lot. So finally she comes out with it...she feels like I ruined her night again sorta. Even with the effort I put in.this time. I go on to point out this and all the ****ty things she did and does Blah Blah Blah. We agree to not spend time together this weekend. She actually suggested we "break" this weekend, which is absolutely fine with me EXCEPT I know what this usually.means. Two caveats to that though,.I've actually suggested a weekend break before and I actually prefer a weekend break from time to time but unspoken. This is the first time she's suggested it...and she made two comments....she definitely wanted to make clear it was just for the weekend and no longer, and she said something odd in that don't worry I'm not going to go wild by going clubbin'. Wtf? I've never given her a hint of jealousy in all our time. She also texted me you know I love you right? . Why would I question that, odd question I thought.
I know that usually distant behavior precipitating the let's break line is sign of she's checked out or checking out. This coupled with her inability to appreciate me is making me pre empting anything from her and ending it...unless....she seriously comes back with some unprovoked apologetic words.
Advice? Opinions?
Just past the 6 month mark with this gal, 40 yo with a 8 yo boy who adores me, he doesn't listen well. Our reoccurring issue is that my energy is either not high enough or too.negative when we do stuff that I don't necessarily want to do. The first time being a vacation where I pulled it together and try to give her the best time despite a rocky start....the last day I didn't give her one thing she asked for and she threw a fit. Mini breakup. After that I had been making a concentrated effort to be more engaged in all activities we did. Things were going pretty good.
About 3 weeks ago we go bowling, to commemerate our first date. We had this fun competitive vibe back and forth about who's going to kick who's ass. I deliberately let her barely beat me on our first date and she ate it up! This time, I'm slacking to make it interesting and its super close in the last frame. Her son was bowling before me and accidentally bowled my first ball of my 10th frame, gutter ball. I'm not pissed...**** happens. I almost pick up the spare, whatever. She bowls and doesn't even get a spare but beats me. So jokingly, I say you know that doesn't count right because I didn't bowl my tenth frame all the way. She gets all pissy saying I'm a sore loser...kind of an odd reaction. But her demeanor changes at start of next game. No more high fives, eye contact etc. So I say **** it, I.demolish her this time. By the 6 th frame its a wrap. But she's being cold and im done with it. I calmly take my shoes off and return them. Sheasks wtf I'm doing, I say I'm not supporting this type of behavior from her by indulging her with my participation. We make.up later that night.
A.week later she's comes out to.my new place. I hop in shower before she gets there but leave door unlocked for her. I leave.my phone outside of bathroom like I normally do. I get out to a missed call, 3 txt messages saying wtf am I..if I don't answer in 5 minutes she's turning around to go home. I almost texted her back, take your ass home then. Turns out she tried to get in but didn't push hard enough on the door....wtf right? No apology for the ****ty text. Rest of weekend was hot cold. No sex, she said yeast infection. Plausible, she's a nasty one.before with me.
This past Tuesday...this might be last.straw here. I work a 11 hour shift on my feet, very physical job. Leave from work, head 45 mins to her place. Throw in laundry, grab a shower. We go to a concert she's been dying to go to for months. I really am not into the band at all. I'm doing this for her. As were walking up,.we are joking back and forth playfully. She's says something sarcastically about her being the best gf that sees her man every.weekend, so in my dry ass humor.response say somethin like I'm painfully aware. One glance over and her mouth is wide open, all incredulous but with a hint of smile. Acting offended when its obvious by the smile that she got that I was joking. I ignore her for a bit. When I finally look at her she is totally ****ing pissed. Then I get pissed. Comments are made. Awkward silence again. At some point we both silently figure out to snap out of it. I loosen up.and she does. As much as I can enjoy this band, I do. Decent show. Now getting home was a nightmare. We both had de road.rage. I.get 3 hours o sleep and head off to work. I feel,.minus the argument it was a decent night and a great effort put in by me. The number of girls there to men was staggering, which told me a lot of bfs did NOT go....I did. The straight guys there did not seem any more enthused than me.
Next day she doesn't text me once, she usually texts a lot. So finally she comes out with it...she feels like I ruined her night again sorta. Even with the effort I put in.this time. I go on to point out this and all the ****ty things she did and does Blah Blah Blah. We agree to not spend time together this weekend. She actually suggested we "break" this weekend, which is absolutely fine with me EXCEPT I know what this usually.means. Two caveats to that though,.I've actually suggested a weekend break before and I actually prefer a weekend break from time to time but unspoken. This is the first time she's suggested it...and she made two comments....she definitely wanted to make clear it was just for the weekend and no longer, and she said something odd in that don't worry I'm not going to go wild by going clubbin'. Wtf? I've never given her a hint of jealousy in all our time. She also texted me you know I love you right? . Why would I question that, odd question I thought.
I know that usually distant behavior precipitating the let's break line is sign of she's checked out or checking out. This coupled with her inability to appreciate me is making me pre empting anything from her and ending it...unless....she seriously comes back with some unprovoked apologetic words.
Advice? Opinions?
