Hey guys,
First time poster!
Basically, I'll give you some brief (as possible) background to my problem:
Dating a girl, seen her around 4-5 times. Slept with her twice. Everything going swimmingly. Mutual contact on both ends, not too much, not too little. Seemed really into me.
Her horse got put down on sat morning (she went from my house early), she texts me to say sorry she had to leave early and to tell me this. That day, I basically smoother her. I dont usually smoother girls, but I was just being caring, given the situation. I also did this to her on sunday. we we're supposed to do something, but she ended up going to the stables to clear stuff out (totally understandable), but then i asked her to do something at night blahblah pressurising her to see me basically. She didn't. I spoke to her that sunday night, she told me it was overwhelming, that she had a lot on that weekend and she didn't even know me that well. She said she still wants to continue with it, but just needs a bit of space to breathe. I apologised to her, and said I wasn't usually like that (I'm not), but it was just the situation, I obviously misjudged it. And that I would give her that space.
Ever since then, she talks to me, but its not the same at all. She initiates convo on facebook. But she doesnt really text anymore. Also, when she is talking to me on facebook, it isn't really the same either.
I got tickets for a gig for us to go to when everything was going ok. Because of all this, I have no idea whether she is coming or not. I asked her on monday, and she said she will still be coming. But I hinted again later on in the week, and asked her whether she wanted me to drive or whether she wanted to. She just said she was logging off and said goodbye. However, she was at work, and it was like 16:58. I decided, from speaking to people, that I should just leave it for a while, not mention it etc. I don't initiate convo with her on facebook, she does with me, but I do talk back obviously. I texted her today to ask whether she was coming. Pretty cool about it. hey, how are you, do you still want to come tomorrow. She texted back pretty rapidly saying that she has been ill today. I do believe this, she posted a facebook status last night saying she is about to die. she said she'd had the day off work today aswell. but told me her show went really well. more importantly, she said 'i do wanna come, but i dunno how i'll be'. this is the question:
Do I take this at face value? she has been ill. Normally, I would, I would totally understand etc. But its just given the context that its in. Should I look more into this? I am a bugger for over-analysis and rumination.
The problem is, its starting to get me a bit down. I don't know why. I really liked the girl, and she really liked me, before all this sh*t. I don't know how to take it. I have texted her back (hour and a half later) just saying, sorry to hear about your illness, but glad show went good. do u want to let me know by tomoro then.
Should I just leave it at that? Or should I give her a ring tomorrow afternoon if she hasn't let me know. Its just that in her text she did say that she did wanna go. And she is ill, im not doubting that. She actually been complaining about it all week.
I'm sorry if this is a long post, but thought it needed a bit of context before I asked the more immediate questions. If only I put this much effort into uni work!
Any more details, just ask. Thanks for your help
First time poster!
Basically, I'll give you some brief (as possible) background to my problem:
Dating a girl, seen her around 4-5 times. Slept with her twice. Everything going swimmingly. Mutual contact on both ends, not too much, not too little. Seemed really into me.
Her horse got put down on sat morning (she went from my house early), she texts me to say sorry she had to leave early and to tell me this. That day, I basically smoother her. I dont usually smoother girls, but I was just being caring, given the situation. I also did this to her on sunday. we we're supposed to do something, but she ended up going to the stables to clear stuff out (totally understandable), but then i asked her to do something at night blahblah pressurising her to see me basically. She didn't. I spoke to her that sunday night, she told me it was overwhelming, that she had a lot on that weekend and she didn't even know me that well. She said she still wants to continue with it, but just needs a bit of space to breathe. I apologised to her, and said I wasn't usually like that (I'm not), but it was just the situation, I obviously misjudged it. And that I would give her that space.
Ever since then, she talks to me, but its not the same at all. She initiates convo on facebook. But she doesnt really text anymore. Also, when she is talking to me on facebook, it isn't really the same either.
I got tickets for a gig for us to go to when everything was going ok. Because of all this, I have no idea whether she is coming or not. I asked her on monday, and she said she will still be coming. But I hinted again later on in the week, and asked her whether she wanted me to drive or whether she wanted to. She just said she was logging off and said goodbye. However, she was at work, and it was like 16:58. I decided, from speaking to people, that I should just leave it for a while, not mention it etc. I don't initiate convo with her on facebook, she does with me, but I do talk back obviously. I texted her today to ask whether she was coming. Pretty cool about it. hey, how are you, do you still want to come tomorrow. She texted back pretty rapidly saying that she has been ill today. I do believe this, she posted a facebook status last night saying she is about to die. she said she'd had the day off work today aswell. but told me her show went really well. more importantly, she said 'i do wanna come, but i dunno how i'll be'. this is the question:
Do I take this at face value? she has been ill. Normally, I would, I would totally understand etc. But its just given the context that its in. Should I look more into this? I am a bugger for over-analysis and rumination.
The problem is, its starting to get me a bit down. I don't know why. I really liked the girl, and she really liked me, before all this sh*t. I don't know how to take it. I have texted her back (hour and a half later) just saying, sorry to hear about your illness, but glad show went good. do u want to let me know by tomoro then.
Should I just leave it at that? Or should I give her a ring tomorrow afternoon if she hasn't let me know. Its just that in her text she did say that she did wanna go. And she is ill, im not doubting that. She actually been complaining about it all week.
I'm sorry if this is a long post, but thought it needed a bit of context before I asked the more immediate questions. If only I put this much effort into uni work!
Any more details, just ask. Thanks for your help