Is she afraid or just not attracted
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Ok, so I called her yesterday at 8 pm, she didn't pick up or call back. I've sent her an SMS today suggesting a date in the evening and after two hours she replied she couldn't because she's meeting with her school mates and suggested wednesday afternoon instead.
I honestly feel I'm loosing her. What do you think I should do/say?
Check Pugsley's progress with his to-be wife and understand my frustration... I feel what I'm experiencing is some sort of cold love and I don't like it at all. I don't expect her to cancel all her friends because of me, but I expect at least some sort of.. will to spend her available time with me or at least to return my calls, I mean, for christ sake, how much time does it take to call and say 'hi, I'm busy right now, call you later' or send an SMS while she's brushing her teeth before bedtime?? And don't say I should chill, there's absolutely nothing irrational in my thinking, besides, I am chilled, and worried.
Help?
I honestly feel I'm loosing her. What do you think I should do/say?
Check Pugsley's progress with his to-be wife and understand my frustration... I feel what I'm experiencing is some sort of cold love and I don't like it at all. I don't expect her to cancel all her friends because of me, but I expect at least some sort of.. will to spend her available time with me or at least to return my calls, I mean, for christ sake, how much time does it take to call and say 'hi, I'm busy right now, call you later' or send an SMS while she's brushing her teeth before bedtime?? And don't say I should chill, there's absolutely nothing irrational in my thinking, besides, I am chilled, and worried.
Help?
Great, this thread has become a f* diary.
Another !!!!UPDATE!!!!
She's sent me a 'let's meet tomorrow, there's something I need to tell you' SMS. Oh, is that so? As if I f* didn't see it f* coming f* miles away.
You think perchance I might salvage this with some cunning verbal strategy?
Right, move on.. But I'm still f* pissed off. Goddamnit.
Oh, and regarding the thread title question, it seemed to have turned out to be the latter, I'm afraid, but tomorrow I will however try to blame the first option in the conversation, but I have serious doubts of achieving any goddamn thing. Girls, f* you.
Another !!!!UPDATE!!!!
She's sent me a 'let's meet tomorrow, there's something I need to tell you' SMS. Oh, is that so? As if I f* didn't see it f* coming f* miles away.
You think perchance I might salvage this with some cunning verbal strategy?
Right, move on.. But I'm still f* pissed off. Goddamnit.
Oh, and regarding the thread title question, it seemed to have turned out to be the latter, I'm afraid, but tomorrow I will however try to blame the first option in the conversation, but I have serious doubts of achieving any goddamn thing. Girls, f* you.
MrCode
Senior Don Juan
You drove her away with your wussiness, plain and simple. I thought wussiness was mostly an American trait but it seems to be international now.
Don't take offense I'm not trying to disrespect you, I'm just telling you like it is.
I think you need to read more of the DJ Bible and you could also benefit from some of David DeAngelo's material (Double Your Dating...look it up on Google.)
Just based on your posts here you seem to exude insecurity and obviously have a serious case of one-itis with this girl. Your only hope to salvage anything with her is to forget about her for a few weeks and meet some other girls. Always date at least two women until the one you like the most asks to be exclusive. In my case I prefer four or five girls at a time.
Don't take offense I'm not trying to disrespect you, I'm just telling you like it is.
I think you need to read more of the DJ Bible and you could also benefit from some of David DeAngelo's material (Double Your Dating...look it up on Google.)
Just based on your posts here you seem to exude insecurity and obviously have a serious case of one-itis with this girl. Your only hope to salvage anything with her is to forget about her for a few weeks and meet some other girls. Always date at least two women until the one you like the most asks to be exclusive. In my case I prefer four or five girls at a time.
NewMan
Master Don Juan
Take the people advice.
Quit calling her.
Date other women.
Quit calling her.
Date other women.
You probably are correct about my insecurity, although I honestly doubt that I radiated it to her through my actions or speaking; pretty much most of my actions could be considered as non-pushy, non-pvssy, cool-like actions, so I am unsure as of where she could have gotten the feeling that I'm insecure.
Where I'm from it's quite unusual to be datig more than one girl at a time, and the term 'exclusive girlfiend' is for me invented by and used by Americans, also, since I live in a small city (although state capital) it is difficult not to go to those few most popular places for a date and odds are (think of smalltown) one might be seen by other 'candidates', which probably would not be a good thing.
However, I will very (very, very) seriously consider the idea.
Where I'm from it's quite unusual to be datig more than one girl at a time, and the term 'exclusive girlfiend' is for me invented by and used by Americans, also, since I live in a small city (although state capital) it is difficult not to go to those few most popular places for a date and odds are (think of smalltown) one might be seen by other 'candidates', which probably would not be a good thing.
However, I will very (very, very) seriously consider the idea.
MrCode
Senior Don Juan
Well obviously I am not aware of your cultural norms when it comes to dating and what not, but as long as you are honest with a girl that you are "getting to know" a few girls at a time, I don't see how she could get upset if she saw you with another girl. Especially a girl who is giving you the kind of attitude this girl was.
I actually joke about it a bit with the girls I see ("you are girl number six in my dating queue") and so far it hasn't caused me any problems.
Believe me, if a girl thinks you are seeing other girls and the other girls like you, it will make her feel more attracted to you.
Kitty Kats Kompete.
I actually joke about it a bit with the girls I see ("you are girl number six in my dating queue") and so far it hasn't caused me any problems.
Believe me, if a girl thinks you are seeing other girls and the other girls like you, it will make her feel more attracted to you.
Kitty Kats Kompete.
Well, I've told her our game's over.
Now I'm in a phase trying to fool myself into thinking, that someday later she would realize what she had lost... But I don't think I'll listen to myself, since I'm an idiot so I'll take MrCode's advice instead. Wish me luck.
Now I'm in a phase trying to fool myself into thinking, that someday later she would realize what she had lost... But I don't think I'll listen to myself, since I'm an idiot so I'll take MrCode's advice instead. Wish me luck.
MrCode
Senior Don Juan
Good luck! 