I'm not gonna try to write up a story behind this, so here's my tip: Have the mindset that you're in a 3rd world country where only the strong survive. The weak don't even get a chance to languish, they die of starvation or are killed. Viewing life as a competition can be motivation to be more sucessful. Fear is what holds all of us back. You're afraid to do what yo know will help. If you refuse to accept compromise, equating it with death, then you'll be more likely to take that first step and wind up somewhere better than the place you're at now.