I'll just start out by saying I am not the most experienced when it comes to creating meaningful smalltalk with women I do not know and didn't realize the skill it takes to actually get something out of it until I started trying it. Yes, I suppose I am still shy but I've improved alot over the past few years, and it doesn't freak me out to go up to women and say a couple words to her but I find myself lacking in the art of conversation, which is another area I need to work on now!
I just got a new job out of college and pretty proud of myself for being able to move up in my career. I decided I want to try and date the secretary at my work. I work at a very large company and there is a secretary at a back entrance of the building. I first saw her one day exiting a bathroom as I walked by and she smiled at me so I said "hi" A few days later I realized this was the secretary at the back door and once again she smiled and we exchanged "hi how are yous"
I've actually been avoiding her because I don't want to see her until I get some ideas on what I could say to her to create smalltalk but she would walk by my area and look at me then I would see her, she would smile and look away. This has been going on for about a week and a half. However today she once again walked by me on her way to the bathroom and looked at the exact opposite direction of me. Probably because it gets old just looking at each other. This is basically a girl I can see in the distance in a large office that I will see if I come in the back entrance or she walks by me on her way to the bathroom.
So I have been trying to figure out something I could say to her instead of "hi how are you" as I walk by her to my workstation. That just doesn't go anywhere obviously. I'm sure people on this board have plenty of ideas and I guess I'm just trying to improve my social skills.
Work with me here I'm obviously not gifted in creating small talk but I have been working on it and you should have seen me a few years ago!
I just got a new job out of college and pretty proud of myself for being able to move up in my career. I decided I want to try and date the secretary at my work. I work at a very large company and there is a secretary at a back entrance of the building. I first saw her one day exiting a bathroom as I walked by and she smiled at me so I said "hi" A few days later I realized this was the secretary at the back door and once again she smiled and we exchanged "hi how are yous"
I've actually been avoiding her because I don't want to see her until I get some ideas on what I could say to her to create smalltalk but she would walk by my area and look at me then I would see her, she would smile and look away. This has been going on for about a week and a half. However today she once again walked by me on her way to the bathroom and looked at the exact opposite direction of me. Probably because it gets old just looking at each other. This is basically a girl I can see in the distance in a large office that I will see if I come in the back entrance or she walks by me on her way to the bathroom.
So I have been trying to figure out something I could say to her instead of "hi how are you" as I walk by her to my workstation. That just doesn't go anywhere obviously. I'm sure people on this board have plenty of ideas and I guess I'm just trying to improve my social skills.
Work with me here I'm obviously not gifted in creating small talk but I have been working on it and you should have seen me a few years ago!