Aka said:
I met this girl in a pet store, she is working there. She initiated the conversations, so I became a little interested. We talked online for a while, and everytime I went there, laughing, I would bust her balls once in a while, and so on. One day she says that we should go out the next Saturday. I tell her that I will see if I have the time. The next time I go there she asks for my phone number, and asks me if I will be in a certain club that night because she will be there. I did not go, as I went somewhere else. She texts me at 2 A.M or something like that asking me if I am there, I did not answer the text because I did not see it until the morning.
One thing I notice about how this girl interacts with you is this....
She shows a LOT of interest in you.
She initiate the conversations
She asks for
your number
She suggests a time for you two to have a date
..and she sends you messages to see where you're at
Now that's cool and all....BUT,how have you shown interest in her?
You can't just sit back and RECEIVE from her,that's not a man's role. If you just sit back being passive,ESPECIALLY in the beginning of a possible relationship,she'll lose interest.
Nobody wants to do ALL THE WORK while the other person just sits there getting all the benefits.
If she just keeps pouring out and pouring out and you just sit there taking it all in,eventually,her interest is going to drop.
Other than saying "yes" when she suggests you two getting together to go do something,how do you show interest to her?
Aka said:
Saturday, when we agreed to meet, (I asked her during the week if the plan is still on) I called her at about 1 PM, and she said that we will meet but later because she is busy.
"I'm busy" is a bad sign. If she had told you that she would have to meet you later because of something SPECIFIC...i.e:she has an error to run,she's going to be getting off work late,or something like that,then cool,but just to say "I'm busy" period isn't good. That's like a default setting girls fall back on when they have nothing concrete to say.
Aka said:
I said, OK, I did not intend to meet right now anyway, so she should give me a call when she will be done, so we can talk when to meet. She did not call, but she sent me a message towards the evening that she was sorry for not calling me back. Is she playing or what?
I don't know if she's playing games or not,but the way you've been showing your interest in her will shed a LOT of light on the situation.
Your behavior towards her will help us to determine what EXACTLY is going on with her.
Have you ever complimented her? Used sexual innuendo? Romantically flirted with her? Have you done or said ANYTHING SEXUAL towards her? Because you just sitting back while she shows all the interest just ain't gonna cut it.
Aka said:
I do not understand all this interest and then she does such a thing. I do not care too much about the fact that we did not meet, but I do not like these kind of people who hide, instead of telling it like it is. What should I do the next time when I go there? Should I be indifferent, should I be funny again? should I ask her out this time?
Don't be indifferent.
Don't be cold.
Don't be withholding.
Just talk to her like you normally would. Also ask her what happened the other day. Be like,"Hey,so what happened the other day? I was hoping to have you to MYSELF for a little while,and all I got was that sorry text you sent me".
Just flat out talk to her WITHOUT BEING cold,upset,angry,or whining.
And yes,ask her out again...if you want,but this time,be like..."Well look,I've have to (do whatever) tommorrow,but on (the day after tomorrow) I should be free after 6 oclock (or whatever time),so let's hang out then."
If she goes for it,then cool,but if she pulls out another "I'm busy" on you WITHOUT suggesting another time to get together,
then you might want to consider dropping her.