moneyisking
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Sep 8, 2009
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It's been a while since I left this "game" if you will. I admit that I have dropped, for the most part, the whole DJ thing and moved on with life. I diverted to online dating, hooked up with couple girls (one ONS), but overall, I stopped really trying, stopped improving, etc. Lately though, I am feeling the strong urge to get back into it and finally conquer this challenge that I could not yet overcome, and that is confidence and knowing what to do when it comes to women.
Although I delved into this thing pretty heavily, I didn't obtained the success that would otherwise convince me to believe that "I am the prize, the great catch." I admit that I am pretty insecure guy; maybe it's because I am 5'6". maybe because I believe being Asian and stereotypes hinder my chances, maybe because only successful, confident DJs around me (my older brother was big one) were good looking guys, maybe because I failed a lot more than I actually succeeded... but what the fvck? I have been too naive. The fun comes from overcoming challenges, and where did all that go?
I have strong points: I love gym, therefore I have good physique, I make good money being 25 y/o, I have no financial struggle, I drive a car, I am moving to a new inner city location filled with college babes and bars, and the list goes on!
Last weekend I went out with a bud, and I decided to just walk up to two girls and talk to them. My heart was racing, nerves firing, but I did. Did it make me feel good about myself? Not really. I didn't get her number, I didn't take no one home, hell, maybe it even fostered the negative reinforcements about my insecurity *hate that word*, but hey, if I didn't talk to them, would anything have changed? Nope, and I glad I talked to them.
Guys, I still don't know how to talk to women. I can chat up, but then what? I still get that feeling like the mind goes blank, brain white, with nervousness and racing heart all at the same. I can't talk to them like I talk to the guys. It's easy, I just talk to guys like whatever; that's it, whatever. If they are cool, we become friends, if not fvck em. I don't plan what to say next, my mind is at ease and I don't feel nervous at all. For some odd reason, my mind doesn't seem to apply this gold principle when I am talking to a hot babe... well one thing at a time. The main thing is, I am going to get back into it, and it's going to be tough figuring it out, but god bless the internet it provides me people like you
Although I delved into this thing pretty heavily, I didn't obtained the success that would otherwise convince me to believe that "I am the prize, the great catch." I admit that I am pretty insecure guy; maybe it's because I am 5'6". maybe because I believe being Asian and stereotypes hinder my chances, maybe because only successful, confident DJs around me (my older brother was big one) were good looking guys, maybe because I failed a lot more than I actually succeeded... but what the fvck? I have been too naive. The fun comes from overcoming challenges, and where did all that go?
I have strong points: I love gym, therefore I have good physique, I make good money being 25 y/o, I have no financial struggle, I drive a car, I am moving to a new inner city location filled with college babes and bars, and the list goes on!
Last weekend I went out with a bud, and I decided to just walk up to two girls and talk to them. My heart was racing, nerves firing, but I did. Did it make me feel good about myself? Not really. I didn't get her number, I didn't take no one home, hell, maybe it even fostered the negative reinforcements about my insecurity *hate that word*, but hey, if I didn't talk to them, would anything have changed? Nope, and I glad I talked to them.
Guys, I still don't know how to talk to women. I can chat up, but then what? I still get that feeling like the mind goes blank, brain white, with nervousness and racing heart all at the same. I can't talk to them like I talk to the guys. It's easy, I just talk to guys like whatever; that's it, whatever. If they are cool, we become friends, if not fvck em. I don't plan what to say next, my mind is at ease and I don't feel nervous at all. For some odd reason, my mind doesn't seem to apply this gold principle when I am talking to a hot babe... well one thing at a time. The main thing is, I am going to get back into it, and it's going to be tough figuring it out, but god bless the internet it provides me people like you