I think what Str8up was lamenting was not so much an Ego based perspective, rather, that it is disappointing to see a potential female only to find out that not only is the female MARRIED, but she was openly FLAUNTING her BOYFRIEND outside of her marriage. No remorse, guilt whatsoever.
Str8up actually dug this chic, and she seems to be some two timing airhead with no guilt or conscience. This chick has no class or character, so ultimately, she was NOT worth Str*up's time at all.
She was married anyway.
I felt it too, it's like the bottom fell out,the last threads of hope of finding a good woman went out the window.Up is down, and wrong is actually right.
Granted, this is just an extreme view due to Str8up's overload and burnt out state, I know when I get really burnt ansd tired, man, really tired, I too tend to look at more of the negative side, I have to check myself and use Obseving Ego and get out of it quick! I HAVE to get out of that mind set.
And I too have been in Str8up's shoes as well, I know the feeling.
I've also learned to pre qualify the female and start asking about her availability as SOON as POSSIBLE, in order to avoid any later disappointment.
Look, guys, the truth is, unfortunately, when a woman does not find DEPTH, she looks for BREADTH.
She looks for that emotional, intimate connection from WHOMEVER she can GET IT FROM.
I don't want to judge this female at all, but dude, let's be real about it, and not sugar coat it.
I don't condone cheating. And I find it pretty repulsive to see it first hand, especially in a situatuion like this when the female lacks a conscience.
So I usually just call it my observation about a person, not a conclusion.
Is she bad or good?
I say , neither.
But is she someone I really want to associate myself with?
You know, I know a woman somewhat similar to her (I've known quite a few)
and to tell you the truth, I would HAVE to kow the female's motivation and background to make a proper assessment.
In that, I understand some people are STARVED for love, intimacy, and affection.
And NO ONE is a bad person for WANTING IT.
And while I do not condone that behavior, I can understand some of the extenuating circumstances. Hence, why I cannot judge a person for cheating.
If I have a problem with it, it is all on ME. It is now MY Problem. I can act mature about it, or immature and/or high and mighty moral police like.
Anyway, like I said, after going through meeting female after female, and NOT finding the true Ladies (well, honestly I DID find one recently, but that didn't seem to work out in my favor. And like many of you, many of the 'good ones" seem to be taken as well.) I can see how it can be looked as the 'last straw" so to speak to see this female flaunting her infideltiy.
It can be kind of damaging to a person who has little hope or faith in finding that special someone, and especially when one has a history of being mistreated and having known many disloyal people in one's life.
Anyway, I totally can understand how some people are not feeling like being convinced about a positive outlook, I can totally understand it.
But having said that.....
....the answer is, and always will be.Maintain the faith, keep looking, and keep faith in good intentions.
Have that discipine. Do not be 'broken' by peoople or circumstances.
Do not start 'holding back" TOO MUCH, and do not start coloring ALL your interactions with the sticky, dark substance of negativity and disappointment.
When we start buiilding WALLS as our Personal Boundary, we cannot LET IN that which we want. When we do NOT LET IN the good things, we will also slowly starvefor them. Until we look at the mirror years later and wonder what would have been.........
And when we start imbuing a negative emotional charge to these situations, they only get stronger and become more prevalent and deeper rooted.
It takes greate Emotional Strength and maturity, and a heart that is filled with Love,and especially strong in Self Love to truly give the understanding needed to get through as unscathed as posible.
So it is hard, and sometimes you have to scrape the bottom of the barrel and hit rock bottom before you go back up, but it is all a lesson.
Look at each of these situation as lessons that you can actually mine for information, and use it as knowledge to gain WISDOM, not BITTERNESS.
Interceptor mind dump off.