how to respond to this situation

[Ryan Adams]

yeah its is just hard to break that mindset you know what I mean I dont know anything else. it's hard for me to not respond to them after I dont get a response after a day or 2 after 2 months of great times and constant interaction. that's why I keep repeating the same mistakes over and over

 

[flowtheory]

yeah its is just hard to break that mindset you know what I mean I dont know anything else. it's hard for me to not respond to them after I dont get a response after a day or 2 after 2 months of great times and constant interaction. that's why I keep repeating the same mistakes over and over

Then you’re failing to recognize signs and flags which are always present. Know your value and operate from there.

 

[Visionist]

Are you still in time to change your vacation itinerary to anywhere except where she'll be going?

 

[Ryan Adams]

me and her planned this together she had the idea .. just me and her. and no it's already paid for and booked

 

[flowtheory]

me and her planned this together she had the idea .. just me and her. and no it's already paid for and booked

When is your vacation?

 

[Ryan Adams]

late may less then a month away...

 

[flowtheory]

late may less then a month away...

Just friendzone her ass. Drop this nice guy patty cake game you’re running with her. No more snugglez after bath time, kissies, etc!
Go on some new dates between then and now, slam them women and let them show interest during your vacay. Then on vacay, flirt with women. She’s not your girl, don’t treat her like she is.

 

[Visionist]

Can't you get a refund?

I lost over ten thousand this time last year, for a missed month long luxury visit to NY and surrounding areas. Cruise out on the QM2, stay booked in a five star condotel, Z06 booked for several days to explore all the way to Niagara (expensive foreign driver's permit purchased, now expired), night at the Standard for the porn star experience, Sopranos tour booked, trips planned to Great Adventure and the USS New Jersey, and on and on and on. Had to cancel last minute, lost everything, still haven't picked myself up. My life is literally a sh!tshow right now. It really, really sucks to be me these days.

Guess what. It was all preferable to going with some manipulative other who would make me hate myself for being there.

Get a refund or cancel anyway. It's only money. Use the time off work to go where the women are and start spinning plates - safe in the knowledge that your entitled cupcake is far away.

 

[flowtheory]

Can't you get a refund?

I lost over ten thousand this time last year, for a missed month long luxury visit to NY and surrounding areas. Cruise out on the QM2, stay booked in a five star condotel, Z06 booked for several days to explore all the way to Niagara (expensive foreign driver's permit purchased, now expired), night at the Standard for the porn star experience, Sopranos tour booked, trips planned to Great Adventure and the USS New Jersey, and on and on and on. Had to cancel last minute, lost everything, still haven't picked myself up. My life is literally a sh!tshow right now. It really, really sucks to be me these days.

Guess what. It was all preferable to going with some manipulative other who would make me hate myself for being there.

Get a refund or cancel anyway. It's only money. Use the time off work to go where the women are and start spinning plates - safe in the knowledge that your entitled cupcake is far away.

Damn!
I still would have gone and done it all. Would have just told the woman to take a hike and do her own thing with whoever. Zero phucks

 

[Ryan Adams]

ok so this chick told me that she has been having family issues that have been stressing her out horribly. I know for a fact her family is messed up..... so it's not like she is lying I responded a day later saying hey no need to explain that to me sometimes life happens. then asked If to keep her mind off it to go and get food tom

 

[Thatfeel21]

ok so this chick told me that she has been having family issues that have been stressing her out horribly. I know for a fact her family is messed up..... so it's not like she is lying I responded a day later saying hey no need to explain that to me sometimes life happens. then asked If to keep her mind off it to go and get food tom

None of her fam issues excuses her from being a d1ck tease, or for YOU allowing it. Let that sink in.

 

[Ryan Adams]

I canceled the vacation with her chick has her own issues she needs to work out. got 3 weeks to find a sexy woman to go with me lol

 

[Ryan Adams]

I canceled the vacation with her chick has her own issues she needs to work out. got 3 weeks to find a sexy woman to go with me lol

ok so I called the place and they got back to me and no go on the refund so yeah didnt cancel vacation. the chick does have family issues her cousin is my good friends gf and she even told me that the family is messed up. it is a legit excuse like I cant get on her for not responding because of family issues... I do like this girl and I want to pursue but I'm at a loss of what I should do at this point.

 

[Visionist]

Go on vacation, alone. You'll meet a lot of women, especially if you're in a vacation spot and other women are on holiday too.

Women on holiday are desperately DTF. A "holiday" can be a one day trip to a theme park; any single women at any leisure venue are DTF, as far as I'm concerned. There's Showaround.com for securing a date anywhere in the world. I haven't used it but the descriptions I've seen posted by girls on there ("So, who wants to have some fun?" being one I saw in NYC) paint a crystal clear picture.

You'll return chilled, happy and perhaps laid, and your frame with Ms ****tease will be a whole lot stronger.

 

[Jack Burton]

Sounds like she is in friends mode with you and your living in her frame. Not sure if you can pull yourself out of it??? She obviously knows that you want her more than a friend or cuddle buddy... but women can be OK with just cuddle buddies and sometimes they prefer that with men who will allow it, which leaves you with no sex. You may need to figure out a way to show her your sexual market value... as in being available to other women and keeping your mindset on the game instead of settling on her (the one). Maybe do some flirting with cute women on vacation, nothing disrespectful to her, but let her know that women find you attractive and you have sexual potential. She needs to feel like there is some pressure to get with you before some other woman sweeps you off your feet.

 

[flowtheory]

Go alone! Travelling alone is such a growth experience if you seize the moments! Best trips. I was just in Malaysia, Thailand, and Vietnam in November/December 2017.

 

[Ryan Adams]

the vacation is not out of the USA but a cool beach town non the less. I found out her family problems through a local police blotter and she wasnt lying. her brother got caught with a bunch of dope stolen items baggies scales etc. this happened about a day before she stopped responding to me. hes charged with a sh!tload of charges hes facing long prison time.... so she isnt lying about going through some things her and her brother where close. her other sister has a long history of drugs and her own mother has 2 or 3 dui's... heard this through her cousin who is my best friends fiance. she still hasnt got back to me since Friday. I dont want to next because I feel bad for her shes truly is a nice good hearted girl who is going through these rough issues