There's a lot of naive men posting in this thread all around...they clearly don't know what they are even talking about!!
First, pretending to be a "prize" won't get you anywhere, especially when the chick doesn't view you as a "prize"
Second, ignoring and accepting bad behavior from a chick will lead to disrespect, then you will get dumped!!
Third, ignoring the fact that his "girlfriend" is texting/talking to a guy that she fvcked when they were broken up is pretty fvcking stupid
Fourth, giving a chick an ultimatum doesn't do anything if the chick is not highly into you.....plus ultimatums are a waste of time anyway
Fifth, having "a talk" about it is a waste of time as well.....she doesn't care what you think anyway...if she wants to talk to this dude, she will, regardless of what you say
Sixth, you are being very insecure by going through her texts and facebook spying on her.....there is no need for that
Seventh, this chick is playing games with you
Eighth, staying in a relationship where the chick makes you feel insecure will always result in you being dumped
Ninth, why are you going through all of this bvllsh!t with this chick?
Tenth, broken relationships will never work out very well
Women are like cars....when they start giving you trouble...replace them with another one!!
There is absolutely no reason why you should put up with any of her bvllsh!t or let it go on!!
If you don't like how this chick is behaving.....or if you don't like how the relationship is going...that is up to you to terminate it on your own terms.....not her's
Start meeting new chicks.....she doesn't take you or this relationship very seriously.....she is just playing games with you...why do you want to hang around for that?
Relationships are mostly temporary anyway.....so after they expire, you dump them, just like curdled milk
Giving her ultimatums, ignoring the fact she is texting this dude (while you pretend to be a "prize"), or having a "talk" with her about it, is a waste of time.....she will still talk to him regardless of what you say...why?...because she wants to!!
Her behavior is making you insecure....why should you deal with any of this sh!t? it ain't worth it man....because in the end, she is going to do what she wants to do anyway!!
She isn't secretive about it because she wants you to know about him....she wants you to be insecure.....she has a plan and she knows what she is doing!!
When you bring this up to her, it will lead to a fight....she will make you out to be the "bad guy" even though she is texting a dude she was fvcking
I can tell you right now that her choice will be to keep texting this guy..... either with or without your knowledge!!
Neon Owl said:
The thing is she's told me before that while we were split up for a few months she had him stay overnight at her house and said he slept on the sofa...she says they're just mates now.
Every guy in this thread missed this part
Why the hell did you get back with her if you already split up?
Broken relationships never work out....they will fail again over time as you are finding out now
You already split up once and it's not working out again as you can see
She banged this dude when you two were split up....so now he's coming back for another round!!
Do you actually think she invited this dude to her place just to make him sleep on the couch? LOL
A couple of these posters are giving you terrible advice....this is a guy that she already fvcked....a guy that she has feelings for....and these posters want you to adopt a "prize mentality" and ignore it? LOL
You are the man....you should be in control....you should be running the relationship....if you don't like how she is behaving....dump her...simple as that!!
The more you become insecure, the more she has to use against you when she wants to dump you....are you going to stick around for that?
You don't have to play any games with her....she is just a chick who can be replaced
You should be texting and talking to other chicks anyway.....start talking to other chicks.....you already broke up once, so you can see this isn't working out too well for you
You should never accept bad behavior from a chick and ignore that it's happening.....that's what inferior and weak men do....betas are afraid of losing the chick...so they just shut up and take whatever the chick does....they allow it go on until the chick loses all respect for him....after that, she ends up dumping the guy....then like idiots, these guys try to win them back....LOL
Chicks who are looking for a way out of the relationship do this....they play games, let their boyfriend know of another guy, he becomes jealous/insecure, he becomes an AFC/beta, they get in fights, she has all this stuff to use as an excuse for the break up
Remember this.....chicks who love and respect their boyfriends don't play these sh!tty games....they only do that to the men they don't respect!!
In relationships, you should always use what I like to call "The Fear Test" to determine if a relationship is worth continuing.....The Fear Test measures if the chick is actually afraid of losing you or not....so, if the chick is not afraid of losing you, by the way she is behaving, then there is no point in being in one!!
The person who fears losing the relationship is never in control of it.....YOU are worried about losing her to this other guy....your girlfriend is holding all the cards
TheException said:
So why would I be worried about her talking to some guy? The very thought of her ever cheating on me with some ex I find truly hilarious. Its the prize mentality. Instead of thinking "man I hope she doesnt meet some guy that she can cheat on me for".....think "There is NO guy she cant meet that would be worth cheating on me for".
Frayzer said:
TheException and Pimp i feel as if were coming from the same mindset. I was coming from, and still am, the "prize mentality." Nowadays in my high school girls talk to their ex's often. I just realize how much of a loser that ex is and how she wouldnt even dare because shes in touch with a guy like me. Stuff like this doesnt phase me anymore.
This "prize mentality" is mostly a load of sh!t
There's a big difference between actually "being the prize" and "just thinking you are a prize"....that is what these naive men are trying to put out as real advice....that is just being stupid!!
When you are a prize, you already know you are a prize....you can get all the chicks you want... you don't have to settle and put up with bullsh!t from one particular chick!!
When you are a prize, your girlfriend views you as that....she doesn't want to be texting/talking/fvcking around with other men....why? because she already has "the prize" that she wants!! So, there would be no need for her to chat with other men and flaunt it in front of you....and also, she would be afraid of losing you or jeopardizing the relationship if she ever tried!!
A man who is a prize, has other women that want to fvck him all the time......his girlfriend knows that as well....she respects her man and doesn't want to lose him...that is what being a prize is all about!!
What these other guys are talking about is "thinking you are a prize".....that does not equate to being an actual prize....that type of thinking is useless and won't get you anywhere!!
You might think you can sing good.....but in reality you really can't....so what good is thinking you can sing when you really can't?...that sure as hell won't get you a recording contract by just "thinking" you can sing.
Same thing as thinking you are "a prize"...if you are not a real prize, just thinking that you are "a prize" won't work out too well for you....why?....because you are not a "prize" that women want....you can think anything you want...that doesn't mean it is actually true...this is just deluded thinking on these guys part!!
TheException said:
Doubtful he slept on the couch but so what pal? If you break up do you expect her to remain single and just "flick the bean". She did what you should have done when separated....bang other chicks.
"so what pal" you say? This chick who is supposed to be his loving girlfriend, is busy talking to a guy she was previously fvcking.....and you say "so what pal"?....it doesn't matter what she did when they were separated....it matters what she is doing now....she is still being chummy with her fvck buddy...,this shows that she has zero respect for this guy....that is wrong!!
you are condoning her sh!tty behavior and automatically jumping to her defense with all your comments....why?
These same weak minded guys are always wanting to give the chick the benefit of the doubt, even when she is in the wrong.....what the hell is wrong with you?....spoken like a true beta!!