Recently it's come to light that my gf of 14 months is still texting her ex. I don't know for sure that he is her ex because she never mentioned his name. All she told me is he is 24 and has a baby and I've looked on her facebook to check him out and sure enough the one she's texting looks about 24 and has baby pictures all over his fb.
The thing is she is not secretive about it and even shows me txts she gets from him and always leaves her phone around unlocked. This makes me think she's actually got nothing to hide but nevertheless I'm still suspicious. Until a couple days ago I thought he was a relation or a long time friend so didn't pay it any mind...then last weekend she was talking to her sister and referred to the guy she's txting as her 'mate' and 'friend' and said he was staying over at her place a while ago (before we got together)...this got me thinking her text 'mate' is actually her ex.
I'm dying to look through her phone to see exactly what they've been talking about...I took a little look the other day for a few seconds while she was out of the room and it seems he's pulling the friendship angle as his txts that I could see were totally beta and ar5e kissing. I also noticed they both put 3 x's after each txt and she only does 2 x's for me sometimes 3 rarely if she's in a really good mood or horny. I know that sounds nitpicky and all but it p1ssed me off a bit.
What should my plan of action be here?
I'm thinking of bringing it up next time I see her and if it turns out he is her ex I'm going to make it clear I'm not comfortable with her contacting him and tell her it's her choice...she can do what she likes but I won't be in a relationship with someone who has their ex as backup waiting in the wings to swoop in the moment we fall out or split up.
That's what I feel she is doing...she's quite an insecure person so she's probably afraid to let him go for fear that we'll split up and she won't have anyone to 'branch swing' to straight away.
Or should I look through the txts before I even mention this to her so I have more understanding of what's really going on? Once I've told her how I feel about this I'm sure she'll make sure any evidence is gone that may have once been there.
Fvck this is really p1ssing me off...I want to confront her about it now but I think it's best to wait until we're face to face.
The thing is she is not secretive about it and even shows me txts she gets from him and always leaves her phone around unlocked. This makes me think she's actually got nothing to hide but nevertheless I'm still suspicious. Until a couple days ago I thought he was a relation or a long time friend so didn't pay it any mind...then last weekend she was talking to her sister and referred to the guy she's txting as her 'mate' and 'friend' and said he was staying over at her place a while ago (before we got together)...this got me thinking her text 'mate' is actually her ex.
I'm dying to look through her phone to see exactly what they've been talking about...I took a little look the other day for a few seconds while she was out of the room and it seems he's pulling the friendship angle as his txts that I could see were totally beta and ar5e kissing. I also noticed they both put 3 x's after each txt and she only does 2 x's for me sometimes 3 rarely if she's in a really good mood or horny. I know that sounds nitpicky and all but it p1ssed me off a bit.
What should my plan of action be here?
I'm thinking of bringing it up next time I see her and if it turns out he is her ex I'm going to make it clear I'm not comfortable with her contacting him and tell her it's her choice...she can do what she likes but I won't be in a relationship with someone who has their ex as backup waiting in the wings to swoop in the moment we fall out or split up.
That's what I feel she is doing...she's quite an insecure person so she's probably afraid to let him go for fear that we'll split up and she won't have anyone to 'branch swing' to straight away.
Or should I look through the txts before I even mention this to her so I have more understanding of what's really going on? Once I've told her how I feel about this I'm sure she'll make sure any evidence is gone that may have once been there.
Fvck this is really p1ssing me off...I want to confront her about it now but I think it's best to wait until we're face to face.