Juan_Man said:
I have yet to see a guy give up a chance with a hot girl because a friend of his likes her.
It's rare, but sometimes there is an honor system with some guys. Of course, it depends on a few variables. I know one guy who I fully believe would at least talk to the guy if he knew the other guy was interested. And if the other guy was going to make a move, he'd wait, or go for someone else. But, like I said, that honor system is rare.
I got shot down pretty nasty by a woman, and "a friend" went for it. Normally, I wouldn't be that angry, but the situation surrounding it is pissing me off. And now things are pretty damaged because how the both of them changed (for the worse). There was no honor in how he did it, IMHO, nor was there much honor in how he changed by being around her.
Would I do that to another guy if I was a friend? I'd probably at least check to see his opinion (Maybe he suddenly sees an ugly side of her that I didn't notice... and have no interest in). I tend to be a "by the book; honor code kind of guy" so when it comes down to it, so just by the book, I probably would move on to someone else, depending on my IL in her, his, and his plans to ask her out.
I was mildly interested in a friends ex. But, I didn't know her until she dated him. I met her through him. So, him being her boyfriend, and one hell of a good friend, I don't mess with her. They broke up (don't know why) and it was harsh, apparently. Though I'd have every right to do it, I'm not messing with that. I'm not giving this friendship up for a mild interest. And if he can't deal with seeing her, then I'm going to make sure I don't make things harder by dating her, insisting she's at my side all the time, etc. I don't mess with that.
In college, I had a small crush on a woman that my buddy had too. I told him I was interested in her, but made sure he was going to try. If he wasn't going to go for it, I would. He told me he was. And I waited. He asked her out, got shot down. So I let him know I was going to go for it. (It didn't work out, but I don't have any bad feelings toward her or the guy she started dating after I got turned down, because it was done reasonably.
I feel like the "Bros before Ho's idea" can refer to other things in general.
An ex girlfriend, for example, was really insulting one of my buddies the other day. And I told her to lay off. This guy has been a pretty cool friend and I told her that she is to drop the insults. She doesn't have to like him, but she doesn't have to insult my friends when they're pretty good guys.
And I will stand up for them in those cases. Hell, I will defend HER if I think someone is being unfair to her in the same way, so it's not a perfect example of the "BBH" concept.
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