Here is a few interesting tidbits about women that explains this:
I am pretty sure that these are NOT baseless generalizations. I think that the WORST woman still is MUCH better then than the BEST man in these particular categories.
- They notice the color red much more than men do!
So, they KNOW if you are blushing, they KNOW if you are mad, and they KNOW when you are embarassed. Even if it is a very small amount that YOU would not be able to see it, they do!
- Thier periferal vision is MUCH better.
This means that they can still "look" at you when they aren't looking at you. So, when you 'twitch' ever so slightly while she looks the other way, or your eyes move from side to side just a hair more than normal...THEY KNOW!
- Thier skin is MUCH more sensitive than ours is.
Well, off topic, but pretty damn interesting! This I know is true, the worst 'skin sensing' women are still much more sensitive then the best 'skin sensing' man.
- They pay MUCH more attention to people and facial expressions then men do.
We know this, but let us take a moment to really think about it. NOW, we can pay attention to facial expressions, etc. if we want to, but women have been doing this for thier ENTIRE LIVES! Including when they were children. It is more 'natural' for them to read people.
A shrewd man can pick out a liar, but almost any woman gets a strange 'vibe' from a faker.
Women misinterpret ALL THE TIME, because thier insights come as a 'gut' feeling, or intuition. However, the PERCEPTION itself is sound. Like, she might percieve you are unconfortable, and think that you are nervous because of her, when in reality, you may be worried about your job.
These feelings, these wild perceptions forge her opinion of you. It comes mostly from body language, and body language comes mostly from....da dum da dum de dum....MINDSET!
If you are not smiling, then she is getting a 'bad' vibe off of you that she has to explain somehow. Confidence may be the way she chooses to describe the 'strange' feeling.
I have noticed that when I am not happy, feeling stretched out, etc. that I get stranger reactions from girls then when I am in good moods.
But basically, there is a WHOLE OTHER WORLD that women percieve. Reds, and body language, people, feelings, huge fields of vision, etc. All the tools that WE have to act are mirrored in THIER tools to react.
However, all those tools that they have, don't make thier conclusions any better!
Anyway, regardless of if her opinion is right or wrong, the important thing is that she thinks it. That has to be changed. It is stupid to say "well, that is just the way I am, and I am not changing for a woman!" Body language is given off toward everyone, and it may come back to bite you in the ass during a meeting/business interview or something.
Women are GREAT to work out all your social 'kinks' around! As long as you don't act all girly girly with them, and act like you act towards anybody else, they will let you know (by body language) where and when you act 'weird', and you can adjust accordingly.