How can I get men to respect me?

[Accension]

Honestly, women are easy to handle.

I'm currently in a relationship and now realize that my biggest problem is getting dominant guys to respect me.
Of course I have a close circle of guy friends, but I'm not exactly as respected as I feel I deserve.
It's kind of like the more dominant the guy is, the harder it is for me to get their respect.

Maybe it's my tall height and light weight or my overly friendly nature, but I really need to get this sorted.
Yes, basically I'm asking a seduction forum how to get men - as friends of course.

 

[GetOveIT]

Why do you want respect from someone that dont respect you dude?

Ps - also just a litle gay....

 

[Accension]

Why do you want respect from someone that dont respect you dude?

Ps - also just a litle gay....

Yeah, was expecting the ps having asked on another forum.
I'd just like to be respected by males as well as women.

For example, if some one cracks a joke at my expense.
How should I react to that.

 

[GetOveIT]

Yeah, was expecting the ps having asked on another forum.
I'd just like to be respected by males as well as women.

For example, if some one cracks a joke at my expense.
How should I react to that.

It depends if youre friends then laught or do the same if no, your fist against the joker face comes to mind....

 

[SteR]

Honestly, lift weights. Nobody will disrespect a guy that's physically imposing..

 

[runner83]

Honestly, lift weights. Nobody will disrespect a guy that's physically imposing..

Nailed it.

Answer this question: "if some guy smaller and weaker than you came up and told you what to do, would you?"

Of course f*ckin' not!

Dominance has 2 physical aspects: height and muscle.

Height you can't do anything about.

Muscle you can. Get started in the "Health and Fitness" forum and go from there.

 

[Groovy]

Honestly, lift weights. Nobody will disrespect a guy that's physically imposing..

Yeah but it doesn't mean they'll have respect for him. They're just... afraid? And even so, it still happens! I see smaller guys making fun out of taller guys all the time! (But that's kinda different in high school maybe).


For me the key is how you handle yourself, and if you have confidence in yourself. If you can stand up for yourself when needed, and not cracking under pressure, to have control over yourself.

 

[kingsam]

socail circle game...

http://www.theattractionforums.com/social-circle-game/

be prepared for lots of resistance to your position in the group changing

also make more friends

 

[Scion]

lift weights, get jacked, learn to fight.

 

[Commandante]

How To Win Friends and Influence People

Or if you live in the jungle like the other apes on this forum do

Honestly, lift weights. Nobody will disrespect a guy that's physically imposing..

then lift weights, learn fighting, wear a loaded handgun under your jacket, tattoo tears under your eyes. OMFG

 

[Accension]

Guys, my metabolism is so fast I simply can't bulk.
Believe me, I've tried every obscure diet and excercise combination in existence.
I even saw several doctors, including 2 specialists. The general consensus is to wait until I'm 25 - 30 when my metabolism slows down (even then).
With this being said, I can't fight either.
I actually have bone defects, which leave me frail as an old lady.

Respect will not come to me from physique or fighting ability.
However, thank you all for the suggestions so far.
It's pretty obvious that I appreciate all the help I can get. I actually believe some of you are sitting on the answer, so by all means, speak up!

 

[Drum&Bass]

so your saying you can't work out ??? Your telling me you lift weights everyday with the specific goal of being able to lift heavier and heavier ??

I have a friend who was diagnosed with muscular dystrophy...She ignored what the doctors said and became one of the fittest (and most attractive) woman I know. She also competes in marathons and Triathlons.

Im not saying you haven't tried...Im just saying you should spend your time trying to achieve a

225 bench
315 squat
and 405 deadlift

with the ability to do 15 pull ups.

Come back in a year or 2 after specifically focusing on those goals and lets see if those excuses still hold true. By the way..how old are you ??

Respect will not come to me from physique or fighting ability.

Well unless you plan on doing stuff that chicks do for us guys im not sure what kind of answer your expecting. You can become really successful and wealthy and treat people with kindness or you can play a fatherly figure role which commands respect but I don't know if you have that kinda mindset.

For the most part you can't change nature...Only the STRONG survive son !!! theres a reason that saying is timeless.

 

[Accension]

so your saying you can't work out ??? Your telling me you lift weights everyday with the specific goal of being able to lift heavier and heavier ??

I have a friend who was diagnosed with muscular dystrophy...She ignored what the doctors said and became one of the fittest women I know. She also competes in marathons and Triathlons.

Im not saying you haven't tried...Im just saying you should spend your time trying to achieve a

225 bench
315 squat
and 405 deadlift

with the ability to do 15 pull ups.

Come back in a year or 2 after specifically focusing on those goals and lets see if those excuses still hold true. By the way..how old are you ??

Well unless you plan on doing stuff chicks do for guys im not sure what kind of answer your expecting. You can become really successful and wealthy and treat people with kindness but for the most part you can't change nature...Only the STRONG survive son !!! theres a reason that saying is timeless.

I know what you're saying and I appreciate it, but this mindset implies there's hope.
Strenuous physical activity leaves me not sore, but damaged. If I sprain my ankle, that's a year of pain right there. I'm actually quite young, but 'have the bones of a 60 year old and the joints of a man in his early 40s'.

I want to believe, that I too, can overcome nature's curse, but not everyone can be a Lance Armstrong.
Most people just die.

That's just the way it is. Every time I try improve my physique, I'm riddled with damage and let's face it, I'm not going to achieve a respectable physique unless I take up swimming in my late 20s.

Even if people can smash me to bits, surely acknowledging this fact and still not fearing it while holding my own - that's probably what I'm looking at here.
Accepting it and standing tall in the face of my short comings.
That disabled speaker comes to mind - you probably know the one.

 

[Drum&Bass]

To gain respect without being physically strong:

- Learn How to make people feel important.

- Learn How to easily walk away from ANY situation or say No to ANYONE that makes you feel weird, uncomfortable or intimidated.

- Every time you speak to someone the first thing on your mind should be, what can i do to make this person feel good or How can I help/fix a problem they may have.

- Learn HOW NOT TO EVER GET TAKEN ADVANTAGE OF (since a majority of your interactions will involve DOING and GIVING selflessly) !!

- Use your weakness and turn it into a strength !! Enlighten people every chance you get and let them know you have issues with your body that prevents you from doing physically stressful things, but you are still strong and your not a push over or someone that doesnt stop fighting

 

[CarlitosWay]

I know what you're saying and I appreciate it, but this mindset implies there's hope.
Strenuous physical activity leaves me not sore, but damaged. If I sprain my ankle, that's a year of pain right there. I'm actually quite young, but 'have the bones of a 60 year old and the joints of a man in his early 40s'.

I want to believe, that I too, can overcome nature's curse, but not everyone can be a Lance Armstrong.
Most people just die.

That's just the way it is. Every time I try improve my physique, I'm riddled with damage and let's face it, I'm not going to achieve a respectable physique unless I take up swimming in my late 20s.

Even if people can smash me to bits, surely acknowledging this fact and still not fearing it while holding my own - that's probably what I'm looking at here.
Accepting it and standing tall in the face of my short comings.
That disabled speaker comes to mind - you probably know the one.

Yeah let's ignore the fact there's people out there in wheel chairs who still train with weights daily, or the war veteran who got half his arm blown off who trains seriously. I know a guy who overcame cancer, had horrible testosterone levels and has now over years with test therapy,serious training built himself up to a physique many men only dream of.....

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=obdd31Q9PqA

 

[Pathgen]

Take up a martial art. I did weight training, but nothing toughened me up or really gave me a dominant mindset as karate did. You have a lot of time practicing the moves and often you do kihon(basics). The fighting part is all controlled and ive seen skinny dudes in there that get by. Hell i think ive seen people in there 50's or 60's in my class.

Martial Arts are about improving your character and mindset, not about learning how to fight so you can kick people's asses. It gives you a very different perspective on exercise than weight training does and i believe it made me much more imposing than i would have been because it developed my shoulder muscles and made me more fluid. I have more control over my movements and my body in general because of the focus needed to move your body in the same way every time.

Not to mention you learn how to fight and that will boost your confidence even if the art teaches you not to fight without a true purpose.

 

[iliketennis]

I know what you're saying and I appreciate it, but this mindset implies there's hope.
Strenuous physical activity leaves me not sore, but damaged. If I sprain my ankle, that's a year of pain right there. I'm actually quite young, but 'have the bones of a 60 year old and the joints of a man in his early 40s'.

oh man. you sound like a huge *****. no wonder no guys will respect you.

do you cry when you stub your toe too?

here's a tip: stop being such a *****. you won't sprain your ankle lifting weights you lazy ass.

 

[JdelaSilviera]

Of course it is important to have other guys respecting you, only a moron couldn´t see that. Yes, your physical attributes are important BUT I see smaller guys making fun of much bigger guys, why? Because brains are the best way to make people respect you. Read, don´t be ignorant, and be articulate and confident in what you say.
Also achievment is important. A club security won´t be as respected as a doctor or lawyer.

If other guys think you are cool, girls will think that too, remember that very few women think for themselves.

 

[FairShake]

Learn to say no.

Learn to respect everyone until they give you a reason not to.

Learn to be ok with cutting people off and ignoring them if respect isn't given.

All this fighting/bulking up advice is kinda juvenile. Adults tend to be past "jokes at their expense."

Possibly the best advice I can give is have an incredibly busy and successful life. Work hard, play hard, and enjoy your family and friends. Even if they are nerdy friends (the best kind in my opinion). Then the little slights by alpha douches don't really matter.

 

[Warrior74]

Honestly, women are easy to handle.

I'm currently in a relationship and now realize that my biggest problem is getting dominant guys to respect me.
Of course I have a close circle of guy friends, but I'm not exactly as respected as I feel I deserve.
It's kind of like the more dominant the guy is, the harder it is for me to get their respect.

Maybe it's my tall height and light weight or my overly friendly nature, but I really need to get this sorted.
Yes, basically I'm asking a seduction forum how to get men - as friends of course.

Let's talk about this overly friendly nature of yours. How does that play out? If some guy I just meet is trying to be all buddy buddy with me out of no where it's going to seem weird and creepy. Like why is this guy all up my ass and I don't even know him. I would test him by saying some slick insults to see how he reacts. How he reacts determines how I treat him from there on out, but I already think he's a sucker from the beginning with that over friendly crap. If he gets angry and wants to fight...he has no emotional control and is a wack job. If he smiles and keeps sucking up to me, he's a complete pvssy and deserves none of my attention or respect.

You see how being overfriendly can screw you up with people? It's the equivalent of two dogs meeting and one just lying down and baring his throat (showing submission) from the very first second. Who can respect that? It's weakness pure and simple.

THe key is not to be weak, nor to try to project as strong (getting ripped, wanting to fight) but to project as equal. Friends are people in the same range, some might be higher or lower...but they tend to look at each other as equals relatively speaking.

Now that you have shown that you are weak in your pack. How can you get respect? Personally I would say....take a break from your social group for a while. If asked them them you've been really busy...(and be busy). I agree with hitting the gym even if you do have a fast metabolism. It's good for your confidence. When you come back to the group. Say less, but enjoy yourself more. If someone insults you, look em in the eye and say "not cool man" Then change the subject and be fun. Don't let it rattle your cage, be above it.

Respect is earned..you know how? First you give the person the basic decent respect you give strangers. But you do not tolerate disrespect. Showing that you can give basic respect and not tolerate disrespect = earning respect.