Bible_Belt said:
Martial arts will help you with your confidence. I second that advice.
But beyond that, you have to adopt the mindset of, as they say in the white trash ghetto, "I don't give no fvck." That is how to get people to respect you - not caring what they think.
I did martial arts for a few years.
Any confidence it can give you, automatically goes to **** when someone half your size kicks your a
ss.
I'm not saying it didn't help me in general, but looking back, man what a waste of time. Nothing physical can help.
However, the 'yeah, what ever' mindset might be just what I need.
I'm just trying to get everyone to understand that this thread is the result of years of lost time trying to work on physique and combat arts. I have an extensive history of extreme sports and every injury imaginable.
I used to act with a reckless disregard for my condition, but fast forward a few years and it's left me crippled with joints that crack, bones that groan and a lower back that surges with never ending pain.
However, physique and combat ability aren't the only defining aspects of a respectable man.
I'm confident, intelligent and a pleasure to talk to. I just need to work on not supplicating to dominant males just because it's the easy, safe thing to do.
When it comes to socialising, I haven't really been true to myself except with my values surrounding women. However, that hasn't been important to me in a long time. This is the part in the journey where one realises friends, family and respecting your own values are what makes a man.
This really is an exciting time for me.
Any one that knows me around here knows that I've been writing some pretty stupid and pretty good ideas too.
My whole identity has changed more than I care to admit.
Friends keep giving me the 'you've changed/ there's something new about you' speech more and more.