The LadyKiller
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I know guys usually initiate things with girls, but is there a problem if a girl (or girls) never initiate things with you - even girls you don't "like?" By this, I mean just starting a conversation in person/phone/text/online. While a girl suggesting a chance to meet up, even very casual, feels good, I am more curious about a girl just opening the lines of communication.
Maybe it's only a little frustration, but I have noticed that I really never end up talking to girls UNLESS I initiate it. And this is at every day places like work and (formerly) at school, not pickup hotspots like bars and clubs. It would be a sweet test if I just went to work one day and just said nothing to the girls I know just to see if any initiate a conversation. Unfortunately, I can't do that or I'd get in trouble with my bosses. But maybe worth a try sometime.
This trend has been bothering me for some time and I've never found a source to it all. I am physically fit, outgoing/personable/respectful, I dress well, good hygene...but girls just do not initiate anything outside of a quick hi and run. My friends do not have this issue and some girls do invite them places, making the entire thing seem very easily and natural (even when I know my friends have no game!). Fwiw, this issue does not exist between me and other guys I know, as I get along with most of them.
This is not a "all girls - even ones I'm not attracted to - despise/ignore me for some reason" thread (too extreme)...but their inability to initiate literally anything doesn't help :-/
Maybe it's only a little frustration, but I have noticed that I really never end up talking to girls UNLESS I initiate it. And this is at every day places like work and (formerly) at school, not pickup hotspots like bars and clubs. It would be a sweet test if I just went to work one day and just said nothing to the girls I know just to see if any initiate a conversation. Unfortunately, I can't do that or I'd get in trouble with my bosses. But maybe worth a try sometime.
This trend has been bothering me for some time and I've never found a source to it all. I am physically fit, outgoing/personable/respectful, I dress well, good hygene...but girls just do not initiate anything outside of a quick hi and run. My friends do not have this issue and some girls do invite them places, making the entire thing seem very easily and natural (even when I know my friends have no game!). Fwiw, this issue does not exist between me and other guys I know, as I get along with most of them.
This is not a "all girls - even ones I'm not attracted to - despise/ignore me for some reason" thread (too extreme)...but their inability to initiate literally anything doesn't help :-/