foomee said:
So my girlfriend got a new job a few weeks ago, and I guess now they have this weekly thing called "humpday" or something where they all get together and get drunk. I told my girlfriend I don't want her drinking with them because she'd have to drive home afterwards. Then she says, "if I find a ride can I?" and I tell her yeah. So she says this guy Steve can drive her because he's the only co-worker that lives nearby. I told her I don't want him driving her, only if it's a girl. Cos I'm cautious of guys and drunk girls, ya know, etc. And it upsets her. Am I going about this right? What other reasons should I tell her not to drink with them? I really don't want her drinking with these people, but she insists that she'll feel out of place, etc.
nothing you can really do.
Trust me on this, if you mona about it or try to control her, jealousy issues suface and you only push her away more.
What i would do is try a completely different approach, let her go out on these nights out, when she is out you go out with your mates and pick up some girls sounds a bit harsh, in the sense that you dont want to cheat.
But lets face it here, your in a no win situation, this steve guy could be her next target, women use smoke screens alot, who knows who this guy is, or what the night out means.
Drinking after work with buddies is not a majour problem, but these are not real mates they are ppl she has just met and getting drunk with.
A responsible girl would not get drunk with work mates, maybe a pint for an hour or so but an all night session, seems very odd to me.
I dont like it, it compramises the comfort zone, how would she feel if you was going out with the mates fromwork to all hours and getting a lift home after with lucy who you just met? Would you even do that?
I say let her go, there is nothing you can say or do other then going out and doing your own thing, at least this way she may realize she as to try a little harder to please you, or you going else where. If she was 100% into you she would not do this unless she was a serial flirt and had LSE and loved the male attention.
you may read this and get jealous if you do this is the wrong way about it, even confronting her about it was very very wrong, you gave her ammunition and believe me she will use it against you.
I would say get a few more plates and get some more girls this one is borderline comfort zone stepping over.
1 or 2 drinks after work once a week should not concern you tbh though, if it does you need to build on your self esteem and not worry so much about a girl.