Last month, I went on a date with a HB 7.5 from a class we share. I did a solid job building attraction before the date and felt good about the date itself, but we never went on a second date. I was getting very wishy-washy reactions from her, so I decided to move on. It wasn't a big deal for me, I wasn't crazy about her; we had very little in common. Sharing a class and (of course) having to sit next to her, I couldn't put up the proverbial iron curtain. I play nice for the sake of keeping things normal, but I don't put much effort into the interaction.
Today, my friend wants to take her out to a quick food stop after our class. He knows I don't have a class afterwards, so I was urged into going as well by both of them. My friend is in an LTR and would never cheat, but likes befriending girls for whatever reason (he has several girl friends). However, he is a bit dense and thinks I'm still interested in this girl even though I have clearly stated otherwise countless times, and I act uninterested around her.
So we're eating and talking, and my friend is an extremely straight-shooter. Asks her who she's dating these days. She told us she has been on two dates with a guy from a nearby school. (He goes to one of the top schools in the country, is focusing on a doctorate, and is four years older than us). That's fine...until we caught the description she gave us of him:
-"Nice guy"
-Socially awkward
-"He's sweet"
-Shy
-"Nice guy" (repeated because she said this many times)
-Could be boring at times.
Perhaps it's just me, but she's casually dating an AFC. I'm not at the DJ level yet, but I'm definitely no AFC. My friend felt the same way about this girl's new guy, and wanted to know what makes him so "nice." She said he calls her if he's going to be late. The thing is, most guys do this! It's not unique! Naturally, my friend and I are having a fun time picking away at her for this. We were then surprised to find out she has never been in a relationship (and trust me, she doesn't "get around" either). While I have been on a handful of dates but never been in a real LTR, she might have less dating experience than I do!
While I am not interested in her anymore, I am puzzled at how I couldn't get a second date with a girl with seemingly low standards. It's not what you would call a boost of confidence. It seems she doesn't have much experience (so me being somewhat not experienced either is not a problem...though she doesn't know that). She is casually dating a guy because he is "nice" and "sweet." While I'm a little closer to being more nice than being more of a jerk on the spectrum (I'm closer to the middle), this guy might be the extreme nice guy. He is what this forum scorns against!! At least I feel I have some game, make myself a little bit of challenge and have very good wit/sense of humor.
The scariest part? This wasn't an April Fool's joke.
Today, my friend wants to take her out to a quick food stop after our class. He knows I don't have a class afterwards, so I was urged into going as well by both of them. My friend is in an LTR and would never cheat, but likes befriending girls for whatever reason (he has several girl friends). However, he is a bit dense and thinks I'm still interested in this girl even though I have clearly stated otherwise countless times, and I act uninterested around her.
So we're eating and talking, and my friend is an extremely straight-shooter. Asks her who she's dating these days. She told us she has been on two dates with a guy from a nearby school. (He goes to one of the top schools in the country, is focusing on a doctorate, and is four years older than us). That's fine...until we caught the description she gave us of him:
-"Nice guy"
-Socially awkward
-"He's sweet"
-Shy
-"Nice guy" (repeated because she said this many times)
-Could be boring at times.
Perhaps it's just me, but she's casually dating an AFC. I'm not at the DJ level yet, but I'm definitely no AFC. My friend felt the same way about this girl's new guy, and wanted to know what makes him so "nice." She said he calls her if he's going to be late. The thing is, most guys do this! It's not unique! Naturally, my friend and I are having a fun time picking away at her for this. We were then surprised to find out she has never been in a relationship (and trust me, she doesn't "get around" either). While I have been on a handful of dates but never been in a real LTR, she might have less dating experience than I do!
While I am not interested in her anymore, I am puzzled at how I couldn't get a second date with a girl with seemingly low standards. It's not what you would call a boost of confidence. It seems she doesn't have much experience (so me being somewhat not experienced either is not a problem...though she doesn't know that). She is casually dating a guy because he is "nice" and "sweet." While I'm a little closer to being more nice than being more of a jerk on the spectrum (I'm closer to the middle), this guy might be the extreme nice guy. He is what this forum scorns against!! At least I feel I have some game, make myself a little bit of challenge and have very good wit/sense of humor.
The scariest part? This wasn't an April Fool's joke.