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Master Don Juan
I would rather pick up a hot babe when I'm 100 pounds overweight, than with a six-pack.
I would rather pick up a super model when I'm 100 pounds overweight than with a six-pack.
Why?
In the second case, I can never know if the girl is just using me for my body. Of course if I'm horny, I don't care. But on the other hand, I would rather pick up the same hot babe with my personality.
If I pick up a hot girl when I am not looking my best, I take that as an enormous compliment.
Dating is supposed to make me feel good about who I am.
I can never be sure that I won't be attacked by a wild coyote. All the ladies that like me for my pretty face would leave. What if I am disabled by diabetes and a heart condition and I lose my six-pack. I don't want a girl that will leave.
I want a girl who likes who I am underneath the skin.
A six-pack is like honey for the honeys
I used to think that I needed to perfect my body to get women. I promised myself that I would "attract them with my body and keep them with my soul." But deep down, fitness for me was always motivated by a feeling of inadequacy. I felt like my only hope of being desirable was looking good. That was because I felt like a boring person.
So I went to the gym every day, I got in fabulous physical shape. I was never a hulk with an 8-pack, but I was in the best shape of my life.
But then I met women, and I always wondered... is she into me because of my looks?
Rather than helping me feel better about myself, fitness just gave me more questions.
So *what* if I looked better? I was proud of myself for my discipline, for my good health, don't get me wrong. But I didn't feel like a more attractive person for being in great physical shape. In fact, I was more suspicious than ever when a girl liked me. I felt like, "it must be because of my body."
I don't like that feeling.
So why not eat like a sumo wrestler?
I eat and exercise what my body tells me to do. And yes, by Olympian standards, this is a slothful regimen. But then again, I'm not an Olympian. If I want that extra slice of pizza, I will eat it. If I pick up a girl then, it must be because I have a great personality.
For the record, I love to eat healthy. It just feels better. I eat and exercise at the command of my body. I hate exercise to impress women.
I don't date women based on their personalities! I don't care how charming twinkie girl is, I still wouldn't sleep with her
Yeah, I'm worried about being friend-zoned as well. I don't want to turn into a big bertha myself. I'm not one, I'm just slightly plump.
So long as I do as my body tells me - exercise when I want to be active and eat when I'm hungry - I know my body won't let me become a sumo wrestler. Because my body knows how to eat to be healthy. But...
I need to be a 10 to get the 10
Yeah, I'm afraid a 10 won't find me sexy either. But my feeling is that my insecurity makes me unsexy, not my physical appearance. It's only when I'm embarrassed about my appearance that other people don't feel attracted to me.
Once I work through the issues, the insecurity, the embarrassment, the shame, I find that I am attractive enough for anyone. The "10"s are as insecure as I am, if not more.
Besides, if a 10 is only interested in me for my body, she can be a 15 for all I care. The answer is no. Ok maybe just once. Then no.
I already do work out for me
I deceived myself for a number of years that I had learned piano "for me." In reality, I saw piano as a fishing line to reel in compliments. I used to exercise "for baseball" but really to get women. And why did I exercise? Because I felt my personality was inadequate to attract women. But good looks just mask the problem further.
Remember how boring many attractive girls are? Exactly. Fvck fitness. I focus on having such a magnetic personality that people are attracted to me by feel and not by their eyes.
Remember, any supermodel can have self-confidence. It is expected. When a guy who definitely doesn't look great has a lot of self-confidence, that turns my head, I am impressed. In my opinion, a lot of great, gorgeous girls are attracted to a guy like that.
But if you'd told me that girls can dig plump guys years ago, when I had a boring personality, I would have said 'no way.'
Would I date an ugly girl with a great personality?
Tough question. Right now, I don't think I would. I'm too convinced that I'm not good enough to date attractive women. Which is why it's my goal to find gorgeous women and date them.
Ever hear this old riddle: if you met a girl who you thought was a perfect ten in terms of looks and personality, but everyone thought she was a skanky, fat, ugly girl with stank breath, would you date her?
Right now, I'd say 'no.' I know I shouldn't care what other people think. But for now, I care what other people think. Unfortunately, I'm so insecure that I want a trophy girlfriend.
But someday, when I have gotten over this, I would sleep with any girl I felt attracted to. If my emotions say I should do it, I will.
I just keep one principle in mind: the more out of shape I am, the bigger the compliment is to my personality when a hot girl likes me.
I'm not saying I shouldn't work out or that I should get fat on purpose. I want to eat well for me, so I do. It is just a coincidence that this helps me get women. If I were fat, I would still feel worthy of Carmen Elektra. But since I like to eat well, the girl has to deal with that, and love me for my body as it is.
I just hate the notion of working out to impress women. The hardest, saddest thing for me about working out to get women...
... is when it works.
Izza
I would rather pick up a super model when I'm 100 pounds overweight than with a six-pack.
Why?
In the second case, I can never know if the girl is just using me for my body. Of course if I'm horny, I don't care. But on the other hand, I would rather pick up the same hot babe with my personality.
If I pick up a hot girl when I am not looking my best, I take that as an enormous compliment.
Dating is supposed to make me feel good about who I am.
I can never be sure that I won't be attacked by a wild coyote. All the ladies that like me for my pretty face would leave. What if I am disabled by diabetes and a heart condition and I lose my six-pack. I don't want a girl that will leave.
I want a girl who likes who I am underneath the skin.
A six-pack is like honey for the honeys
I used to think that I needed to perfect my body to get women. I promised myself that I would "attract them with my body and keep them with my soul." But deep down, fitness for me was always motivated by a feeling of inadequacy. I felt like my only hope of being desirable was looking good. That was because I felt like a boring person.
So I went to the gym every day, I got in fabulous physical shape. I was never a hulk with an 8-pack, but I was in the best shape of my life.
But then I met women, and I always wondered... is she into me because of my looks?
Rather than helping me feel better about myself, fitness just gave me more questions.
So *what* if I looked better? I was proud of myself for my discipline, for my good health, don't get me wrong. But I didn't feel like a more attractive person for being in great physical shape. In fact, I was more suspicious than ever when a girl liked me. I felt like, "it must be because of my body."
I don't like that feeling.
So why not eat like a sumo wrestler?
I eat and exercise what my body tells me to do. And yes, by Olympian standards, this is a slothful regimen. But then again, I'm not an Olympian. If I want that extra slice of pizza, I will eat it. If I pick up a girl then, it must be because I have a great personality.
For the record, I love to eat healthy. It just feels better. I eat and exercise at the command of my body. I hate exercise to impress women.
I don't date women based on their personalities! I don't care how charming twinkie girl is, I still wouldn't sleep with her
Yeah, I'm worried about being friend-zoned as well. I don't want to turn into a big bertha myself. I'm not one, I'm just slightly plump.
So long as I do as my body tells me - exercise when I want to be active and eat when I'm hungry - I know my body won't let me become a sumo wrestler. Because my body knows how to eat to be healthy. But...
I need to be a 10 to get the 10
Yeah, I'm afraid a 10 won't find me sexy either. But my feeling is that my insecurity makes me unsexy, not my physical appearance. It's only when I'm embarrassed about my appearance that other people don't feel attracted to me.
Once I work through the issues, the insecurity, the embarrassment, the shame, I find that I am attractive enough for anyone. The "10"s are as insecure as I am, if not more.
Besides, if a 10 is only interested in me for my body, she can be a 15 for all I care. The answer is no. Ok maybe just once. Then no.
I already do work out for me
I deceived myself for a number of years that I had learned piano "for me." In reality, I saw piano as a fishing line to reel in compliments. I used to exercise "for baseball" but really to get women. And why did I exercise? Because I felt my personality was inadequate to attract women. But good looks just mask the problem further.
Remember how boring many attractive girls are? Exactly. Fvck fitness. I focus on having such a magnetic personality that people are attracted to me by feel and not by their eyes.
Remember, any supermodel can have self-confidence. It is expected. When a guy who definitely doesn't look great has a lot of self-confidence, that turns my head, I am impressed. In my opinion, a lot of great, gorgeous girls are attracted to a guy like that.
But if you'd told me that girls can dig plump guys years ago, when I had a boring personality, I would have said 'no way.'
Would I date an ugly girl with a great personality?
Tough question. Right now, I don't think I would. I'm too convinced that I'm not good enough to date attractive women. Which is why it's my goal to find gorgeous women and date them.
Ever hear this old riddle: if you met a girl who you thought was a perfect ten in terms of looks and personality, but everyone thought she was a skanky, fat, ugly girl with stank breath, would you date her?
Right now, I'd say 'no.' I know I shouldn't care what other people think. But for now, I care what other people think. Unfortunately, I'm so insecure that I want a trophy girlfriend.
But someday, when I have gotten over this, I would sleep with any girl I felt attracted to. If my emotions say I should do it, I will.
I just keep one principle in mind: the more out of shape I am, the bigger the compliment is to my personality when a hot girl likes me.
I'm not saying I shouldn't work out or that I should get fat on purpose. I want to eat well for me, so I do. It is just a coincidence that this helps me get women. If I were fat, I would still feel worthy of Carmen Elektra. But since I like to eat well, the girl has to deal with that, and love me for my body as it is.
I just hate the notion of working out to impress women. The hardest, saddest thing for me about working out to get women...
... is when it works.
Izza